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3rd baby after a gap

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Sassylou · 01/05/2007 15:41

Hi all
Have wanted baby no3 for over a year now. DH has just shocked me by agreeing we can TTC in the new year .
Currently have DD1 (6) and DD2 (4.5). As had them close togther didn't think about t at the time and just got on with it.
Obviously this time there will be a bit of a gap and I am worried that I have forgotten the negatives of new baby world!!! Am I mad wanting no3 now DD1 and DD2 are at school, I am at work etc. Will it be like starting from scratch? Will it be different from having DD1 & DD2 together? Anyone been through anythng similar????

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Sassylou · 01/05/2007 15:58

Poss that's what I'm worried about.

Hopefully it will be like riding a bike!!!!!!

FioFio, when are you due?

Am also conscious of what other people might say, partic MIL. Am sure am going to get the greedy script, "you've already got a lovely family" etc etc etc. Have anyone had any of that????

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Katsh · 01/05/2007 16:04

I'm there too - due Oct with dds who will be nearly 8 and 6. Lots of reasons why it didn't happen sooner. During ttc phase had some days where I thought we were crazy for trying, but in the end I just knew that if we didn't try I'd really regret it. Everyone now is very excited for us and I'm looking forward to adding another member to the family. I'm sure there will be the tough times ( like the 1st year )and I hope the age gap is ok, but every family is different and all kinds of age gaps / genders bring different benefits. Hope all goes well.

Jelley · 01/05/2007 16:05

I have dds with a 15 month gap, then ds 5 1/2 years later.

It is a bit like starting from scratch, but you have the experience and confidence to enjoy it more (or I did) plus only having one baby after the first two close together actually makes it feel easier in alot of ways.

I get asked if he was an accident (NO) and congraatulated alot for having produced a boy this time (Not why we chose to have a third child) but they are small irritations.

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Sassylou · 01/05/2007 16:08

Is being pregnant after a gap/third time different or am I just making more of it cos I've actually got time to think about it this time??

DD1 was not planned and whilst DD2 was planned, DD1 meant I didn't have much time to ponder it. Think maybe I have too much time for navel gazing this time!!!!!!!

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Sassylou · 01/05/2007 16:25

I will (hopefully) be 33 and with a full-time (plus a bit) job!!! I may have to learn to put my feet up a bit more.

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hannahsaunt · 01/05/2007 16:36

I am 33 with a ds who will be just 7 and another who will be 4.75 when this one is due! Hoping that it will be like falling off a log...in fact, if it's like now it will be stuck in a corner and allowed to get on with it's own thing most of the time! Can't believe I'm half way through already - too busy to remember that I'm pg. Fingers crossed that it will all be fine.

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Sassylou · 01/05/2007 16:58

Am relieved - you all seem to be of a similar mindset!

Would be interested to know whether it was easier to get pregnant third time round. I had no probs with DD1 and DD2 but obviously both me and DH a bit older now! Also have been on pill since DD2 so nearly 5 years. Not sure if that will impact?

Have long haul holiday planned for Dec so don't want it to happen before then (also trying to clear credit cards! Was thinking about coming off pill in Nov(ish) to give time to clear it out of my system. Any thoughts?

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chillgirl · 01/05/2007 21:13

Hi
I have DS 6 and DD 3 and now want to try for the next one. I am a bit worried as I am 34 now but DH is 45. I worry that DH is getting on a bit, will find it very tiring having a 3rd and that he will kark it before little one is an adult. Am I just being morbid? Plus I just feel like we are getting our lives back now DD has got to 3. still want to try for another one though. Am I mad?

NotanOtter · 01/05/2007 21:15

its fab
do it
have a 6.5 year gap between dc3 and 4
now have dc5 love it!

houseofchaos · 03/05/2007 21:57

I have an almost 7 and almost 5 year old and would love another one, but at 38 think I am getting on a bit! Would I cope?

princessmel · 07/05/2007 10:49

We're actually planning on trying for no3 when dd and ds are both at nursery/school. They'll be 5.5 and 3 when we try. So another year (hopefully) older than that when he/she's born.
I want the age gap. I couldn't have another one now. Weddings coming up etc. I'm bridesmaid twice. And they wouldn't be able to share a room till then. Well I wouldn't want them to.
By then they will both be at school or nursery and I'll have all day to be with the new baby. Plus thats when my sister wants to try for her 1st.
Congrats all of you already pg with no 3.

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