feeling sad for my friend

[feelingsadandhelpless]

I posted this earlier but I thought I might find someone in this section who might understand.

My friend's recent attempt at IVF has not worked . It was her second failed attempt and used the last of her frozen fertilised embryos.

I was her egg donor.

I feel so desperately sad, which is pathetic as it's not my grief IYKWIM but I just feel like I have failed her and her dh.

They are wonderful and so deserve to be parents, it's just so unfair.

Sorry for the name change but I'm a regular and don't want to be identified, but I just had to talk to someone somewhere who might understand.

I don't know what to do, I don't know whether to offer again, it was quite an awful process but like childbirth, memories fade!
I'm not normally a very emotional person but I was just so hopeful that it would work.
After I tucked my DD into bed tonight I cried for my friend I just can't seem to lift this wave of sadness.

Someone please come and give me a slap round the chops.

What a lovely friend you must be to have done that for them!
Had you ever considered before what you would do if it didn't work for them? I've never done it, but realise that donating eggs is very demanding in all ways, but it must also be very staisfying to give people that chance and to maybe see them with a baby at the end of it all?

I hadn't considered it not working really, we took it one step at a time and I could only bring myself to feel optimistic about it.
I gues maybe that's why it's such a shock and why I feel like this.