Getting pregnant after 2 miscarriages in a row

[mummyjl15]

I’ve just had my second natural miscarriage in a row at 5/6 weeks (they’re not entirely sure when it was as I was still pregnant at 4+5).
I had a natural miscarriage in July at 6+5 weeks which took 7 weeks for the bleeding to stop.

We’ve been trying since February and only conceived twice in that time ending in miscarriage. I had a daughter in 2015 and conceived her the first month we started trying and had no problems during pregnancy or the birth.

I’m going to seek help from a private fertility clinic as the NHS won’t do anything until I’ve had 3 or more miscarriages.

Has anyone experienced 2 miscarriages in a row and gone on to have a normal pregnancy? I’m feeling all over the place now.

I haven’t had a drop of alcohol in over a year (not that I’m a drinker anyway!), only on decaf tea & coffee, I don’t smoke, I’m a fit and healthy size 10, I am my own boss and work from home with no stress, I’ve been on the pregnacare conception & pregnancy tablets since last January. I get so upset and angry when I see pregnant women who drink/smoke when pregnant or right in front of their tiny babies. It’s so unfair! 😢

I’m so sorry - it’s really hard, isn’t it? Exactly the same thing happened to me - two early miscarriages within a couple of months of each other. I was convinced I wouldn’t be able to sustain a pregnancy. However I got pregnant again two months after the second miscarriage and that one stuck; my DD is now almost two and a half.

Please don’t give up hope - two miscarriages is actually far more common than you realise (although very distressing when you are experiencing it).

I'm in a similar boat. Took a while to conceive DS but once I was pregnant, had a problem free and straight forward pregnancy.

Since then, have had a mmc at 11 weeks In Sept '16 which got very ugly and went on for 5 months. Then had a 5 week loss in October last year.

Still trying but losing hope. I'm 40 now just to add to the stress.

Really hope you get your sticky bfp soon x

It’s so hard isn’t it? The one thing we’re supposed to be able to do is reproduce yet it can be so hard and draining when it doesn’t go according to plan. I really struggled with my first mc but feeling a bit better about this one, I just want to get a BFP that sticks!

Sorry you're going through this. I had 2 miscarriages in 6 months before having my DD, it can just be shitty luck I think which is why they don't do tests unless you've had 3 in a row. I also had an ectopic last year. It's a minefield.

Ttc 22 months. Two chemicals. Last one was in March. Still not pregnant.

You've talked about your lifestyle and body etc... they had nothing to do with your miscarriages at all. Stop blaming yourself. I'm very sorry for your losses. The most likely causes were chromosmally abnormal embryos that never could have survived, if that is of any help.

The reason help is only offered on the nhs after three is because only about 1% of women will have three in a row, but about 5% of women will have two in a row - that's one in 20 women. That's a huge number. We just don't talk about miscarriage enough (because it's so painful) to realise how many women go through the same exact thing.

This is so true @physicskate it really is a taboo subject! Part of me wants to be very public about the whole thing to help others going through the same thing and the other part of me wants to keep quiet as I’m a private person. The thing I’ve struggled with the most is feeling so alone. Social media really doesn’t help! Seeing all the happy posts from people or ones where people complain about the most stupid things. We’ve only told our parents about both miscarriages and our siblings are constantly asking ‘oh when are you going to have another?’ - don’t you just hate that question!!

My third pregnancy after 2 mcs was the 'write off' one we needed to get us on to fertility investigations.

He's 6 months now.

I had 2 m/c at 11 weeks within a year and then went onto to have two successful pregnancies 5 years apart. I understand that feeling that you want to do everything you can to go to full term, it is really hard. Sometimes there is no logic or reason, it’s just bad luck.

Hope you get a BFP soon.

Thanks all. Has anyone tried using ovulation tests? It’s almost a year of us TTC and I’m wondering if this might help speed things up. Looking at all different tests with different ratings. The best one seems to be the clearblue digital but they’re so expensive! Although if it works the first month it would be worth it :)

I've tried everything... opks, taking bbt, every type of vit/ supplement on the market...

I'm now on clomid as they think pco might be causing anovulation (which I suspect is bunk). They mentioned IVF at my last appointment with the fertility clinic.

They don't count my chemicals as 'pregnancies' but my GP did, so said 'having another miscarriage and I'll offer you tests'. That or ttc ANOTHER 12 months. I had to self-refer to the fertility clinic after ttc about 16 months... They found polycystic ovaries (but my consultant says I don't have pcos because I don't 'look' like I have pcos????). So I'm glad I self-referred as I am further along with it, but equally disappointed that I am still not pregnant...

Sorry to hear this @physicskate Doctors can be so doom and gloom sometimes!
My doctor said I don’t have a problem as I’ve had a child before with no issues. My concern is I’ve got a hormone imbalance or something after having her that’s causing me to miscarry. I’m going for a consultation at a private fertility clinic soon to see what they say. Would rather do that now that wait for a potential 3rd miscarriage

I am sorry you're going through this,I know how hard it is. I had a mmc at 10weeks last year it was horrible I had to have to medical management for it. Had a second miscarriage 4 months later at 7 weeks. And a month later I found out I was pregnant only to start bleeding the day after the bfp but thankfully it was nothing and continued to have healthy pregnancy.

I’m so confused with my body! Having only found out I had a miscarriage on Friday (and the bleeding had stopped 4 days before) the pregnancy symptoms have been getting so much worse!
After my last miscarriage the symptoms stopped after the bleeding stopped and my period arrived 4 weeks later.
The last couple of days I’ve been so bloated (like I look 3 months pregnant!!). My boobs are really aching, I’m nauseous most of the time and I feel so exhausted all the time. I was convinced maybe I still am pregnant but took another HPT today which was negative again (that’s 3 BFPs and 3 BFNs I’ve had since the bleeding stopped last Monday).

We starting TTC again from Saturday and I took OVK from Monday but they’ve been negative with the second line getting fainter each day until today there was no second line at all today so I must have ovulated right after my miscarriage right?

Anyway, today I had some spotting with brown/red discharge. Only a tiny amount and only when I wiped. What’s that all about? Surely that can’t be implantation bleeding from having sex at the weekend? I don’t see how it can be part of the miscarriage and it’s not my period.

So confused!! Anyone else had this??

Sorry for the long ranty post!