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Will the world burst into flames if you TTC and move at the same time?

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Margaritaanyone89 · 27/12/2017 02:39

I'm going to TTC this Jan, my OH wants to wait until we move before I become pregnant, he's high anxiety and thinks it will be the worst thing in the world to move whilst pregnant or move after I have the baby. (He thought we'd have moved by Jan which is why he agreed a year ago that Jan we could TTC).

He's very rigid in his ways, like if I sprung on him "we're going to the cinema after work" he'd have a melt down as he wasn't expecting it. But after he went to the cinema and realised the world wasn't falling apart, he's absolutely fine and happy. (He might even be just on the spectrum or just have anxiety issues, I haven't worked out!)

My opinion: we've been together for 6 years, it's been difficult trying to sell our house as we've had to fix several things up this past year. We are emotionally, financially and excitedly ready for a new child I've been preparing for Jan and have built myself up as that's when we're conceiving. We have enough bedrooms here if worst comes to worse and we haven't moved in time (very unlikely!!). The only thing my partner is against is TTC before we move.

He's heard people say "the most stressful thing in life is moving and having a baby" and believes our world will crumble if we try and do both.

I just can't wait any longer! I want to start trying in Jan in the hope of having DC near Christmas so they won't be the youngest of the year but I also want him to enjoy the pregnancy and not be anxious the whole time!

Has anyone moved whilst pregnant? Was it as bad as you'd imagined?

Is it too far to just TTC and then reassure him afterwards?! (I know he'll be absolutely fine when DC would be born and the world hasn't burst into flames like he feared). It's just his anxiety before hand.

Just wanted to share and see what others thought?

OP posts:
Thissameearth · 28/12/2017 15:17

I moved house in first trimester and didn't enjoy the admin hassle of packing and booking movers, changing address and then getting used to being further away from friends and usual spots etc. I couldn't help out with the lifting etc and i felt really sick and generally rank! Furnishing and Decorating and being pregnant and working FT was a pain for me (just another chore) and I was paranoid about harming baby (had early miscarriage month before) so was worried about paint fumes and strong cleaning products etc. If age is not a pressing issue i would be inclined to wait but then when you have that baby itch then...i would also say though that I realised certain things that made our new home less desirable so if you have baby first you might have better idea of what you want in a home

TheIntrovertedMum · 28/12/2017 17:22

I've been wanting to TTC since I had a mc in Feb last year, we live in a 2 bed apartment and would need to move to a 3 bed house if we have another. We got our apartment sale agreed on Oct and are moving to our 3 bed house in jan/Feb so we have started TTC now. I wouldn't fancy moving heavily pregnant or with a newborn so I would at least wait until you get your place sale agreed or have a completion date to start!

randomsabreuse · 28/12/2017 17:25

Fine. We started the buying process before starting ttc, completed on our project in Feb, moved in May, DD born in August - was fine and she still sleeps through all sorts of noises...

TheIntrovertedMum · 28/12/2017 17:27

Ps reading this again makes me realise I am like your husband I have anxiety over everything and sometimes question if I'm a high functioning aspie. Like I have full anxiety fits on my lunch break at work if my hubby asks me to go somewhere for him instead of being able to do what I want. I'm like noooo do not break my routine 😂

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