I feel like everyone is falling pregnant except me :( Whinge alert

[Changeymcchangeyface]

Just that really.

Two of my husbands cousins have recently fallen pregnant and I am pretty sure my cousin is. Not to mention all the pregnant women at my work at the moment :(

Just annoying as I recently had a laparoscopy to search for endometriosis and nothing was found and I was told it was good news, yet I am still having gynaecological problems and I am yet to fall pregnant. My drs are useless and have no record of my laparoscopy and I can't afford IVF.

Any words of advice?

No words of advice but weird internet hugs for you.

I'm in the same boat - both of my husbands cousins had babies within 4 weeks of each other just before Xmas and got several friends/colleagues who have recently fallen pregnant.

I was diagnosed with pcos at 19 so it's no surprise, but doesn't make it any easier. Putting off visiting DH's cousins as I don't know if I'll be able to put a brave face on for long enough

Hey @Changeymcchangeyface it's shit isn't it? I'm just starting ivf and although one of the first of my friends to start trying now I am one of the few who doesn't have a child or is actively pregnant. This is honestly the hardest thing I've been through in my life.

How long gave you been trying and would you not be eligible for nhs ivf? X

No advice I'm afraid, hope some wise folks will stop by, but I know how you feel. It's been relentless baby news this last twelve
months. I'm happy and excited for my friends and family, but also want my turn to come!

Hi Changeymcchangeyface. Totally can relate to you. I found out today my best friend and colleague is PG. I got married in the summer and have been secretly TTC since my Honeymoon to no avail - she wasn't TTC but it just happened. I was able to be completely honest and say that I am over the moon happy for her, but also so jealous she beat me to it! And we had a good old laugh about it. Yes part of me wants to cry that it's not fair, because on paper it isn’t - but i'm so happy for her and I’m glad I can ask her questions and see how her PG goes rather than googling and having non-personal responses. It also meant I can now talk openly to her about TTC which might take the pressure off my body now it's not a massive secret from my best friend. I also get to enjoy alcohol, lazy nights and mornings when she won't! Even if it’s only for a few months. So, I guess what I am trying to say is, there's pros and cons you can focus on but the cons are almost CERTAINLY going to negatively affect you and stop you conceiving, so why not focus on those positives whilst you can enjoy them and it might just do the same thing. You might end up letting your hair down one weekend and hey presto! Wishing you all luck, think positive and enjoy those few things while you can xx

It's the worst. Sorry to all of you going through it

I started ttc two years ago, had 3 mcs and now haven't got pregnant again in a year.

I find work is harder than friends, you see them everyday and people coo, you get updates on scans and plans and names and all the other stuff.

Nothing quite like someone telling you while making tea what a shock it was as they weren't even trying, it "just sort of happened". Lucky bastards.

I also get to enjoy alcohol, lazy nights and mornings when she won't! I'm genuinely glad that's working for you Peachy, but it wears off pretty quickly

For me, it’s about being totally honest with them. My best friend is due in two months, when she told me in August (10 months after my miscarriage and only one period) I was heartbroken and burst into tears. I felt really selfish at the time but told her I loved her, I was going to find it hard and that I would maybe have to stay away for a while. She totally understood and has allowed me to ‘lead her’ - so she’ll understand if I don’t message for a while and will equally be super happy to see me if I pop up and am feeling strong enough to spend time with her. I’ve also maintained an interest in her pregnancy because she needs support too and because I don’t want to kick myself in years to come that I’m not as involved in her family as I could have been. We really had to look at our relationship and do away with any sibling-esque competitiveness to survive it, and be totally honest with each other. To sum up, my advice is a) be honest and put yourself first b) remember she’s going to be going through stuff too c) take as much joy as you can from seeing someone you love experience this

Oh, and I hope you’re feeling okay after laparoscopy. I’m on day 5 and still feeling sorry for myself - time to crack on with Victoria series 2..

Hi ladies, thought I'd see how you're all doing? Af is due today but nothing yet so 🤞🏻has no cramping just constant nausea and constipation which isn't the usual for me this close to AF. How are you guys doing in your cycles? :) sending lots of luck xx

Hey, oh I really relate to this. I can feel myself becoming really distant from my friends and work colleagues. I feel so selfish but I am just so sad about not getting pregnant yet, I have to fast forward baby adverts on tv let alone having to spend time with my pregnant friends. I have no idea that this ttc journey would be so hard. Using clear blue digital ovulation tests this month but had no peak so feeling even more blue now. Just nice to know I am not alone xx

Sounds promising peachy. Fingers crossed.
Sending good vibes to you hope.

AF just finished. So painful yet again. I've got a HSG next week. Will see how that goes.

I've got a stomach bug so have been up all night with that. Joy!

Hi ladies. Can I join in? We’ve been ttc for 6 months now after a mmc in August. Af is due tomorrow and I really think it’s on it’s way. I took a test about half an hour ago and it was a BFN. ☹️ I’m trying not to obsess about it all so I haven’t been taking any ovulation tests... but to be honest me and my boyfriend have sex ALL the time! 🙈 I’m not convinced I have even ovulated since my mmc. I don’t really get any cm. I know I can conceive as we were pregnant last year (unplanned). Also, to rub salt in the wound, I work in the baby room in a nursery!
@Peachy92 How have you got on? Any good news to cheer us up?

