BFP number 6 after 5 miscarriages

[SaltK]

Hi everyone.

I'm a long time lurker on mumsnet, and felt the need to reach out for some of the amazing support I've seen you all give each other.

I just found out I'm pregnant for the 6th time. First problem is I'm not due af for another 2 days, so I'm panicking it'll be a CP. But also, I'm just feeling a bit shakey. We've had all the recurrent miscarriage tests, all clear, given the go ahead to just "try again, most people will have a baby eventually if they keep trying" (). So here we go, I suppose.

All but one of mine have been missed miscarriages, 12 weeks, 11 weeks, 10 weeks, 8 weeks, and the natural one at 6 weeks. All in the last 3 years. The last two were very close together in Feb and April this year, and the last one I had failed (painful) medical management twice, then eventually surgical management. It dragged on for nearly 2 months.

I know I've done this to myself, getting pregnant again and so quickly. But I just want this phase of my life to be over. We've been thinking really seriously about adoption, but both felt we needed one more try to make sure we could let go of the idea of having a biological child. Didn't think I'd catch so quickly, if I'm honest, but feel like the sooner it's over the sooner we can move on.

But also... maybe this time will be it? Feel like I'm at the top of a roller coaster and bracing myself for the weeks ahead..

Thanks for reading, feels good to get it off my chest!! Any advice on how to cope, or just virtual hugs from ladies who know the feeling?! Xx

Hi I'll join you. I'm on my fourth pregnancy following 3 failed pregnancy the last three have been via IUI. Had a scan at 5w4d and all looked fine, second scan last Friday at 6w4d and whilst there is a heart beat there is also some unexpected tissue in the gestational sac. They have no idea what it is. I will have another scan this Friday with a better scanner to see if they can get a better idea. Trying not to get my hopes up in case the inevitable happens.

Thanks for joining me, greater! That's brilliant news about the heartbeat, but I know what you mean, it's agony getting your hopes up when you know what could happen. It must be hard to have them fail after IUI. Is this one IUI as well? