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I would really love to hear from people who had a successful pregnancy after an ectopic.

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randomuntrainedcuntowner · 30/09/2017 22:26

In hospital, in pain and feeling sad after having one of my tubes removed after a ruptured ectopic.

Obviously grateful for at least being safe as I apparently lost a lot of blood, but feeling worried about the future.

Therefore would love to hear success stories of conceiving with only one tube.

I'm 35, have dd from a previous relationship, but would love to give dp a child. 😕

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Polly99 · 30/09/2017 22:30

I did - and she came from the ovary on my tubeless side. After the surgery it took only 4 months to conceive. The doc told me that everything is very close together, so it is not a 50% reduction in fertility as some claim. I later read a paper that said that Fallopian tubes pick up eggs from the opposite side as much as 30% of the time.

I also conceived twice more since then but they both miscarried because I am old.

So please, don't fret. Take time to heal and take care of yourself. Flowers

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randomuntrainedcuntowner · 30/09/2017 22:32

Thank you polly, and sorry about your losses. 💐

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randomuntrainedcuntowner · 30/09/2017 22:35

Also when does this fucking shoulder tip pain subside! I was in agony with it when I came in, and I still am after! I assumed after they cleaned my pelvis out it would go..

(Excuse the sweariness...)😣

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NotEnoughCushions · 30/09/2017 22:37

Sorry to hear that you've had an ectopic pregnancy.

I had a ruptured ectopic (unconscious and life-threatening) and had a tube removed.

I got pregnant again on the first time of trying, almost exactly 2 years after the ectopic. Emotionally it took me a long time to get my head around the idea of trying again even though physically I was probably ok.

I had DC when I was 35.

I still think back at what a surreal experience it was. It's one of those things that I don't think you fully understand until you've been through it. I had lots of support from the Ectopic Pregnancy Trust and I would definitely recommend looking at their support services/resources.

Polly99 · 30/09/2017 22:41

swearing totally understandable! I'm amazed you can write do coherently tbh. After my salpingectomy all I could go was shiver and wonder when they would take my catheter out (oh and I drank Fanta, which usually I wouldn't touch with a 10 foot pole, was all v strange). Not sure about the shoulder tip pain as I never had it, but I bet it won't take too long. Get them to give you some more meds in the meantime.

SparkwoodAnd21 · 30/09/2017 22:42

My success story is asleep in his bed upstairs, and is quite shouty. Smile

Flowers to you OP

NotEnoughCushions · 30/09/2017 22:44

I can't remember specifically when the shoulder tip pain went but I can remember being in some pain for a few days.

Be kind to yourself, you've been through a major medical procedure. Flowers

WhatsThisNow · 30/09/2017 22:49

Ah, I have been exactly where you are. It's a huge shock isn't it? I'm sorry you're going through this. I had the surgery too, for me the shoulder pain went straight away. My tummy was sore for a week or two so no bending or lifting when you get home.

Now for the good news. I conceived 3 months after the ectopic. We were advised to wait 3 months before ttc and bingo - first month of trying. And yes, same here, egg was from the side with the missing tube and was swept up by the other one. You do assume a 50% drop in fertility but every doctor I spoke to said this was a myth and that it's more likely a 35% drop.

I was also 35. So chin up, you can be very optimistic about having another baby in the future.

You know, for me, I didn't see it as a loss more a medical drama - it's such a shocking thing to happen. I went from feeling fine (well, bit of a throb in hindsight) to terrible frightening pain in the space of a few hours. I was just so relieved when it was all over. I'd never been in hospital before.

Be gentle with yourself. There's a great ectopic pregnancy support website you should look at, lots of info on there.

Good luck OP Flowers

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randomuntrainedcuntowner · 30/09/2017 23:39

Yes what's, my poor dp was really traumatised by how much pain I was in and how quickly everyone sprung into action when they saw blood in my pelvis on the scan. English is not his first language either so it was even more confusing for him. He told me afterwards that he was petrified he was going to lose me and whilst he is sad about the pregnancy, he is just so happy I am safe.

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randomuntrainedcuntowner · 30/09/2017 23:43

Polly - got the shivering out of my system in recovery - I literally could not stop shaking! The anaesthetist prescribed my pethidine for it, but while the nurse were ringing round the ward trying to track some down it eventually stopped of its own accord. I think it is a combination of the physical and mental shock plus the anaesthetic.

Diet Coke has been my poison since dp got here, and not that dreadful caffeine free stuff anymore thank goodness! Every cloud and all that...Smile

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randomuntrainedcuntowner · 30/09/2017 23:47

Not enough - fuck that sounds scary! Poor you. 😕

I was a bit silly as I nearly collapsed with the pain last night in the early hours, I was faint and clammy and had to put myself on the floor to stop myself passing out, but somehow I managed to convince myself it was just ibs/constipation pain. I was really luck that it was not a lot worse for me really.

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randomuntrainedcuntowner · 30/09/2017 23:50

And I didn't go into hospital til 10.30 am this morning - woke up with pain about 3am. Got a bit of a hand slap from colleagues as I'm actually a doctor and did a stint on o&g about 6 months ago. Should have known better really - but was too worried about making a tit of myself if I went in and it turned out to be nothing! 😣

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WhoWants2Know · 30/09/2017 23:54

OP, I had 2 DCs after an ectopic. The first was planned, and although I was worried that it would take a while to conceive, it happened first time.

2nd DC was a surprise, before I had even gotten my periods back after the first try.

PunkyBubba · 01/10/2017 00:02

So sorry you are going through this.. it's a horrible shocking thing when it happens..