Don’t give up ladies. Took 6 long years here. I really didn’t think it would ever happen.
2 DC now.

And regarding everyone getting pregnant easily else yes it is hard. But everyone has their own stuff they’re dealing with and their own stresses in life.

Hiya ladies, good to hear from you all! There does seem to be shed loads of baby adverts and shows on you're so right @Hopehope20 I fast forward them all too. I'm sorry it wasn't your month but we'll all be keeping our fingers crossed for you 🌻 @Booksandstuff to you as well hun, hope the bug goes soon and you're feeling better. Might be a good body detox to get all the crap out ready for a new healthy month 🤞🏻 @Babybeany you're more than welcome here that's what we all need, support! And that's good to hear so keep it up! The more the better in my opinion , I saw a thread today that really p'd me off where the woman was saying you should only do the deed when you ovulate otherwise "it's a waste of a month" 😒 You need to still enjoy sex it shouldn't be a baby making chore! My very little unexciting update is AF is 2 days late which is a first. Got a £1 Freedom hpt from Asda yesterday along with a double FRER pack. The £1 one was very specific in the instructions about it being a midstream test whereas I prefer to dip so I followed their instructions with FMU this morning but got zilch in the test window... so that was a no. I've been holding my pee ever since and I'm tempted to go and crack an FRER open and get going but fear another BFN and wasting another test. I'm so hoping this is my month as I'll be 26 at the end of Jan and with my BF being PG it would all fit so nicely 😩 ah good luck to you all! Thanks to @newmumwithquestions for giving us hope 💐xx

Omg sorry it turned into an essay 😂 note to self: keep it short and sweet! X

Update: Nothing on the FRER this afternoon, still no sign of AF. No appetite and constant nausea but no cramps. Still keeping 🤞🏻for you all as well x

Is anyone on the ‘flo’ app? My period due date keeps moving. I don’t know when I REALLY need to test... @Peachy92 are you often late on your AF? Maybe leave it another 2?
On the same note regarding sex! I couldn’t leave it to once a month during ovulation! A woman has needs!! 😂

@Babybeany I'm on the Flo app! :) I was a day "late" 1st cycle but was guesstimating the dates. I think it changes month to month depending on the previous month? I've only been a day late or early..🤞🏻What's your Flo saying at the moment? OMG glad it's not just me🤣xx

I'm out this month ladies but good luck to you all 😊🤞🏻x

@Peachy92 I’m glad I’m not alone regarding flo... on Friday it said my AF was due Monday, on Saturday it said Sunday and yesterday it said Tuesday! It hasn’t arrived yet but I have the pains. Every ounce of me wants to believe they are pregnancy pains but I doubt it! I am 15dpo now and terrified of testing another bfn. Big love to our uterus’ Might as well have a vino!

No advice here, just big hugs and good luck 
I can totally relate how incredibly hard it gets, especially being around pregnant women and little babies! we've been ttc for 15 month now and not even a glimmer of bfp 
I am slowly dying inside every month when af arrives 
My DH's best friend got married in may and by August they announced pregnancy. The wife is struggling with severe morning sickness and each time I see her ( I am trying to limit contact as much as I can) tells me how she 'hates being pregnant' and how she googles 'hate being pregnant' and then reads threads about hating the pregnancy. Seriously want to tell her to stfu... if she only knew how lucky she is!
Oh well, just hoping that one day we all get our bfp's 

@Catparty 15 months is a long time. We’re you on any form of contraception before trying? My mum said it took her 2 years after coming off the pill to conceive my older sister. We all have different bodies that take time to build a safe and secure space to grow a baby. Big baby love to you all x

@Babybeany that is annoying.. you'll have to keep us posted so we can feed off the hopefully good news! And same to you @Catparty I'm sorry it's taking so long and that woman sounds infuriating, but she also doesn't know how it feels to struggle to conceive so I guess she just can't relate :/ let's hope you get lucky soon and have a happy pregnancy 🤞🏻 sending positive vibes ladies x

@Babybeany

Thank you for you kind vibes and baby dust to all x I came off the pill few years ago, we were just 'careful' prior to ttc but nothing seems to be happening for the past 15 month of ttc anyway. So frustrating Was 4 days late last month (I am never late!) but both frer and clear blue were bfn, Then af arrived. Had my pre op assessment for lap and dye before Xmas so in a midst of a waiting game now... hopefully will get some answers soon xx

@Peachy92

Thank you for your positive thoughts and good luck to you too! let's stay positive xx

We've been ttc for around 14 months. Hadn't been on the pill for a few years. Pretty sure I had a mmc last year so there was some glimmer.
cat party feel like I slowly die inside each month too! Determined not to symptom spot and get caught up in it this month. Last 6 months I felt like it was taking over my life and I was wishing days away so we can start again. No way to live! We've got this!