DP says he wants to wait

[SpongeCake23]

Hi all,

Well some of you have probably read my previous posts, I've been trying for a baby with my DP properly for 5 months.

He told me last night he wants to wait until we've bought a house, which we're planning to do in the new year. We are currently renting.
I understand what he's saying, but because it's already been 5 months, I'm worried it'll take us ages to fall and if we put it off another few months, it'll push us back even further he said he wants us to start being careful again until we've found somewhere and exchanged contracts etc.

How old are you two?

If you've been trying for 5 months, and no luck, I wouldn't be happy with him.

Well then contraception needs to be his responsibility.

I'm 28 and he's 36.

He said he still wants to carry on ttc but after we are settled in a house in a few months time.

Respect his wishes and wait. Tell him to sort the condoms.

Hmmm I'd struggle with accepting that. Will it really make a difference to the house buying?

My OH said this back in April. It was cos he couldn't cope with so much change at once.

I respected his wishes and laid off the pressure.

By July he was ready to start trying and we fell pregnant. Ended in MMC end August but we are trying again.

And I'm 39.

He has to be ready. If you push him it could well damage things.

You have plenty of time at your age.

Good luck. x

Agree you need to respect his wishes BUT he needs to sort contraception for next few months (not least because ovulation may take a while to restart if you use hormonal contraception).

Thanks everyone, we are going to use condoms because I don't want to mess up my cycle using the pill or other hormonal contraceptives.