SMEP - Any success stories?

[Sshsecretenclosed]

Ttc #1 month 13 here and willing to try anything! Been reading up on Sperm meets egg plan - anybody had any joy??

[Sshsecretenclosed]

Congratulations Brownbear! Mizz we are here with you. Who knows what tomorrow will bring. I hope it's a positive opk. All is not lost

[Cupcakesandlove]

Try later this evening. Are the lines getting progressively darker?

[HellaBella0]

@Mizzworthy1 I’ve been panicking all week as I hadn’t ovulated. I just got first positive opk today on cd19 so guessing I’ll ovulate on cd20/21. My cycles can be a little off and once it was cd28.

Congrats @Brownbear84, great to hear more SMEP success stories!

[Sshsecretenclosed]

This SMEP can send you a bit wild and focusing solely on ttc-ing, I'm finding. We have DTD on cds, 8, 10, 13, 15, 16 and then last night we DTD but DH was so tired from working shifts and getting up for a night shift, that he ermmm couldn't quite finish his erm performance. I feel like such a bitch because I wasn't particularly happy about that. Now feel like we've ruined all the other good work because DTD three days in a row is so important. Goodness me. Sorry for a moan,

[Owlpatrol]

@Sshsecretenclosed darling I know exactly what you mean.... we've managed cd11 and that's all now currently cd14 not had a positive opk either. I really feel for you it's such hard work! I think I'm out already or not ovulating this month

[Sshsecretenclosed]

Thanks Owl. Feel disheartened and like I've screwed up all the good work today. Don't even know whether to DTD today or just wave it. Finding it really hard emotionally to just DTD to a schedule. Feels like it's a chore. I hate it today.

[Mrsjones17]

@sshsecretenclosed this is exactly what happened to us last month! It's absolutely knackering and then outs unnecessary pressure on you both and then if you are like us we had a little bit of a tiff because we felt like we have 'let ourselves down!'. I feel for you and can really empathise. Have you had your positive OPK yet? Remember that most woman don't ovulate until 12/36 hours AFTER positive OPK so you could maybe afford to miss a day to give you both some headspace and time to recover!

[Filzma]

Sshsecretencloded don't worry. Do you temp? Also when did you get a pos opk? Don't forget that sperm could survive for about 5 days. Technically there could have been sperm ready to meet and fertilise the egg. Also the 'fresher' batch of swimmers need to capacitate before fertilising the egg. My point is, the egg usually is alive about 12-24hrs or less post o and if any fertilisation is to take place, it's most likely from pre o bd either from the day before or even from 4 days before! So don't worry, you really have tried your best. Try get in an attempt tonight but no pressure.😉😊 Keep toying with DH (might stimulate quick sperm dvpt), hopefully by tonight it'll pay off.😝☺️

[Sshsecretenclosed]

Bless you. Thank you. I don't temp no. I had positive opk on cd15. So DTD on 15 and 16. Hoping for DTD today for sure! He's just so tired because of shift pattern - real life gets in the way!!

[Owlpatrol]

Totally know what you mean. You try not to put pressure on to dtd but it happens. Then if your sore it doesn't help either! Last month when af came i felt like I dissapointmed myself and let myself dowm. It's so stupid when you look back but when you're in the moment it's so hard x

[Sshsecretenclosed]

Yep and you're tired and generally feel like it's lost all spontaneity and love. Odd this ttc business!!

[Sshsecretenclosed]

And can I just say that if I didn't have this as an outlet on here, I don't know what I'd do with myself xx

[Katievb]

I’m in the same position with my OH.. we have been dtd every other day from when af finished then got a positive OPK on Friday so dtd then, but he couldn’t do it last night. Had abit of a tiff now I feel awful :( So nice to know I’m not the only one feeling deflated! Today we are meeting friends who have just had a baby... I’m sure they are going to tell the story again of how they wasn’t trying and it was such a shock blah blah blah xxx

[Brownbear84]

Luckily was over xmas when I ovulated and we was both of work and was dtd all the time so wasn't a chore probably why we got caught so quick xx

[Sshsecretenclosed]

I'm just hoping all our efforts aren't in vain. Just been out for coffee and of course a very small baby was at the next table. My ovaries!!

[Mizzworthy1]

Still no ovulation. I'm now convincing myself ill never have another child. Bad day today.

[NelleB]

I'm having right side pelvic pain, I've cried over pancakes (what an idiot), I've had another nap and my cervix (too much information ) is hard, high and closed. AF not due until next weekend. I don't think I can do another 6-7 days of waiting 😖

[Sshsecretenclosed]

Oh my. Ladies I feel you both. Here's me weeping over not DTD on cd17!

[NelleB]

@Sshsecretenclosed we missed the last one down to pure exhaustion. It can't be helped. Lots of luck for you. I hope it's all our months!

[PickettBowtruckles]

My cycles are a bit all over the place since coming off contraception but agreed with DH we're going to give this a try cycle (waiting for AF to show currently but not pregnant!). Seems like there is lots of positive stories about it :)

[surreygirl1987]

Ha guys I can totally sympathise... told my oh earlier we're going to bd later and I've never seen him look more miserable at the prospect!! Ha the madness of ttc...

[Filzma]

Lol Surreygirl, sometime back when I was a prude... I remember a lady claimed to 'empty her OH's testicles' before he travels for work by bding 3-4 days in a row. That's the only way she was sure he'd be repulsed by the thought of anything sex related. I was like whaaaaa 😱😱😱
I see what she meant. 😂

[Sshsecretenclosed]

Love it filma haha. Oh my. DH is really tired tonight again because of work and another early shift starting at -2am. Got a feeling tonight ain't gonna be productive either

[moobeana]

We did what my gyn joking referred to as ‘SMEP plus’!

Sex every other day that I didn’t have a period (long periods) and the. Everyday when I thought I was ovulating/ due to ovulate.
I temped, used preseed lubricant and we did this for 4 months!

I spoke to him after 2 and expressed issues with fatigue and performing so often.

He gave us some syringes (kinda the same as preseed ones’ and told us to do ‘at home turkey basting’ on the days we were tired. It is not romantic, but it does take the pressure off! And it works. Our dd is definitely a turkey child, I had a hideous cold the month we conceived and barely had sex!

Good luck!

[Sshsecretenclosed]

Great story moo! So pleased to hear you got your precious dc.