Help me not test today!!

[wishfulthinker81]

I'm already struggling not to test this morning!! I've a load of ic but I reallllllly want to pee on the one FRER I have left! I can't afford to get anymore until Thursday but the addiction of testing has taken hold of me 🙄🤣🤣

Anyone else struggling not to test?

Wooohoo!!! Congrats @Birdie963

Hi guys, mind if I join? I've been following this thread for not-testing inspo, AF not due until Thursday (around 11 DPO I think but didn't use OPKs properly this month). Caved this morning (not really in the spirit of the thread I know ) just to 'see'. Was immediately cross with myself and fully expecting a negative.. and got this!! I'm not going crazy am I?!?

Thanks everyone! OH says he can only see one line!! Shall re test on Tuesday. Wow congrats batgirl and birdie! Sorry wishful - there’s always next month
Of course you can join us ginger - but your pic didn’t upload, maybe try again?

Argh - thanks! I'm on the app so maybe that's why you can't see it? Tried again.. 💕

That's a great line Ginger!! Congrats x

bfn for me but not due for a few days (I know...I know...) so I'm keeping everything crossed.

Congrats on thus morning bfp's! Xx

@gingertom11 there's def a second line there!!! Congrats!!! I'm so happy for you all!! We weren't officially ttc so I will get over this easier... although af still hasn't arrived. It's weird because I feel like something "down there" is closed just like I did when I was pregnant in the past. But then again I have ptsd from my youngests pregnancy so it could be that making me think I'm more pregnant than I am 🤔

@Owlpatrol how did you get on? Have you tested?

@AmazingGrace16 I can't fault you, I've been testing every day for over a week 🙈 I just about managed to go from Friday to today without testing... that was hard!!

So wishful you're 6 days late then?

I'm actually wondering if the "period" you had on 15th was actually your period and it was so light (unlike usual) because it was early (although what you described sounds more like implantation). This happened to me once when my periods were regularly every 28 days. All of a sudden I had a very light and early period. In your shoes I would assume 15th was the start of my last period and then take an ovulation test based on that when you think you are next ovulating (going by 15th as date of your lmp). If it says you're ovulating then at least you'll know what has happened. I would also keep taking pregnancy tests for the next couple of days, just in case. I didn't get a light positive with my first until I was 5 days late I think. I certainly didn't get a solid line until even later.

I think I'm starting to get my head around being pregnant. It's very scary though. I'm worried people will judge us (or worry) because they know we probably can't afford it right now. The thing is I know that long term it will get easier and so therefore is manageable, it's just the interim. I know no contraception is 100% but we were hoping to try in six months or so, and so I wasn't on the pill because I didn't want all the hormones in my system (which incidentally destroyed my mental well being last time) and I didn't want a coil in only to then take it out.

I keep thinking about the practicalities. How are we going to fit three car seats in. The children will have to share rooms and how are we going to squeeze everything in and we're going to need to buy new beds/bunk beds and can we afford that etc. We have to find a way but right now I just have lots of unanswered questions.

Hi! I was thinking about this! 9dpo with a 4hr train journey to try decide if I should do ic when I get home, af due Thursday...

Omg congrats on your bfps!!

I tested this morning and a bfn :( Another wasted test!

Normally I am a regular 26-day cycle gal but I'm on day 30 already. Although last month was 28 days so maybe it's getting longer for some reason? Would it be possible to be this late and have a false negative?

I've been feeling mildly nauseous for 24 hours and craving dry foods like crisps (normally a chocolate person). Also have stuffy nose/swollen sinuses, although not sneezing much anymore. A bit random but on Friday evening I did have a sudden and brief 'pinching' feeling so strongly that my leg did a small reflex movement from the knee down! I am telling myself it could have been implantation whilst simultaneously telling myself not to be silly and get my hopes up

I am crossing my fingers so hard that AF doesn't come! I can't always feel her coming as I usually have 2 days of light spotting before AF truly arrives.

@Batgirllikesgin yes that's what I've had in the back of my head that's been happening, I just can't shake the feeling that I'm already pregnant. But then again the mind is a powerful thing so I suppose it could be my imagination.

Don't be stressing about what others think, their opinions don't pay your bills so why let them affect your positivity?? Enjoy it and be happy! Xxx

@Doodlebug89 good luck! You never know what's round the corner!!

I know what you mean wishful I very much felt pregnant at 3 weeks and DH actually said he thought I was having one of those phantom pregnancies. I just looked at him like

You know you body best. It could be that it might take a while to get a positive which can be really common. Equally it could be one of those "the more you think about it, the later your period will be" things and it's not like you can just stop thinking about it! What you do know is that something is definitely up with your body and it's not behaving like normal and you're not imagining that. The facts stack up that you're not going crazy but something is not normal with your body, whether it's because you had an early period, or because your pregnant is currently unknown. I would have thought you could take an ovulation test round about now though which should indicate whether you're ovulating (caveat, I've gone off the main screen and can't remember your exact dates).

