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Conception

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TTC - Symptoms - Need suggestions

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shama · 23/07/2004 21:30

i am new to this group. i have read some of the discussions.
my dh and i are ttc. (from this month). this is our first attempt.
on the day of first attempt(note: first attempt in life), i felt very tired the whole day, had some discharge throughout the day and had some pulling sensation in the abdomen area. could not sit up straight.had to lean backward slightly.
on the next day (no attempt), i was still feeling tired and the pulling sensation in the abdomen area still existed. no discharge.
thinking all this are symptoms of first attempt at ttc, i thought a second attempt may make my body get used to the foreign materials. And surprisingly, i had no symptoms at all.

can anyone explain what is happening? after first attempt is this what happens normally?
am i pg? can these be symptoms of pg? or was it ovulation and hence, we should make some more attempts for the next few days?

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Moomin · 24/07/2004 17:55

shama - do you mean that the 'first attempt' was the 1st day you started having unprotected sex? You wouldn't feel anything from actually the moment you'd had sex unless it had hurt maybe or you hadn't had sex in a while (or ever before)?!
Or, if you had sex around the 14th day of your cycle, you may have been ovulating and then you might experience some pain - some women do but not all.
And what do you mean by 'foreign materials'?
Forgive me for saying so but you seem very inexperienced - how much DO you know about ttc?

happy1 · 24/07/2004 18:03

You may have pulled a muscle, which would explain the pulling sensation. You would not get pregnancy symptoms yet, if I am right I don't think symptoms occur until implantation, which is 7 - 12 days after conception, I think(I'm no expert but I read alot!) Good luck though. It took us three months to get pregnant with both children, which is quite quick compared to some couples

haggis1 · 24/07/2004 21:28

Are your symptons similar to how you feel when a period is due? Could be you were just ovulating and feeling cranky and sore because of this. Just concentrate just now on relaxing and enjoying the TTC! If it happens, well done but it took DH and I quite a few months and I tried not to connect every body sensation to being pregnant!Waited until period was late then panicked!Good luck..

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shama · 25/07/2004 02:57

Moomin, yes i mean unprotected sex when i say first attempt. Yes, i am totally inexperienced.
Even after the second attempt (even now) i am feeling something very different in my lower abdomen. very tired & sleepy too.
By foreign materials i meant sperm cells.

10th and 12 th day of my cycle we had the first and second attempts.

My periods are almost always pain-free. Not much hassle. This feeling is not like that before a period. Thanks, haggis1 i will try not to connect every body sensation to being pg. (i have been doing this all this while).

I don't think i have pulled a muscle. doesn't feel that way.

I am so worried, so many questions in my head.
Thanks to all your responses, i feel i have somebody to consult when i feel strange or have any problem.

Do you think i should go for another attempt or wait and see until next month?

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collision · 25/07/2004 16:24

Put your DH on zinc for a start as this produces healthy sperm.

Around the time of ov have as much sex as possible and try to relax. The more you worry the less likely you are conceive.

How old are you if you dont mind me asking?

You wont be able to tell if you are PG for a while so dont panic about every twinge.

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shama · 25/07/2004 20:39

I am 23.

i will try not to worry.

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Moomin · 25/07/2004 23:03

The basics that you might want to bear in mind are:
Your cycle starts on the 1st day of each period and you are likely to be most fertile between the 11th and 17th days (if you have a roughly 28 day cycle). Some women know they are ovulating because they get a pain in one side, some also get a vaginal discharge that looks like egg white and this is all totally normal.
To maximise your chances of getting pregnant, try to have unprotected sex every 2 to 3 days in the middle of your cycle, although some doctors/experts say that couples that have sex about 2 times a week throughout the cycle have just as much chance as anyone.
You probably won't really get any major symptoms of pregnancy until your period is due, so it's much better to wait and see if you are late rather than worrying about it every month and taking early tests.
You might have noticed things about your body that you normally wouldn't notice, just because you are ttc - it tends to make you more aware of every single little twinge and pain!
Try to relax and enjoy it all and then just wait and see.... good luck! x

littlemissbossy · 25/07/2004 23:09

Shama, I was very lucky in that I had no problems in conceiving, however I learnt from friends, particularly those who had experienced difficulties, is that the most important thing you can do is relax and try to not worry. You're only young and it will happen, but if you have any questions along the way, just post here and someone wise will be able to offer you the right advice. Good luck lmbx

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shama · 26/07/2004 03:21

Thanks littlemissbossy . I will keep calm.
Thanks Moomin for the basics. Maybe that explains it, since i am ttc, i am beginning to notice even slight changes.