I was also 35 when it happened, and fell pregnant 2nd month of trying again (3 months after the ectopic/salpingectomy). My due date was the anniversary, but DS2 came early.

My shouldertip pain had stopped when I woke up after surgery, but my stomach and throat were quite sore for a number of days.. Take it easy.. I thought I was dealing with it all so well/logically but hadn't realised I was in shock and it hit me hard in the 2nd week (and for some time after).

As others have said, the EPT are great, and there are other forums that I found a great support.

rachrach2 · 01/10/2017 00:18

I'm so sorry you're going through this. Not my own personal story but my sister had one ectopic when she had a tube removed and one where she had drugs. She now has two naturally conceived gorgeous children. I hope your recovery goes well.

LonnyVonnyWilsonFrickett · 01/10/2017 00:19

Oh my love. I've not, but one of my dear friends has and Miss E age 3 popped round last weekend to give us all a good telling off and then ignore us to talk to the dog. Flowers

cherrytree63 · 01/10/2017 00:24

I had an ectopic pregnancy, ruptured on Boxing day whilst visiting friends, almost 24 years ago.
I'd been unwell for a couple of weeks, nothing specific, loss of appetite, bouts of nausea, until I suddenly got dizzy at work and my boss sent me home because I was looking a bit "green"!
Went to GP but he said I had gastric flu.
Christmas day I was really nauseous, we were supposed to go to in-laws but I couldn't face it.
I perked up on Boxing day (which pissed my DH off, I think he thought I was swinging the lead to avoid spending the day with his family lol).
I suddenly got an immense pain, and thought I needed a poo, but nothing was happening.
My friend took one look at me and took me to the nearest a&e, their scan unit was shut for the holidays and I was blue lighted to another hospital and straight into emergency surgery.
Afterwards the surgeon said if I'd waited any longer it would probably have been fatal, both for me .... and my lost baby's surviving twin!

Theseaweed · 01/10/2017 00:27

Yes, me too. Mine is 8 now and tucked up in bed. Horrible time for you. I hope you feel better soon.

frogsoup · 01/10/2017 00:33

It is the biggest shock, isn't it, it takes a long while to get over it. But my 3 post-ectopics are sound asleep upstairs!! In retrospect I can't believe I didn't shout more loudly about the pain, I was barely able to move for days - but I didn't know that one really shouldn't be doubled over in agony in early pregnancy Blush. Also, my GP was really shit and didn't listen.

Shoulder pain didn't last long for me.
Flowers

CakesRUs · 01/10/2017 00:48

A family member had 5 children after an ectopic. I believe she lost her tube too.

HouseworkIsAPain · 01/10/2017 00:57

I’m so sorry for what’s happened, hopefully the pain will subside soon. Be kind to yourself over next few months - I was so stressed about the emergency surgery that the loss of the baby didn’t hit me until a few weeks later.

I was advised to wait 3 months before trying to conceive again - happily I had another DC, conceived exactly after the 3 months were up.

For fertility, I was told that an ovary is not actually physically connected to a Fallopian tube, which means a tube can receive eggs from either ovary. My doctor said to think of the tubes competing to receive an egg - if there is only one tube then it stands a very good chance of receiving the egg regardless of which ovary has released it. Fertility is not going down anywhere near 50%.

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randomuntrainedcuntowner · 01/10/2017 04:32

Cherry tree - that sounds just like me - I had the senstation I needed to poo and pain in my rectum, I was convinced I was impacted so took 8 sachets movicol! (Typical doctor trying to self diagnose and treat). It wasn't til I had had a big "clear out" and the pain was till there and had started in the shoulder tip that I went in.

Turns on the rectal pain/needing to poo symptom is due to blood in the pouch of Douglas and I quite common - I will remember this forever and may come in useful when treating patients as a gp.

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randomuntrainedcuntowner · 01/10/2017 07:20

Yeah I have been advised to wait for two erupts before trying again. X

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Tryingtokeepfit · 01/10/2017 07:38

You poor thing. I'd like to share my happy story after an ectopic in 2011. (Unplanned and before my DH and I were ready)

Had an ectopic pregnancy (similar story to yours, intense pain which I thought was my period starting... In retrospect it obviously wasn't as I had been bleeding for 3 weeks prior to the pain. I was told this was normal for what they thought was a 'miscarriage'.)

After the salpingectomy, I was so sad for years wondering if I was ever going to be able to have children. It wasn't the right time in our relationship to start trying again, so it loomed over me for years, wondering...

We eventually came off contraception and the first month I fell pregnant Grin it was such a relief.

After DS was born, we decided we wanted another baby close in age to our DS. Casually mentioned we should start trying. The following day I took a pregnancy test and it was positive GrinGrin

I'm currently pregnant now with my second, due next year.

Mine was a bit of fluke, but if you know which side you are ovulating from, it might help your chances at TTC next time. (I used to get ovulation pain so I had an idea)

I wish you the best of luck in your recovery and your TTC journey.Flowers

ItsNiceItsDifferentItsUnusual · 01/10/2017 07:59

Oh poor you, it's awful. I had emergency surgery for a ruptured ectopic last Jan. It was horrendous. The shoulder tip pain was agony! Ask them to give you peppermint capsules + peppermint tea, it does ease the pain a little.

I waited 3 months post op to ttc and it took about 5 months. So I got a bfp the month I would have been due, which was bittersweet. Anyway, ds2 is here and sleeping on me now.

Please do keep positive! And do rest, I was shocked how long it took me to recover.