Anyone else struggling over Xmas? Want to rant?

[Worriedscot2207]

Hey! I don’t know how anyone else is feeling About xmas? I’m normally strong and positive but this week is definitely a struggle!
Any tips / advice to power through? I love spending time with family but dreading the awkward baby chat and SIL is pregnant again!
Love her to bits but have that awful reminder that we aren’t expecting any time soon 😩

Yeah it's thoroughly crap. I just got my period today as well. I had so been looking forward to announcing to my parents on Christmas Day.

How long have you been trying?

Least we can drink and eat lots of cheese.

Me. Ttc 13 months now. No pregnancies in that time. Period is due on Christmas Day and my very pregnant little sister is currently on twitter moaning about her cankles and pregnancy acne 🙄

Thanks for your reply Bubblegum & Juneybean. Yeah it’s tough! We’ve been trying for years, had the investigations & I finally got that BFP in August. 11 weeks later I miscarried. I seemed to just power through & work is busy as ever but this week I’m really teary! Had an absolute meltdown in front of a colleague & she was in shock!
Yeah at least we can drink all the prosecco going! And like your sister, I would love nothing more than moaning about pregnancy Kankles & acne! How do you get through it? Blind drunk sounds like an idea!?

Hi @worried I'm also feeling bleugh this Christmas, been trying for #2 for almost 2 years now and its driving me mad. Second Christmas wishing we had one on the way. So many second babies around. Dd getting older and I'm sure will soon realise and start asking. I've realised I've been sad for a year now, and this isn't fair to our little girl so Im trying to really spend time with her and enjoy her as she could be all we end up having and we're fortunate for that.

Still hard though.

Hi Sydbound27 thanks for sharing! Yeah 2 years feels like a life time doesn’t it! Do you mind if I ask if you’ve been to GP / had any investigations? Yeah it’s hard and I’m glad there’s forums here to know that we’re not alone!

I really hope you & your DD have an amazing Christmas! And I wish you every success with getting that BFP we all dream of!! ❤️ Xox

Hi ladies same here...ive been feeling so positive but my temps keep dipping and this morning I've already cried twice. Plus cramps I know are pre af. I'm only cd21 and 7dpo but when you know af is coming you just know. I'm dreading Xmas day I'm the oldest child and grandchild and stupidly I told my aunt we were ttc and I love her to bits but she will ask at Xmas and I'm just not prepared to tell her. I can't test till new years day at the earliest so it's going to be tough couple of days. I am desperately sad...13 months down the line as well @Bubblegum89 same as you so I just thought we'd have been pregnant by now and not such a thing as even a squinted

Completely agree! I'm so over it this year. We have been TTC for 21 months with no hint of a bfp and it's such a stark reminder of how much time has passed. Someone on the radio yesterday was talking about how you only really discover the meaning and joy in christmas once you have kids and I had to turn it off as it made me so sad. We have loads of friends and family expecting in the spring so it's their last christmas just the two of them and I just wish so so much we were in that position.

I do quite a bit of singing and there are so many carols about mother and baby, and I mean the christmas story is based on Mary getting pregnant without even having sex! So many reminders of my failings...

AF is due 2 days after christmas for me, and I know I'm going to struggle to keep it together around pregnant SiL on Christmas day when the inevitable spotting and pms starts.

Hugs to all. This is such a tough time of year for so many people for all kinds of reasons. Bring on January!

Oh god yes! We’ve been trying for #2 for over a year. Had a early loss in October at 5w. Would have been about 15 weeks now and we were planning on having an early scan and telling family on New Year’s Day along with whether it was a girl or boy. Instead we are still trying, and I’m just so over it all. So many of my friends have conceived and/or had babies whilst we have been trying. I just want to scream ‘why me’ after DD took so long as well.

TTC is so bloody unfair and heartbreaking but here’s hoping for new year bfp’s for us all!

I'm due on Christmas Day it sucks!!! Will be alone Christmas evening when DS is in bed too. They'll be some tears.

Ugh, I'm with you, sisters. This week I've had a baby shower for a colleague going off on mat leave, and have been baby-bombed today by a friend who's pregnant again five minutes after having her first one. So. Not. Fair. If only someone could just TELL me "you'll get pregnant in April/October/2029" I could move on with my life until then knowing that it would happen, but it's the not knowing if it will EVER happen that kills me. Meanwhile, every month hope gets raised and then dashed, and my poor DH who would love children and be an amazing dad is patient and wonderful and I hate that I can't give him the baby he deserves :( Praying it will be my turn soon, and for all of you girls too! x

@pirate completely agree on the not knowing front. If I could just know for sure that it would happen eventually then I’d be happy to move on. The not knowing and lack of control is just mentally draining.

People who are pregnant are still allowed to moan. I’m sure when it happens for the posters on here, there will be plenty of things about pregnancy to moan about.

@firsttimemum no one is saying they can’t moan 🙄 did you really need to come on this thread just to add that? If you’ve never struggled to conceive you might not quite understand how heart wrenching it is having to listen to someone complain about something you’d welcome with open arms.

Meeeeee! AF is due tomorrow ending cycle 15 (month 13) ttc #2. I can categorically say that ttc (against a backdrop of literally everyone I know of childbearing age IRL getting upduffed) has ruined my 2017. It is like this horrid dark cloud that hovers overhead on even the brightest of days.

I even burst into tears at Euston today as we were making our getaway for Christmas. DH snapped at me and I ended up in floods of tears in the middle of the station. I hate the monthly rollercoaster so much... You have no idea how much I long to hang up my ttc shoes for good. Xxx

Thanks for Sharing ladies! We
All want that BFP so bad it’s really tough eh!
Feeling a little bit better today and just want this period to come so we can start all over again. I wholeheartedly agree about the date thing Pirate!! Wouldn’t that just make life so much less stressful n we can get on with our lives knowing when we would have a child! And MyNameisJune I would’ve been 20 weeks next week, it’s awful and I’m sorry for your loss too!! Everyone keeps saying “well at least now you know you can get pregnant!” And that just doesn’t help! 🤬 firsttimemummy I would love to be moaning all things pregnant and it’s amazing you’ve had that experience! But you along with other mothers are lucky enough to chat openly about the pits of pregnancy, where infertility and pregnancy loss is rarely openly discussed. Hence we do it on here as we feel alone in our challenges to be parents.
And Cariad 2017 it gets you in the most unpredictable places and times I know! Was filling my car up and almost broke down in the garage!
I really hope everyone has a good Christmas. And plenty of BFPs to look forward to next year! Xox