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I'm so sad and desperate to be pregnant

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BoldKitties · 01/02/2018 00:44

I've had 6 MCs. Each one has eaten away at me a little bit. That was in my mid-twenties. Now I'm in my thirties and desperate. DP and I took a long break from TTC, as it was destroying me. No reason could be found as to why I kept MCing.

My sister had a beautiful baby boy about a year and a half ago. I absolutely adore him, but he has just reminded me exactly why I'm dying to have a baby. Our gorgeous Niece just had a lovely baby girl, and I so want to visit them, but I'm scared I'll fall apart. Because all I want is a lovely squidgy little baby. We've been trying. Nothing is happening. I just want to hold a beautiful little baby in my arms.

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eatingthoughts · 01/02/2018 17:51

BoldKitties I'm so so sorry it's happening to you. I've only had one miscarriage but i do know the pain. You've had six and i don't know what you're going through. Have you checked your thyroid hormone levels? Sometimes it can cause miscarriages and difficulties getting pregnant. I know the feeling of wanting that baby so badly, cuddling him and kissing and just holding that little lump in your arms. I believe you will get there it's just a matter of your road being more rocky and more bloody painful but if you'd find the reasons why it's happening maybe it would help you to make a start?...
Sending big hugs and baby dusts your way, don't give up 🌷🌷🌷🌷🌷

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BoldKitties · 01/02/2018 23:53

Ah, eating, thanks lovely. I actually do have an underactive thyroid. Am on eltroxin for it.

It's a horrible feeling, isn't it? I just want to have that little scrunchy lump of love in my arms. When my sister had my nephew, when he was tiny, she would sit gazing at his gorgeous little face and stroking his perfect little ear for hours. It was beautiful to watch.

I get to experience a bit of that. I adore my nephew, I love babysitting him, when he was little I often just sat and gazed at him in wonderment (now he's running around so there's no time to sit gazing at him Grin). I can only imagine how much more amazing that feels when it's your own baby.

Thanks for your lovely words.

I've probably posted this in the wrong topic. Sorry for that. I've lost a baby and a grandparent in the past month, I'm feeling a bit raw and wobbly and incoherent right now

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RestingButchFace · 01/02/2018 23:57

I am so sorry for your losses, both recent and in the past. I have no advice but just wanted to send you all my best wishes for a happy outcome. I am sure your niece will understand (if she is aware of your history ) if not then a lovely card and order gift sending congratulations is definitely sufficient in the circumstances.

Emmastone123 · 02/02/2018 00:18

Hello. I'm so sorry for your loses. Perhaps get a swab done for ureaplasma. I had it and it apparently can affect fertilty. Quite a lot of women have it without realising and it clears up with a course of antis. It's not an std as some websites claim, Its kind of like thrush, something you can get but which can also be sexually transmitted. Shot in the dark but you never know. Good luck x

HazelVanessa · 02/02/2018 09:32

Hi, I myself had three miscarriages and I was physically and mentally shattered. But after that I conceived. I know it makes you incomplete without a baby; you can either make yourself or break yourself during this time. I want you to make yourself and stay resilient. Go to your specialist and follow the medications he/she prescribes you. Even if that does not work, convince your DH for surrogacy or IVF. These two treatments have done quiet wonders for childless parents.

OverinaFlash · 02/02/2018 09:39

Bold I'm so sorry for your losses. There is nothing quite like the pain of knowing everytime you pick up a baby, eventually you're going to have to give it back.

If you haven't been referred to a fertility clinic, I really suggest that you go to your GP and ask for a referral, even if it's just for further investigation. You need more answers.

BifsWif · 02/02/2018 11:35

I had three consecutive miscarriages, no cause found but they gave me aspirin and a progesterone suppository and said it wouldn’t hurt but might help. My next preganancy was successful. I really hope you get your little bundle soon x

KatnissMellark · 02/02/2018 11:37

I've been there and it is so so hard. I hope you get what you want Flowers

MsP0b · 02/02/2018 11:50

So sorry to hear about your losses and your pain. Big hugs and support xxx

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