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Pumpkin18 · 04/01/2018 22:58

Anyone else had enough of this trying to conceive lark? I have to say I'm feeling it this month.
For the first time EVER the cruel bch that is AF was 4 days late in arriving. So I had a few days of uncertainty mixed with hopeful excitement while I p'doas and selected the pram I wanted on the Mothercare website (does everyone do this??) and I'm not gonna lie when I went to the toilet for the 100th time that day and realised that my friend AF had come to visit yet again, she did get called a c u next Tuesday! I dont normally use that type of language but this week it seemed fitting. When I told my husband over dinner "my period got called a c* today" he said it was the funniest thing I had ever said and that I should immediately put that as my facebook status. I declined. If only not to alert all my friends and family to the fact that we are desperate to get up the duff.
The world paints this lovely picture of trying for a baby...it'll be fun they say, think of all the sex you'll have they say! Your best friend gets preggo on the first try and everyone tells you how "it will happen in no time, don't worry about it!" They know nothing of the gut wrenching, soul destroying agony every month when you are sure you've done everything right, taken your vitamins, checked ovulation, eaten all the good stuff and had sex 15 times in 10 days and still no little bundle of joy is on the way! I vow not to give up as of course it's the means to a beautiful end but this journey is not what I thought I was signing up for

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juneybean · 04/01/2018 23:07

It's really shit love. Would love to be one of those people that tried one month and bfp! As it is I've lost count of what cycle I'm on ... Possibly 14.

Sick of taking vitamins, I pretty much rattle!

Bubblegum89 · 04/01/2018 23:18

Anyone who says trying for a baby is meant to be fun has never really tried for a baby lol

minielise · 05/01/2018 00:08

I know how you feel! Every time we do the deed my partner gets excited and tells me he thinks that’s the one, and at least once a week he comments that I’ve not had a period in ages (it could have only been a week since my last period) as glad as I am that he is excited, it’s making me really struggle to focus on anything else!

Bugsbubby · 05/01/2018 00:19

Here here! It’s rubbish, af is a c*! Think you have got yourself a great thread name there!

I just had a total rant at DH over the documentary on channel 4 about the family with 20 children, don’t get me wrong they’ve had their hard times, but how can it be so easy for some couples! It’s so upsetting!

surreygirl1987 · 05/01/2018 22:59

Slow handclap well said!!!!

Owlpatrol · 06/01/2018 21:23

Girl I'm with you here! First few months was like living in bliss no ovulation tests no temping just naive thinking it would happen. Now cycle 14 and exactly the same af is a cn and I totally get you! @Bugsbubby yep ranted to dh about that show as well.....

Now I'm at a point where I only barely recognise a few names on here now. Everyone else is on the pregnancy boards from when I first joined and I'm pratically on the shelf.

I've done the whole pram thing as well..... sigh

Got two close friends who are pregnant. One other girl who came off pill got pregnant next month didn't realise till 10 weeks!?!?!??!

Anyway currently on cd6 have no idea what I'm planning this month. Smep didn't work last month. Meh can't be obsessed and can't not be obsessed either way not getting a bfp!!!!

Owlpatrol · 06/01/2018 21:35

Oh I should have added that I had a total melt down this week as I realised that my life had practically been on hold whilst ttc this last year as I didn't create any new years resolutions last year. We put off holidays decorating etc "just in case" I got pregnant. That didn't happen so I was super down. Now I almost feel numb about it. We are making some plans this year but I don't know where to start. Before I had labelled myself as "ttc" now I feel I need to be in another category of "infertile" and I'm just not ready for that Sad sorry for going on. Thanks for listening!

Pumpkin18 · 06/01/2018 21:39

@Owlpatrol cycle day 6 here too, bought a clear blue ovulation monitor but other than that this month I am just going to be pouncing on the poor exhausted husband at every opportunity. The sooner I can buy that beautiful pram I've earmarked the better Grin Back to the same old s* and just hoping for no tears this month! Wine

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physicskate · 06/01/2018 21:41

I recognise you owl... I'm at 22 months ttc. If you're on the shelf!!!??

Actually, I'm finding it's getting easier. It's expected. No hope. Not even pretend hope. Statistically, the more time goes on, the less likely it is to happen. About 2% of people ttc will fall at 20 months... so I know it's either a 20% or 2% chance... diminishing rate of return and all that...

Pumpkin18 · 06/01/2018 21:43

@Owlpatrol we decided that we would have a big holiday while we can so are off to America in a couple of months, sick of not doing things "just in case". There's no point making this experience even less fun! Smile

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MynameisJune · 06/01/2018 23:40

Totally over TTC now, I wish I could give up but I can’t bring myself to yet.

We also put life on hold last year ‘just in case’. That’s not happening this year, live he life you’ve got, don’t mourn the one you haven’t as someone much wiser than me said.

Can I just add though, DD took 6 years but it happened and naturally too. So there is always, always a little bit of hope.

Owlpatrol · 07/01/2018 00:48

What lovely comments nice to have a supportive thread like this. Yes I've definitely decided not to put life on hold this year. We are decorating and doing garden projects and we are booking a weekend to Rome fx xx

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