TTC if DP can't evacuate - how?!

[spunkmonkey]

Hello. Does anyone have any experience of this?

DP rarely ejaculates when we're having sex. He can come by hand (his mainly) and sometimes mouth (mine ) but hardly ever in my vagina. Some sort of psychological thing i think -it's been an issue with previous partners too

We're not TTC yet but I'm thinking ahead.

Presuming how/where he ejaculates doesn't change, any ideas to get me pregnant ?! TIA

EJACULATE not evacuate 🙄🙄🙄🙄

Fertility clinics routinely list that kind of issue as something they deal with (IUI/IVF/ICSI).

Can he bring himself to the point of finishing then enter you at the last second?
Alternatively there are women on here who have conceived by their partner ejectulating into a cup then inserting it with a syringe.

Have him ejaculate into a condom (ones without spermicidal lubricant) or a sterile container and self inseminate using a syringe. Unromantic but pretty effective provided there are no other issues for either of you.

condom and syringe

We had the same issue (hence username) - don't suppose he watches a lot of porn?

Anyway, he got himself to the finishing point and then entered - worked first time which was a shock since I have my own issues, and it was twins.

I have heard of people using a mooncup - ejaculate into one and then insert it. Not sure how successful it is but seems like it would work

Thanks all.

Yes he does watch porn but I'm not sure it makes a huge difference, although we have talked about it. He takes a certain medication which I don't think helps. I've had similar where I can make myself orgasm but my partner can't!

If doing the self insemination thing I'm wondering if it's worth being very exact about when we do it? So tracking my temperature right from the start and doing it on specific days rather than at random. Almost separating sex for enjoyment from 'getting sperm in for TTC'. Romantic!

Yes I think that's a good idea. TTC sex can be tedious at the best of times so focusing your efforts on getting sperm where it needs to be on the right days is important.

There’s nothing romantic about ttc I’m afraid, OP. Collecting into a condom and syringing may be your best bet. You will need to track your ovulation though as you need the sperm up there for a couple of days before you ovulate (or the day of at the latest) so it would be a case of getting him to ejacate into a condom (no spermicide) or some kind of container on a designated day and syringing it in asap. Unfortunately other than that, it would have to be dealt with by fertility specialists. Good luck

Make sure the condom is a non-spermicidal or lubricating one