Keep trying or IVF?

[HappyHedgehog247]

Hi

I'm wondering if anyone has thoughts or info that will help me make a decision.

I'm TTC #2 with a friend who is being my donor who I know is recently fertile. I've had my AMH tested and it's 11 and my progesterone is 36 and had a scan that showed 10-11 follicles.

I am 42.5 and am torn whether to keep trying naturally or try IVF.
We have had 3 cycles which isn't long but we live in different countries so we can't always make the dates work with time off work etc. so only getting to try every other cycle. It also costs money for flights and accommodation each time. I went for an IVF consultation and he said it would significantly improve my chances. It obviously costs more money but I also hear it is emotionally and physically hard. I'm a single mum of DD5. He said it would be about 3 months to get the IVF sorted which would mean I'd be almost 43 then. WWYD?

Thanks for any thoughts

Hi I didn't want to read and run. I can't comment on your age as I'm 29....but I wanted to give you a virtual hug and say how much I admire what you are doing in terms of ttc! It's obviously something you really want and if you can afford the ivf why not? You've obviously picked a good guy as well so can't see any reason not to as every other month ttc is going to take a while especially if you have to time it perfectly etc x good luck

thank you @owlpatrol, that's a lovely note! x

If I were you I would be going straight for the ivf... I’m also 42, and if we were ttc again I wouldn’t hesitate to start ivf - if you keep trying on your own & it doesn’t work the chance that ivf will work will presumably decrease as you get older. Don’t waste any time!!
I went through 5 rounds of ivf to have our dd (almost 4) and although it was tough I would do it again. Personally, the medication was fine with the exception of a couple of hot flushes when I started, but the hard part is the emotional rollercoaster you are on. There is no escaping the treatment - we were given instructions every day before pick up/transfer, and then with the progesterone pessaries after pick up/transfer you cannot fail to think about it all the time. That for me was the most difficult thing, the time, effort & emotion you invest into something that may or may not work... Totally worth it though for us though!!
Good luck whatever you decide 😊

Thank you Chintaria. That's really helpful to hear. I have the paperwork here from the consultation and have been a bit daunted but am going to read through it all today.