Long term TTC and self-esteem

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To cut a long story short, we’ve been ttc #2 for a year without even a hint of a BFP. I feel fat, frumpy and a bit of a failure all round (my weight having crept up over the course of the past year). I’m sure exercising more will help, but I’m struggling to shake off the feeling that I’m not quite as competent as everyone else in every aspect of my life.

Does anyone else feel the same?

More importantly, has anyone else felt like this and found a way of overcoming these feelings?

Counselling has helped me a bit. Approaching 2 years ttc #1...

I’m glad to hear that counselling has helped “Physic”. Out of interest, are you getting this on the NHS or is it private?

Private. I googled registered therapists and found one near me. It was getting a bit expensive weekly, but made an arrangement so that it's now more as and when. If I'm having a down week, I make an appointment, if things are ticking by, I don't. I've been really lucky with her in that regard.

I'd also recommend counselling. You can get it privately or on the NHS. It's a bit tricky on the NHS as there's the usual lack of funding so they need to prioritise and you might wait a while even if they deem you're eligible.

I had a course of CBT via my GP. It did help.

I’m sorry you’re going through this OP

Thank you for sharing your experiences Jojo and Indiana. I may well look into CBT.