TTC after Abortion

[CherryBliss]

Hi everyone,

This is my first post and I’m nervously unsure of who to talk to so MN seems to be the answer. I feel awful posting as I am reading so many women struggling to conceive and I am saying I have aborted. Sorry if I waffle on but here’s some context.

I am just starting out TTC for the first time with DH and some things just don’t feel right. We have been together for years and unexpectedly got pregnant when we were teenagers and chose to abort the pregnancy. Now we are happily married, own a house together, financially secure blah blah blah we are TTC. I have been on the depo injection for years and have been told this can add time to fall pregnant.

Last time I fell accidently whilst on the pill so know I am able to get pregnant. But this doesn’t seem to be happening just the old fashioned way this time so can anyone suggest apps or ovulation sticks or vitamins etc that may boost our chances of falling, more so due to being on the injection for so long. Are there any tricks anyone can suggest or reccomend things to steer clear of? Additionally I don’t know if I am over thinking things, but when we chose to abort I was very logical about it and did not have any emotion towards the event. Now we are TTC and it’s not happening straight away I am starting to feel guilty. Is this normal?

Apologies for so many questions in one post. Thanks in advance

Some people may be upset by your post but you did what you felt was right at the time and didn't bring a baby into the world when you weren't ready. I've heard the injection can take quite a long time to get out of the system. I would start taking folic acid incase you do fall pregnant quickly. Also start temping or doing OPKS just to get an idea of your cycle and how your body is working. Goodluck xx

You should not feel guilty. You did the right thing at the time. You cannot project how you felt as a teenager onto how you feel now and the different choices you would now make.

In terms of the depo injection, it took my sister 3 years of TTC before she fell pregnant. However some people can fall straight away. X good luck xxx

Op I have 100% been through what you have, my best advice is relax (easier said than done!) I brought the ovulation sticks... I became obsessed, I brought the vitamins, I put pressure on my husband etc etc long story short I'm twenty weeks pregnant, took six months and found out I was pregnant whilst on holiday so I had totally switched off and stopped being so irrational. I did start taking folic acid when we were TTC and my husband took vitamin c dissolvable vitamins. I too felt the guilt, like it was some sort of punishment so I can absolutely relate, now I believe I don't deserve a perfect pregnancy (which I know is utterly ridiculous) wishing you lots of luck 🌈

Please don't feel guilty op. You did nothing wrong.

Medical abortion does not affect your ability to conceive. If it did it would not be widely available, as the ratio of risk to benefit would be considered too high.

Good luck with it op, hope you get the result you want soon x

I used an app called 'Flo' would definitely recommend it for tracking periods and ovulation. We were not TTC but didn't use any contraception for 4 years and nothing happened so thought it was time to start tracking incase we needed to take to the doctors.. low and behold after 1 month, we were pregnant.

I definitely think tracking your cycles is the place to start.

No advice youve done nothing wrong. I wish you every success in the future.

In all fairness you didn’t even need to mention the abortion as that does not effect future fertility in the vast majority of cases. How long have you been off the hormone birth control? It can take ages to get working again. Took me 50 odd days and I was only on the pill

Was it a medical or surgical termination? If it was a medical, that won’t affect your ability to conceive

Neither should a surgical tbh
Millions of women have terminations and go on to conceive.