Rainbow Baby

[kirstie1982]

Hi All

on the 19th august last year our beautiful daughter Evie-Mae was still born at 22 weeks due to placental failure. We are now 5 weeks pregnant with our rainbow baby and whilst im over the moon im petrified how am going to get through another 8 months of feeling like this? xxx

Oh bless you. So sorry to hear about your lovely Evie-Mae. I can't imagine how anxious you must be feeling, but try to relax when you can. Some things in life are out of our hands. Are you getting increased monitoring this time, or is it just one of those awful things that can happen out of the blue? Thinking of you and your little beanie xx

yes they will be monitoring more closely i will have more scans and be under a consultant throughout.. we and they think it was just 'one of those things'but we finally have an app for the results of Evies post mortem on the 30th (another dreaded day) lol xxx

@kirstie1982 so sorry for your loss 😢 Bless you I undernstand how anxious a time it can be when you do become pregnant again. We lost our little girl Poppy Grace at 16 weeks. She had turners syndrome which is a chromosomal abnormality. She fought hard but unfortunately didn't make it. After delivering Poppy I was pregnant again just 4 weeks later and although terrifying and an extremely anxious time, I gave birth to our rainbow boy who is now 8 months old and we are now #ttc baby no. 3! You will never forget such a heartbreaking event, but it does get easier and your little girl will always be a part of you and your journey. I don't really have any advice other than look after yourself. Hopefully the extra monitoring will go some way to reassure you this time around. Take care x

I just want to say I’m so sorry for your loss 💐

Im so sorry for your loss of little Poppy.. I want to shout it from the roof tops that we are expecting again but because the problem with Evie wasnt detected until my 20 week scan and then we had to tell everyone we have decided to not tell anyone for as long as possible.. which is why i came on here i needed an outlet before i burst 😀 xx

I'm sorry for your loss @kirstie1982 .

I've been through similar. We lost a baby shortly after our anomaly scan. She had a fatal disability.

We decided to try again and I was pregnant again 6 months later. It was difficult as there were so many emotions, fear guilt etc.

We coped by breaking everything down - first hurdle 12 week scan , 16 week scan , 20 week scan...etc. But in all honesty it was a very stressful pregnancy even though everything was fine.

We have a 12 week old son now and he's fantastic. We are grateful for him but it was tough and still sometimes is when we think back to the dark days after our loss.

Good luck op and congratulations on your pregnancy.

So sorry for your loss OP.

And congratulations on your pregnancy. Very scary but also very wonderful.

Take it one day at a time and deal with it whatever way feels best for you. When I found out I was pregnant again after a loss I felt I really needed support so I told a select few people (which was actually really nice to share positive news after so much sadness). Other than that we didn't tell anyone else until much much later on and I pretty much pretended that it wasn't happening as this was the only way I could get through it. Some days were very tough and some days I felt like I wanted to celebrate and enjoy the pregnancy. There is no right or wrong.

Sending much love to you and your rainbow x

Thank you for your messages we have told our parents and my boss but apart from that its top secret.. Thanks for the advice i think i just have to take one day at a time and try and stop worrying so much xx