Young and trying to convince.

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Hi new to this, my self and my partner are currently on the subject of settling down completely and having a child when my implant runs out in June. By then I will almost be 22 and my partner will almost be 23. We’re completely smitten with each other and have been together 4 years in June Are we a bit naive and dumb for wanting this at such a young age? We get sooo exited at the thought it’s been a nightly bed talk for the last few weeks.

Not at all! In fact it sounds like you aren’t rushing into it and in a stable relationship and if it’s what you both want and can afford to, why not.

honeycake86. We’re desperate might be unusual for someone my age. Neither of us live at home we have a 2 bed flat together and two cats both have steady fairly well paid job. 100% commited to each other and a life together. We plan to use the time from now to June roughly to save. I might be young and dumb but my OH is literally the only man I can imagine my life with.

How long have you lived together? Do you own a house? Do you have a degree? Have you done all the travelling you'll want to do for the next 5 years or so? Are you fiancially stable? Those are the questions I'd be asking myself I were you. It's not about age, I'm 22 myself and my DH is 27 and we're going to start TTC in the summer, but we've done all of those things above. It's about stage in life.

Sorry OP, cross post there.
Who will look after the baby? If you are giving up work you seriously need to consider getting married for financial protection. If you don't get married, give your baby your surname not your partners. But getting married shouldn't be a problem as you are 100% committed

You sound like you're in a pretty good place to be thinking about this, much better than I was when I had Dd.

I say good luck. It sounds like you are pretty stable in your relationship and both have good jobs. Having a child young doesn't have to be a bad thing, when your child is 18 you'll only be 40, so you've got plenty of time for your career... travels or... anything.

Just make sure you're 100% sure. It can seem exciting but it's hard work and does put a strain on your relationship. So just be prepared mentally for that.

Ah, missed that you aren't married.

I agree with the pp about that. If you're going to be financially dependent on your partner make sure you're married.

Good grief, do it.

I don't know why you think 22 is young and dumb? It's not that young. I doubt you're dumb if you're carefully considering this.

I was 23 when I had my first. That was time to get a degree, a grad job, a nice flat, and travel together before baby.
I'm now 25 with 3, and building a good FT career.

I was a good 10 years younger than my ante natal class mums, but I felt I was at a benefit because of my age, not a detriment.

It's best for your body at this age.
And in a way best for your career, as you can get your maternity leaves out of the way early.

You have a flat (I wouldn't worry about owning one, nobody can do that these days), a lovely man and your health. I say get on with it!