Anyone else just really fed up?

[PumpkinPatch000]

Hi,

Feeling very disheartened and confused today.

It sounds stupid but I feel cheated that all my life Ive been led to believe you can get pregnant any time so have to be careful when the reality is so far from that. We would have started trying so much sooner if we hadn’t been so naive 😞

This cycle I felt so different only for AF to eventually turn up 7 days later than it’s ever been...my cycle length is changing slightly too so I don’t know what’s going on! I also had symptoms that would all point towards being pregnant and are not what I’d normally get. The constant questions and hints from people about when we are going to have a baby don’t help either 😞

Anyone else feeling like this?

So sorry to rant, I know lots of people are going through this and it can take time to conceive but I just needed to let it out! Feeling very alone as don’t have anyone close to speak to about it as they don’t know we are trying.

We've been trying since April 2016 and not a whiff of BFP

We're in the middle of an IVF cycle atm which is almost worse than when we were ttc, as I dare to feel hopeful but then part of me thinks it's just not going to work.

Don't worry about being stressed, that really won't have an effect. After a year ttc we just decided to relax a little as clearly we weren't getting pregnant - that got us back on track for enjoyable sex and we did still manage to do it in fertile weeks but to no avail.

The waiting is always the worst, waiting for ovulation, waiting for AF... and now I'm waiting for egg collection... one day, hopefully, it will happen!

Kate I've kind of tracked it half-assedly. I usually use OPKs randomly and have never had a positive before, this time I used them continuously from about CD10, I got a positive OPK on CD24 and a what I believe was ovulation pain on CD25, so that's why I'm extra hopeful.

Lovely post Nimble thank you.

River that must be really hard good luck with ivf.

@Pumokinoatch feeling exactly the same. Annoyed with myself for being so nieve and annoyed with the world for not telling me this was so hard.
I'm in 2ww of cycle 8 now and starting to worry there's something wrong like what's the chances of me just getting pregnant now when i haven't the other 7 cycles??

@pumokinoatch and others, I've read that every cycle, even with everything working as it should, you've only got 1 in 4 chance of conceiving so keep the faith, it's much more likely that you've just not struck lucky yet. I think the year point is the time at which to maybe seek some help - even with one tube after an ectopic I've been told by both the NHS and a private fertility specialist that, in the absence of any other reason, just keep trying and come back in a year if nothing happens. Feel exactly the same about being naïve and wonder why I didn't know how hard this was but like many people on this thread I feel surrounded by people who have conceived very easily. That being said, I work in a busy office and I look around and wonder how many women are going through the same but it's just not talked about because I certainly don't. Keep the faith and you're definitely not alone.

I blog about my fertility journey and I put this post up a while back with a link to a video which really did help me put things into perspective. It’s a really interesting watch and also makes you realise that you’re not a failure and this isn’t your fault, it’s just super hard for (most) people to get pregnant because the process is crazy! This is the link (video is linked on there) if anyone wants to watch it :)

talesfrommyuterus.wordpress.com/2017/10/11/a-little-vid-thatll-blow-your-tiny-minds/

yep I'm totally fed up. I turned 39 in sept. We started TTC in July and got pregnant first go - we were amazed and overjoyed! Then in August the bleeding started and found out we'd had a MMC at 10 weeks.

Had to wait for bleeding to stop and for a negative preg test then tried again. Been 2 cycles now and nothing. Feel like running out of time. Everyone around me getting pregnant easily and with no complications. 3 people I know weren't even trying and apparently it happened by accident even though they were on the pill. Whole thing seems grossly unfair.

Fed up of disappointment and it is really affecting us

CD39 for me today!! Argghhh. First cycle after coming off Microgynon was 38 days so was hoping things might settle but nope- grrr!

Had negative pregnancy tests all week. Somethings going on, either AF is on it’s way or tests are wrong as my appetite these past few days have been ridiculous. I’m never full!!! A

xxx

Hello All,,

Firstly thank you so much for your supportive messages. It helps massively to know there are people out there who also understand. i'm really finding it hard not opening up to any of my friends and family about this.

Secondly, a big apology for not responding sooner, i'm so sorry if i've come across as rude. One thing after another happened and before i knew it all this time passed and i hadn't replied :( i'm so sorry.

How are you all feeling this week?

Three times last week I had people asking when i'm going to start a family or hinting at us having a baby. One was my BF so not so bad but the other two are people at work i don't even know that well..... i really wish they wouldn't ask! It's so hard to brush it off when you are actively trying! arghhhhh!!!

I'm in the 2ww again now... fingers crossed x

You're not alone. It becomes an obsession and I feel like giving up DTD because it just feels pointless now because it doesn't feel to be working.

Like a lot of women on here have said, I wish I knew it would take this long as I'd have come off the pill a LOT sooner!

Keep the faith sister