How did you tell your OH you were pregnant?

[CoconutGal]

Just out of curiosity & also plain nosey-ness. How did you tell your OH you were expecting & what was their reaction?

My DD’s dad & I weren’t together when I found out I was expecting so I did the whole thing on my own. This time around with DH in the picture I can’t wait to share the news with him when it happens & experience the whole thing with someone.

1st - was 11dpo and was a bit of a test addict, when I got the positive I didn’t know weather to laugh or cry - we had been TTC but it happened quicker than we’d expected. I sent him a picture of the positive test with hello daddy. DD is now 7

2nd - couldn’t remember when I’d had my last period and so tested together, unfortunately was a chemical pregnancy.

3rd - 4 days after our wedding I realised I hadn’t had a period for a while tested together and was positive. Because of the chemical and wedding madness we only had sex once so were very surprised. Had an early scan because it was the cycle after the chemical pregnancy. DD is now 5

I had had symptoms 2 weeks before missing my period, so it was no surprise to either of us. I peed on a stick that turned blue (or whatever colour, blue line? I don't remember) immediately and just wandered out of the bathroom holding it in shock, pants still round my ankles

We were ttc but it was a real omfg bloody hell whathavewedone?! moment. DS is nearly 6yo and i still think "omfg i'm a parent? Who thought that was a good idea?"

Said to Dh my back aches either I'm pregnant again or I've been doing too much in the garden. Couple of days later I text him at work and just said 'Dh, I'm pregnant' his reply was have you done a test? Don't know how else he thought I knew.

Something as life changing as falling pregnant surely you'd want to find out together if at all possible?

The other thing to consider here is that sometimes it's a really bloody long path. When you've been trying for 18 months there's a limit to the number of times you can get someone hopes up.

First time found out just before going to meet all his friends for the first time (only been dating 8 weeks...unplanned!). Was going to wait til evening was over but couldn’t stop shaking so when I got to his handed him to pregnancy test. He was shocked, but v happy! That’s our DD...we are now married!

Second time we were away on hols together and he said wasn’t I late, bought the test together. I wee’d on the stick and we waited together for the result. He was super happy! 23 weeks pregnant now.

Thanks drizzle that's kind of you.

First time I came out of the bathroom and said,’there’s a line.’ He looked and said not they’re all like that. Chemical.

Second time was his birthday. He’d taken the train to London the night before and I tested in the morning and took the train down later. I stopped and got a baby names book and had an awkward convo with a clerk, asking who I was getting it for yada yada. Have him the book. He went pretty quiet. That was chemical too. We still have the book. Shit reminder...

Don’t think I’d be able to handle another chemical. Ttc 19? Months now... I don’t test with him as I test about 12 dpo and he gets annoyed as he doesn’t want me to find out about more chemicals...

Something as life changing as falling pregnant surely you'd want to find out together if at all possible?

Yes, I would if I knew it was going to be positive. Otherwise there's no reason for us both to be disappointed.

For the first I was a day late and just didn't feel right. It felt like my cervix was swollen. I told my friend who told me I was most probably pregnant so I should take a test before booking an appointment with the doctor.

I'm a cheapskate so got the $1 tests which are horrible. It was a Sunday and DH was flying down to Houston. The first two tests were inconclusive. I dashed to the pharmacy and spent $15 on a digital test. It was positive. I called DH who was walking into the plane so I could tell him and then call family in England before it was too late!

Poor DH was on a four hour flight to Houston digesting that his dear wife is pregnant!!! As soon as he landed he called me back to tell me he loved me and would call after his customer dinner. His customer, who we are now good friends with, got the cigar and whiskey out to celebrate.

DC1: we waited together and looked together (although I was pretty certain I'd seen the second line as soon as I'd peed!)

DC2: it was our anniversary and I told him I had a present for him and handed him the test I'd taken while he was at work

DC3: threw the test at him 😳 needless to say this pregnancy was the unplanned one! He had the biggest grin on his face though, and any time I have a wobble (she's due in 5 weeks) I remember that smile.

Forgot to add that for my first, I took a second pregnancy test that said I wasn't pregnant and had bleeding. I thought I'd had a miscarriage. At what turned out to be about 4 months along I felt terrible. Went to the doctor who ran a whole bunch of tests. I'd had bleeding that mimicked my periods so assumed I wasn't pregnant. The last test the doctor did was a pregnancy test and I was indeed pregnant. We assumed it was a second pregnancy but the scan showed a huge baby looking back at us when we were expecting a bean.

Dh always says nothing shocks him as much as finding out I was about 4.5 months along. I felt so rotten I never drank anything alcoholi although I had an insane amount of tea/coffee.