Ready to start a family... but...

[Griffy86]

Hi all - my partner and I (together 7 years) got married on Saturday and ready to start trying for a baby.

The only thing is, I'm feeling really anxious about starting to try as I'm so terrified we won't be able to conceive :( I have a polycystic ovary and he has a testicular problem (with one duct).

I'm so excited at the prospect of starting a family but have an overwhelming sense of anxiety and sadness at the thought of us having a hard time or not having any luck at all.

Has anyone experienced similar concerns or issues and how did you deal with the anxiety?

You just kinda have to try and not stress. Meditation, lots of research, music- whatever works for you. Doctors dont care for the first 12 months of trying so you kinda have to get on with it.
Are you regular? Period trackers can be useful to know when you're theoretically fertile. Ovulation sticks can help to show if you are ovulating. Start the folic acid now. There is such a thing as too much or too little sex

Yes am regular and have downloaded an ovulation app. My friend who just had her second (and last) child has just given me her folic acid stock to will start to take them now. I think we're pretty well prepared but I'm just not sure how to overcome the feelings of sadness I'm having about the possibility of it not happening... I know it's silly to worry about something that hasn't even happened yet but it's making me feel terrible

I had a totally irrational fear of not being able to conceive, for years beforehand I thought we would have the worst luck. I used a tracking app for a few months so I started to understand my cycles and then just tried to relax. No harm in just going for it!

Stress can make it harder so you really do have to find a way to let it go. Cry it out, scream, write, whatever it takes.

Do everything you can - healthy diet, cut alcohol when you're fertile, regular sex and just see. It only takes once.
How old are you both?

Men's body's are pretty interesting in the fact that if only one testicle is able to work for whatever reason. The working one will work twice as hard to produce the exact same amount of sperm.
As for your psoc it's great idea to tack your fertility. And yes maybe it may take a little longer but it can happen. My friend has psoc and has just had her first 12 weeks ago.
Could keeping a diary help. If you write down your feelings it may help to get the worry out of your head.
Also speak to the doctor they may have advice on anxiety.
Enjoy trying and good luck op my finger as crossed for you both!
Oh and congratulations on your marriage also

Thank you everyone for your kind words :) So far this year I'm not drinking any alcohol, although I'm not much of a drinker really other than the occasional indulgence! I also eat very healthily i.e. proper home cooked food every day with lots of fresh vegetables.

I think the diary thing is a good idea to try and alleviate the stress and anxiety. I have a lot of nightmares/night terrors too so I think I will start to document these as well.

If there's anything else you think I should be doing please let me know :)