How to ensure first month pregnancy?

[FirstMonthCertainty]

I have read about various statistics, like, 30% odds of a 1st month pregnancy, and 60% odds of pregnancy within 6 months.

But there is no context on these statistics, i.e. how often were the couples having sex?

I feel as if, maybe they didn't achieve it within 1 month because they simply weren't having sex often enough.

So, if I were to have sex every day, or every 1-2 days, then I am ensuring that there will be sperm ready in time for the crucial 5 days before ovulation.

Simply having sex every day will ensure the sperm is there.

So if I were to do that, is there any possible reason that pregnancy wouldn't be achieved within the 1st month...?

So long as our diets and health are OK, and we are both fertile, are you aware of any reason it would take longer than 1 month?

Thanks

[NerrSnerr]

Ah so all the people struggling for years to conceive aren't trying hard enough. Maybe some travel arrangements will be the kick they need?

[Bubblebubblepop]

Yes but OP do you understand now that the statistics were more accurate than you thought?

You really have taken a very simplistic way of looking at it. Did you not think in all that data gathering no one thought- why didn't they have more sex? 🤦🏼‍♀️


Have sex during your ovulation window (this is what everyone does, you haven't cracked upon a bright idea) and see what happens. The average of people doing this is 6-7 months so expect that. Good luck. It could be month 1, it could be month 8! Who knows?

[jmscp2015]

Oh so me and my partner just weren’t having enough sex for nearly 2 years! It all makes sense now!!!

This has to be a joke.

[KalaLaka]

Actually, the data is quite poor.

www.bbc.co.uk/news/magazine-24128176

OP asked a question; someone's naivety is no reason to be offended.

[koalab]

Haha. Took us 6months. We started enthusiasticly dtd a lot. The month I got pregnant we only did it once! I think I had at least one chemical pregnancy too which just looked like a late period.

[RoryItsSnowing]

You could not have sex for the five days prior to ovulation and still get pregnant in the day or so after actually, so even you're basic 'facts' are incorrect. As for everything else including the travel arrangements... no words.

[Bubblebubblepop]

I'm not offended at all Kala but they aren't the statistics OP is referring to I don't think?

[lightgreenglass]

Wow.

I've been pregnant four times - three times I conceived in the first month and once in month two.

Nearly all of those times I shagged twice in my fertile period. I didn't use OPKs or stop drinking, lose weight or any other lifestyle changes. It was luck. Pure luck.

[honeysucklejasmine]

Oh dear, OP. Biology fail.

[orangeowls]

I got pregnant the first month and the special technique I used was pure luck! You seem incredibly naive about the whole process, even if everything is seemingly perfect things might not work, and some people with the unhealthiest lifestyle may get pregnant straight away.

Although I was lucky enough to get pregnant in the first month I then had a missed miscarriage at 10 weeks. Luckily I didn’t have any travel arrangements for it to impact

[AssassinatedBeauty]

Your "facts" about ovulation are not quite correct as others have said. Do you know exactly when (or if) you're ovulating - have you been tracking or using some other method to establish that you are ovulating and exactly when. Is your cycle regular and consistent?

By the way I was older and overweight but got pregnant first time of trying, both times. All we did was have sex every other day around my ovulation window, and both of us tried to be as healthy diet wise/no alcohol throughout. We were extremely lucky, and it's wrong to think that anything we did gave us any extra chance than any one else.

[minipie]

I have no idea how the stats are collected OP but anecdotally I know there are absolutely loads of people who have sex very very often (like every day or every other day) when TTC, and are fit and healthy, not using saunas etc, and yet they don't conceive quickly.

So clearly the answer to your question is that there is no way to ensure first month pregnancy. Yes that makes travel planning tricky. That's how it is.

[LimpLettice]

OP love, travel plans is far, far from most of our reasons for wanting to conceive quickly. Mostly it's to end the heart wrenching, breathtaking pain of struggling. This board is filled with people jumping through complex and difficult hoops to try and have a child, surely you can see suggesting we're just not shagging enough is a pointless and unkind thing to say? You don't honestly think we put ourselves through all this if just more sex would fix it?

I wish you luck in your ttc journey, I truly hope you don't end up in the situation where you can see how upsetting that idea is.

[Betsyboo87]

Damn if only I knew I just needed to try harder!

OP if you're booking a holiday then just make sure it can be cancelled with no penalties or be prepared to take the hit. Tbh putting pressure on yourself to conceive in a certain month isn't great for your "statistics".

[honeysucklejasmine]

In a minute someone will say "just relax and it'll happen".

[ConfusionIsNothingNew]

You can’t argue with stupid.

Highly offensive and dim witted post OP.

[Notonthestairs]

Are you asking a question or just stating what you believe to be true?
I don't understand the point of the post - what were you expecting us to say?
Have you factored in any fertility issues? Sperm or egg quality etc.

Yes having more sex ups your chances unless there are fertility issues. No there are no guarantees.

[teady]

OP I was very fortunate to get pregnant first month of trying. We used OPKs and dtd twice around ovulation. Never in my wildest dreams did I expect it to happen first time, it was pure fortuitous luck. And for that, I will be eternally grateful.

I think you could be a little more sensitive in your questions. If you had read any of the TTC threads you would know 100% that many women do everything exactly right and try very very very hard to conceive and it doesn't happen immediately.

I hope that you are a lucky one who conceives very quickly, but urge you to prepare yourself for an emotional rollercoaster if you're not, and to be a bit more sensitive to others on this very emotive topic.

[juneybean]

Hahahahaha

If I've learnt anything whilst TTC is that it doesn't happen when you want it to.

But I'm more than sure you will be one of those who conceive first time.

[lookingforthecorkscrew]

Ahem. I’m overweight and conceived in my first month of trying.

[NimbleKnitter]

@Bubblebubblepop the stats do improve with each cycle of trying.

It may only be (let’s say) 20% each time (OP based on regular sex), but that builds with each month of tryjng.

Eg it’s an 80% chance of not being pregnant cycle 1, but an 80% * 80% chance of not being pregnant cycle 2 (ie 64% chance of not being pregnant, or a 36% of being pregnant). That’s why to expect to conceive first cycle is madness. Some people obviously do.

Most will not

[NeverForgotten]

I was so disappointed when the 'WWYD my Dr fancies me' thread was deleted but the updates from op have made me laugh and cheered me up no end today.

[Calmanrose]

Alright. First pregnancy...18 months. Plenty of shagging. Ov tests. Charting etc.
Second pregnancy... we were both away with work etc and literally did it once. Once. And not at what I would have thought would have been the right time. It was our 2nd month of trying.
It's pure luck.

[NimbleKnitter]

It’s also not quite luck - the younger you are, the better quality your eggs and your endometrium.

So younger women are more likely to conceive first time than older women.

[BriechonCheese]

Don't you think that if there was a way of getting pregnant the first time that everyone else TTCing would just do that too?