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almost40 · 26/07/2004 03:32

Hi Young Shama, As the others have said here, try not to think too much about it, and try not to think about it as 'attempts'. Just enjoy yourself and your DH, and good luck!

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shama · 27/07/2004 14:55

dh and i have been taking centrum (has zinc & folic acid) and calcium supplement for past 1 or 2 months.

today we had our third day of sex (third attempt in my lingo) .

i have the same symptoms as the first attempt day. Complete wetting. tired. cannot sit up straight. need to lean backward.

only in the first attempt and third attempt all this is happening. second attempt these symptoms did not occur much.

i don't know when i ovulate etc.

any ideas what this is?

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malinki · 27/07/2004 14:58

Is wind and heartburn a good sign as well as tiredness, bloatedness and sore boobs, I have also had a wierd pants experience (see thread, do you suffer with....), I only ask as I have had terrible heartburn for the last couple of days and wind that I cannot believe I make, now CD29, usually CD34-36 days

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shama · 27/07/2004 15:12

i don't have heartburn. what is wind?

yes, i read that thread "does anyone suffer with...".

i was waiting to see if u are pg so i could have my hopes on.

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Staceyk · 27/07/2004 16:24

Shama wind is burps or farts.

malinki · 28/07/2004 14:59

Staceyk, nicely put
Well CD30 and slight AF pains, but no AF, if no AF by next Friday 06/08, I will test!!!

Tessiebear · 28/07/2004 15:13

Are you saying that you get these symptoms because you have had sex??? Just because you are trying to conceive sex is not going to feel any different to any other time because pregnancy does not occur the second you have sex?!? Dont want to sound patronising.When you say foreign material, are you saying that you have never had unprotected sex before?

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shama · 28/07/2004 22:47

yes. and all these effects because of unprotected s.

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runtus · 29/07/2004 08:22

Shama, am I right in thinking that English is not your first language? Apologies if I am wrong but maybe that is why you are having difficulty expressing what you mean.......

I would suggest that maybe you have a slight infection and this is being aggravated by the sperm produced during the unprotected sex. It could explain why you have never experienced the problems before. Maybe it would be good to make and appointment with your doctor or if you do not want to go there, a local Family Planning clinic as these are completely anonymous and even your regualr doctor would not have to know you had been.

Just a guess but I hope it helps

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shama · 30/07/2004 15:47

I consider my English to be pretty good.

I think I am pretty new to this ttc , sex things. That is all.

I am scared now. Do I have an infection? Is it something serious? I will talk to my dh so that we can plan to go to the clinic.

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shama · 30/07/2004 15:51

it is either the inexperience or the shyness in me that is causing me to stutter.Hence I am unable to express myself clearly.

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runtus · 02/08/2004 08:24

Shama, don't worry about the stuttering - we all have to start somewhere and you seem to be doing ok to me.

I'm not saying you def do have and infection but I would pop along to your local clinic to check it out. While you are there and I know this is embarassing, have a word with someone about the problems you are having. They see so many people everyday, I am sure you are not alone in your experiences. Look at it this way, you will never have to see them again anyway so even if they look at you like you are mad (they won't)it doesn't matter

tex111 · 02/08/2004 09:05

Hi Shama, I would also suggest a book that you and DH could read. It would probably put a lot of your concerns to rest and you could learn about trying to conceive. That's what we did when we first started trying. There are lots out there and you could look on amazon.co.uk for ideas. My favourite is a book called 'Taking Charge of Your Fertility' by Toni Weschler. I also like a book called 'Womans Body' by Miriam Stoppard. It's more of a general book on women's health but it's very useful and could help answer some questions for you. Good luck to you!

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shama · 09/08/2004 00:09

I got my period today, so I don't think I am pg
Maybe I will try my luck this month. I will read some books this month.

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