I know I shouldn't care what other people think. I think mostly my parents will worry, which worries me because I don't want them to worry. I also think my husbands family will judge because his high earning cousins who all have bigger houses and smaller mortgages (and these are the facts as they tell it) are sticking at 2 because they say they can't afford more - the professions they have and their experience says they all have joint incomes of around £80k at least, while we're on about £35k in an expensive area (after I went part time and took a huge pay cut) of the uk and can't afford to move! Their family comment as to how they are struggling financially (possibly because of the cars and holidays!) and so by comparison it feels like we shouldn't be able to afford it either. We are far more sensible with money though and have no debt (yet!) and have an eye for a bargain....but I can't help but feel that these people will have an opinion behind our backs. I know I shouldn't care, but I do. That was a bit of an essay!

Thankyou @Batgirllikesgin I just worry that I'm imaging it all because I'd love another child and my cycle is always perfectly regular, even when I'm surrounded by stress which should affect it. I'm sensible enough to realise though that there's a first time for everything. My cycles are normally every month on 22nd and last for 7 days and are heavy to the extent where pads are being changed every 20 Mins... tmi I know 🤣

Last af was 22nd Dec
No sex had
1st Jan spotting on one toilet journey

Sex on 4th Jan
Ovulation peak 4th Jan (according to the app flo)

Light bleeding 11th - 15th Jan but it wasn't frequent, I only used one pad per day as there was hardly anything.

Af was due 22nd and no sign.

As for the family commenting behind your back... let them! I totally understand why you feel like that but you'll probably find that they're secretly wondering how you manage! Usually negativity breeds because of self confidence so take them being negative as a compliment 😜

@Batgirllikesgin I've not used ovulation sticks before. I don't know why I didn't think of those! Would the cheapie pound shop ones do the job?

I only ever used the clear blue ones and that was years ago with my first and even then I only used one so I don't really know. I've seen lots of people on here with the internet cheapie ones so sure the Poundland ones must do the same thing. Better than nothing ey!

I phoned the doctors a while back because my periods suddenly went from a lifetime of regular every 28 days, to every 26 days. I really panicked and the doctor assured me that periods do change for no reason at all. I knew that before I phoned but I was like but this is ME and my periods have always been every 28 days and I couldn't fathom why they would change, more than just a one off. She said that sometimes our bodies do funny things. She did say it didn't warrant investigation and that they only investigate if your periods become longer over a regular period of time. So if it keeps happening then I guess you could give them a call. Feels like such a long time to wait though doesn't it. At least taking an ovulation test might give you an indication as to what could be going on. Like I said before though, with my first I think I was five days late by the time I got a positive test, because I ovulated late. I'm wondering also if maybe the weird bleed was a period and now you are pregnant but not pregnant enough to get a positive....if you dtd after your weird period.

Thanks for your kind words. You've helped to put it into perspective a bit. I think probably I'm worrying more about things than I realised. I am pleased though, it's just a shock!

Thankyou! I took some ovulation tests and there's a smudge of a second line on them. They're the top three and the bottom three are pregnancy tests. I've changed my data in the ovia app and am taking the weird bleed as my period. I only had sex once this month, 4th Jan which was prior to the bleed so I'm chalking it up as experience. Not going to lie that I'm a little bit disappointed but what will be will be and I'm a firm believer that if something is meant for you then it won't pass you.

Stay strong and look forward to your beautiful baby. Don't let the mood hoovers take your positivity, creating life is a magical thing!! Xxx

It would help if included the photo 🙄🤣

Hi please can I join!!

I've tested today, and people swear they see a faint line including me!! But I need to stop testing because the line isn't getting any darker yet lol!!

I have 2 dc. 3 years and 5 months. EBF dc2. Anyine else have any mire children 😁

Good luck ladies on your BFP!!

Hi @OBVIOUSLYiNAMEchange yes join us! I see a smudge but I've been looking at so many in the last few mins I might have line eyes 🙈 give it a couple more days and test again. I have one FRER left that I'm going to take on Thursday. If it's negative then I'm 100% going to stop torturing myself and take it that the weird bleed I had in Jan was a super early period xxx

Hello wishful

www.babycenter.com/0_ovulation-predictor-kits_10405040.bc

This describes why opks can be helpful and how to use them really well. I use the cheap 'one step' version off Amazon and test from about day 12. I usually test twice a day- first thing and mid afternoon as apparently you're more likely to catch the surge in the PM. The key thing is looking for the test line getting darker and then dtd when this happens until it fades again. The definition of a positive test is the test line being darker than the control but for me it actually never gets darker than the control but it does get progressively darker as the month goes on. I used them the month we conceived DD1 so I know that I ovulated despite not getting a 'true' positive.

Given that your cycle is usually regular between 30-31 days you've possibly missed ovulation for this month as it usually happens around two weeks before your period is due. This would tie in with the negative opks you've attached. There will always be a bit of LH in your urine- hence the faint line but it's the line getting stronger as the month goes on that signals ovulation.

Hope I'm not teaching you to suck eggs here but I was confused about OPKs at first and it took a bit of getting used to before I figured out how to interpret the results.

AF turned up this morning in work :( It's only when I wipe, and it's dark pink with no clots. But I think it's too late for an implantation bleed, as apparently it can't come after AF was due.

Going to try opks for the first time next month, DH bought me the ClearBlue ones to try so at least I'll learn more about when I ovulate...