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Are we pregnant?

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HLMc · 19/12/2017 14:27

So, TTC #1 with hubby. I'm currently 6 days late for my period, due 13th December. I had a light bleed 9-10th December and have been feeling nauseus/cramping/tiredness. I tested the 14th, 1 day after missed period and again on 18th but both were negative. Any thoughts would be appreciated?

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Merrz · 19/12/2017 15:11

Are you're cycles usually very regular? If not it could just be a long cycle. It is also possible that you are pregnant but just not got enough of a hormone surge to detect on tests yet.
were you using opks or anything? Do you know when in your cycle you ovulated?

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HLMc · 19/12/2017 15:31

Thank you for getting back to me. My cycles are very regular, I've never been a day late. I think it was around 29th November although first time using them so unsure to be honest. Would you just wait for period to come or keep testing?

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CurryWorst · 19/12/2017 15:34

Doesn't sound like it.

(Hubby can't get pregnant btw, there is no we about it)

PinkAvocado · 19/12/2017 15:46

Usually by that many days late, you’d pick it up on a hpt. I had odd longer length cycles this year and ovulated late so Id try another test in a few days.

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HLMc · 19/12/2017 15:50

Well, didn't know you could get yourself pregnant! WE are trying. Thanks for that pointless comment 🤔

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HLMc · 19/12/2017 15:51

Thanks PinkAvacado, I will test in a few days

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Patienceofatoddler · 19/12/2017 16:24

@CurryWorst helpful comment of the day award there 

Sorry no words of wisdom @HLMc but wishing you the best of luck.

In our marriage it's also a journey for us both and the emotions / tears and joy are shared thus I completely understand your wording of 'we'.

I personally have realised the most reliable of cycles goes all over the place when ttc Confused Playing incredibly cruel tricks with you.

happymummy12345 · 19/12/2017 16:32

Not sure tbh. But I detest and despise the term "we are pregnant'. You and your husband are trying for a baby, but ONLY YOU will ever be pregnant.

CurryWorst · 19/12/2017 16:34

It is a helpful comment because if you keep saying it you will get a lot of people looking at you like this....Hmm
Just trying to save you the bother, no need to thank me.

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HLMc · 19/12/2017 16:35

Thank you anyway! Fingers crossed it sorts itself out soon either way! 😊

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Katurah · 19/12/2017 16:36

People are so weird. If you don't like how the OP has phrased her post, scroll on. Would you say that to her face? Mean fools.

OP good luck to you. I had a long and frustrating wait for my first BFP and discovered quickly that even though I thought I had a "regular cycle" and that I was "never ever late" as soon as watched my cycle like a hawk I realised none of those statements were true! Every month you'll learn more, track symptoms, track as much data as you can. You will get there! Baby dust and Christmas wishes to you.

Branleuse · 19/12/2017 16:37

Id be really surprised if your husband was pregnant

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HLMc · 19/12/2017 16:44

Ok, so obviously I'm not up to scratch on the rules of what to say/not say.
I didn't like the blunt tone of telling me it's nothing to do with my husband. I get that it's happening/will happen to MY body. I was only after some advice, not a grilling 😔 Thank you to those who have responded to actually advise, not criticise my use of words x

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AssassinatedBeauty · 19/12/2017 16:51

Sometimes stress etc can mess with your cycles. I'd test again in another few days just in case you ovulated late this cycle for some reason.

surreygirl1987 · 19/12/2017 16:56

Ignore the pointless and nasty comments
... really no need for them and sorry you've had to experience meanness when we should all be supporting each other! No advice I'm afraid. I'd be anticipating a bfp if I was that late but I also remember a time when my period was randomly 2 weeks late!! Good luck!!

Patienceofatoddler · 19/12/2017 18:10

@Katurah this exactly.

The OP came here for friendly advice as is going through what can be a really stressful time and has posted in what I thought was a supportive environment.

Turns out some are more interested in picking on choice of words rather than supporting in any way.

What a shame.

I'm wondering if they would be so rude to someone in person?

jwad · 19/12/2017 18:35

I'm in the same boat as you, im now 7 days late, regularly have cycles, 3 tests all negative. Me and my husband have been trying for a year now. I rang my GP today and they said to do another test in the morning and if it's negative- to go in and give a sample/ have a blood test. I honestly feel and hope I am pregnant but also worried if I'm not then something is wrong as I've never missed a period in my life!

ZigZagandDustin · 19/12/2017 18:43

I think it's nice to say 'we are pregnant'. Both of you are in it together. But you have to realise there's a lot of women who want to put men in their place about babies and their role or lack of role.

Anyway....

I wouldn't ever think I was pregnant until I had a positive test. It's very common to miss a cycle or a period to be delayed, even if you've been perfectly regular the last 15 yrs straight. The only possibility is that your ovulation WAS late and you did manage to hit it and in due course you get a positive but until you have that positive test, I wouldn't torture yourself thinking you might be.

Good luck!

LittleBearinaBigWorld · 19/12/2017 18:51

For what it's worth, I would consider it 'we' :-)

jwad · 19/12/2017 18:52

Majority of doctors recommend women to wait atleast a week into a missed period until a test should be taken, however I'm too much of a worrier and more apprehensive to wait. I know of women who had only received a positive test after 2 weeks of their missed period. Everyone is different but I have my fingers crossed for you!! :)

CurryWorst · 19/12/2017 19:50

But you have to realise there's a lot of women who want to put men in their place about babies and their role or lack of role
As if anyone cares about that. What it is is a lot of women who care about a)basic biology and b) the english language.
There is no"we" about pregnancy. It's an individual state that can only ever pertain to one half of the couple. It'd be the same if they were lesbians, its nothing to do with men.

surreygirl1987 · 19/12/2017 20:02

@curryworst thankfully in my relationship any pregnancy will be 'we' or 'us' - I wouldnt have it any other way. And as for those who 'care about the English language and basic biology... Hubby is a scientist and I'm an English Language teacher.

This is all irrelevant - surely what matters is supporting someone who has turned to the internet rather than criticising :)

MrsDx · 19/12/2017 20:06

@CurryWorst seriously be nice or say nothing. We are all on these threads because we want to support or be supported. Just be nice. Simple. Merry Christmas everyone x

genever · 19/12/2017 20:09

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ZigZagandDustin · 19/12/2017 20:42

It's perspective and different people can have different perspectives. My DH was very much part of my pregnancy. Half of him was/is growing inside me. Half of him made me puke for 3 months solid and half of him was the actual pregnancy. That's biology too. So like I said, we can all have our own perspectives on it.

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