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TTC #1 Cycle 1 - Body playing tricks on me :-(

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melissafrancis · 04/02/2018 12:15

Hi everyone,

It's my first time ever posting here, even though for a while now I've been reading everyone's lovely comments to each other. I just wanted to air my sadness and frustration I guess. One, the irony of the years of people telling you to use protection as just one time unprotected and you could get pregnant!

And also, the fact that I came off the mini pill for my first TTC cycle that started 11th Jan, and feeling okay if obviously the first cycle didn't work, as for many many women here I know it is a long journey. But feeling like if it wasn't going to happen, my body could have atleast not given me 4 days of intense cramps around ovulation time (not tracking but it was pretty spot on, perhaps cramps came couple days after) and I could have done without the severe headaches, nausea for nearly a week, sudden cold even though I have good immune system and have escaped one all Winter, spotting pink/brown, once or twice Thursday or Friday, only to now be facing AF around the corner. I'd rather have had no "symptoms" and kind of known, rather than my body playing tricks on me. Who else's body imitates a lot of symptoms every month and yet finds themselves with AF at the end??

Wishing everyone reading luck with their journey to baby on whatever cycle you're on.

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Teetotal2018 · 04/02/2018 12:25

Yes! I’ve been doing this for the past 16 months. It’s crap at the first month and crap at month 16!! Fingers crossed for your bfp soon 😊

Teetotal2018 · 04/02/2018 12:27

Pregnancy and cycle symtoms are the same unfortunatly so the only way of knowing is with a pregnacy test. So frustrating x

Justwaitingforaline · 04/02/2018 12:34

Oh OP, I feel for you but given it’s cycle one, I think you maybe need to toughen up a little bit Wink early pregnancy symptoms and PMS symptoms are identical and when you’re TTC, you notice every little thing your body is doing during the two week wait to test - it was already doing all of those things before, we just don’t notice because we have no reason to! TTC women attribute the weirdest things to pregnancy symptoms ( cue googling strange things at 1am regularly) and I can say that as someone who’s been doing it for the best part of two years Grin

It will drive you batty - at such an early point in terms of time to TTC, try to chill out a bit and just enjoy yourself, it gets harder as the months roll by.

Bubblegum89 · 04/02/2018 12:47

Yeah I’ve been ttc for 16 months. You honestly need to just chill out. It’s your first cycle and most women don’t conceive on their first few cycles. You will get a shit tonne of weird symptoms from coming off the pill, unfortunately you will just have to ignore them and don’t overthink it. Your body can take up to a year to settle down after the pill so you just have to be patient

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melissafrancis · 04/02/2018 12:59

Thanks all - I absolutely know I do! I'm an over thinker and I guess just being the first cycle and not knowing if, seeing as it was the mini pill, was going to revert back to my regular cycle length etc. I will be strong and just carry on through it of course. I just felt like now was the time to say hello to you all I guess. Plus I'm sure with every cycle I will toughen up more, thanks for the advice though 😁 X

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TheUbercornMum · 04/02/2018 13:53

Oh OP, I totally understand. This is cycle 1 for me ttc #2 and I know just how you feel. I forgot all the weird over analysing feelings you get and I've been trying not to, BUT know it is hard not to. I channel my thoughts in writing the symptoms in my diary as it's fantastic to look back at following months so you don't get too batty and can talk yourself down in future months when comparing, but also takes your mind off it during the 2ww. FWIW on the cycle I was pg last time I didn't feel pg! The irony eh?! I honestly thought AF was on the way. Also coming off the Pop last time it took my body 5 months to regulate itself properly, so if you can, try and think long term. I totally get how you feel though!

SoozC · 04/02/2018 13:58

You'll find you get "symptoms" every month. Try not to read too much into it or you'll go crazy. In two years I've had every symptom going, there's little rhyme or reason.

You've just started the journey, you could (but hopefully won't) have years of this. Time to get used to experiencing these things whether or not you are preggers or there'll be months of disappointment ahead.

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melissafrancis · 04/02/2018 14:02

@TheUbercornMum - I hope TTC #2 comes soon for you. Thank you, yes I bet if written down you will have had all sorts, and quite often I do hear that same thing, that people didn't really feel pg the month they actually were.

@SoozC - Yep, going to relax and just try and think, whatever the symptoms, might as well just wait and see, AF or no AF. It won't change the outcome second guessing!

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Choccimuffin · 04/02/2018 15:24

I am going through the exact same thing at the moment! I am on cycle 2 also ttc #1. Every little thing I tune into to think is that a sign? lol I'm driving myself a little crazy!
AFis due in 9 days! Just have to wait and see - but I don't think it's going to be a Bfp for me this month!

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melissafrancis · 04/02/2018 16:57

@choccimuffin - Yes exactly! 9 days is so long isn't it, and we shouldn't wish our lives away. It's hard but know that we're all in this together x

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Choccimuffin · 05/02/2018 16:27

I am a complete over thinker too - I've got OCD so have to stop myself obsessing Hmm
When if your AF due? I think we might be around the same dates.

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