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Conception

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Having to wait to TTC

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ladybug92 · 31/10/2017 08:12

Has anybody HAD to wait for TTC because of logistics/work reasons? I would LOVE to have another baby but we can't start ttc before mid 2018 because I need to be able to make a longhaul flight comfortably in Dec 2018. I just can't stop craving another babe, I want to be pregnant, I want to give my daughter a sibling, but timing isn't right now. How can I stop thinking about it constantly? I am trying to stop the thoughts by focusing on my baby girl but sometimes it doesnt work,.
Has anyone else had these intense feelings or is it just me? I know I need to toughen up and refocus but just interestedin others' thoughts

Thanks x

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IamtheOrpheliac · 31/10/2017 09:41

I can sympathise! I am so broody at the moment and desperately want to be TTC #1. Realistically though, I am going to have to wait until mid-2019 because trying to juggle a demanding degree course and pregnancy wouldn't work out. I do keep going on flights of fantasy about making it possible (probably my age, I'm 24, the world is still shiny!). It really isn't though, especially as I would most likely be a single mother. I'm trying to focus on my degree and getting myself into the best place possible for when the time comes.

auntsarentgents · 31/10/2017 09:57

Me! OH and I have decided to wait until after we get married next year (will also give time to do a couple of projects we really want to do), which I know is all good and sensible, but my body has super intense feelings of wanting to do it now. I'm trying to approach it from the point of view of "this will give up time to prepare", but it's really hard :-(

misshannah · 31/10/2017 11:01

Me, I've changed jobs twice in the last year and had to endure two sets of probation due to relocation. I've now completed probation and refuse to budge and i'm hoping we can get starting TTC this month, but DP is 'still thinking'... AGHHH. I want to get a wiggle on!

physicskate · 31/10/2017 11:09

I waited at least a year for DH to be 'ready'. He thought it was going to happen right away. 20 months later, two chemicals and my first failed clomid cycle under my belt and I do resent DH making us wait so long as we have been found to have issues (well actually, the issues are mine, so adds a new level of shit).

Life's too short...

WhereIsThisGoing · 31/10/2017 11:23

Same here! Getting married next month (yikes) but need to wait till we have saved up a bit and I qualify for enhanced maternity benefits at work as we can't really afford it otherwise (having just depleted our savings by buying a family house). Waiting is hard though, especially as I am in my thirties and it will be #1 so no idea if there are any fertility issues.

No tips on how to take your mind of it though. Even planning a wedding doesn't really help!

Oakcrescent4 · 31/10/2017 11:34

Yes! Have been lurking on the Conception boards, which isn’t a very good distraction! We are getting married next year but really desperate to start now as DS loves babies and is getting so independent.

otherdoor · 31/10/2017 11:38

Yes, I'm keen to have another but have to wait until middle of next year to TTC due to work/financial reasons.

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ladybug92 · 31/10/2017 22:12

Ahh I feel for you all ladies!! As much as you know it's right to wait, it's just so hard. Glad to know I am not the only one feeling like this. @misshannah the work thing is annoying hey! I was just on parental leave and feel like I 'need' to be in the office sometime before I disappear again...

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Emelene · 31/10/2017 22:26

Me too! We've had to wait for logistical reasons as well as physical (vaginismus) but now things are hopefully coming together and we want to start trying in the next few months. It is so hard to wait sometimes! I have found over the last 6 months or so that the wanting a baby SO MUCH comes in waves with good weeks and bad weeks. I never stop wanting one but sometimes I feel much more chilled and happy to wait and sometimes I'm obsessed! I also find sometimes other seeing people's babies is lovely and sometimes they make me upset ... so I just see how I feel at the time.

Hana327 · 31/10/2017 23:05

I know how you all feel. Been trying for a little while and now have to stop while waiting for a little operation which could be into next year. Lots of my friends are settling down, talking about trying and announcing they are pregnant. So happy for them but it's killing me inside! It helps knowing I'm not alone.

LelouchviBritanniacommandsyou · 31/10/2017 23:26

I've wanted a baby since forever we got married 3 years ago, but it really hasn't been the right time. DH was still studying so I was supporting us financially and he wasn't really ready anyway. He's now finished his degree and we've just come back from an amazing trip that would've been difficult with children. But knowing rationally that it was best to wait doesn't make it any easier!

Hopefully we'll be able to start TTC some time next year, but that still seems ages away! I'm afraid I have no advice on how to stop thinking about it as I'm am also pretty obsessed

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