39 and 2 consecutive miscarriages - any +ve stories?

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I’ve just suffered my 2nd MMC in 6 months. Both stopped developing between 6 and 8 wks but not discovered until 3 weeks later. I have a healthy 3yr old DD and that pregnancy was straightforward. The hospital have told me that at 39 yrs old I’m likely to have more faulty eggs than someone younger but that otherwise there should be no reason not to have healthy pregnancy. However, I’m pretty nervous about it all going wrong again, also not sure I’m ready to give up completely. Has anyone any positive stories to share?

Hi. I also have had two missed miscarriages that stopped between 6-8 weeks, two natural miscarriages and one two year old. I’m 23, so other than the age, we sound similar.

If you’re over 35 and you’ve had two miscarriages they should refer you to a clinic. I’ve been referred to one, but I had to have three losses before they’d do that.

Nothing positive to share, but I'm in same boat so just wanted to let you know you're not alone.

I am 40 now, have a healthy 5 year old and had straightforward pregnancy. Since then, had very long and complicated mmc at 11 weeks in Sept 2016 and early mc at 5 weeks in October 2017.

Desperate for #2 and my DS so badly wants to be a big brother. We are still trying, but it's scary. Just trying to keep the faith that there's a good egg in there somewhere and we will get our miracle baby.

I really hope you get you're rainbow baby soon x

TheCatsPaws and DT2016 thanks for your replies and sorry for your losses. It is so hard! They have said after 3, I’d be referred but have also said that it would be unlikely that they would find any reason.
I am starting to get sone family members/ friends suggest that I should rethink, which I find wholly unhelpful. Also, makes me think that if we are lucky enough to get pregnant again, I’ll not tell anyone.

At 39 I had an early miscarriage, then had a successful pregnancy 5 months later.

I was told that it’s about even whether they’ll find an issue or not. If NHS tests dont find anything or they won’t refer you, you can look into private testing. I’m planning on having my NK cells tested after my NHS tests are done.

I’d definitely ask for a second opinion with GP re referring you as they should refer after two due to age. However I’ve found some drs are a bit shit with this issue.

You could always say you had a chemical pregnancy, which would make three. I know that’s ethically gray however as someone who has had four miscarriages, if it prevents you going through what I have it’s worth it IMO.

Good luck.

Just to give you hope, I had 7 miscarriages before having healthy DS when I was 40. Five of those were Aug 2015 (6 weeks), Nov 2015 (14 weeks), Dec 2015 (4 weeks), Feb 2016 (6 weeks). I was pregnant with DS by very early March 2016, DS was born Nov 2016.

I have just done the same kind of thing again. First ovulation post DS, DTD once, currently very early days with #2.

Obvs that's being very very good at getting pregnant and a lot of miscarriages, but wanted to say it's entirely possible it will work out.

And as I don't live in the UK I didn't get any testing done. Just got told to take aspirin, exercise, eat and drink and sleep sensibly, and DTD as frequently as possible (I knew exactly when I was ovulating so we just kept the, er, shagfests for those days and a few days after)

Hi Beautiful lady, I am new to this forum and I saw your post just now. I want to share my experience here and hope it motivates you positively. I am 36 years old now. In my teens, I was diagnosed with PCOS; it wasn’t more common than as it is now. I took some ovulation pills then and it somehow showed less symptoms. I was married at the age of 28 and I conceived thrice and after each one ended up in a miscarriage. Miscarriage not only physically damages you but it has a lot to deal with emotions, it is an experience for both the things. I was quite frustrated, angry and in shudder most of the time. After three consecutive miscarriages I wanted to just quit TTC but two years back I had luck and I conceived; now I am mother to a beautiful baby girl. What was your cause of bleeding? My initial two miscarriages were due to weak cervix and the last one was due to an infection. But I managed to not let the weakness come in the way of my healthy pregnancy. Just be strong, optimistic and eat well. Keep on mark the scheduled checkups.

I had three consecutive appointments and was referred for testing. I was pregnant again at my first appointment, they gave me progesterone anyway, and I went on to have a healthy baby girl.

Don’t give up hope x

Consecutive miscarriages*

Thanks for these really nice messages, they are really helpful. I think I’m currently going through the hormonal crash following the D&C so everything seems a bit gloomy. However, I’m trying to be positive and take it one step at a time.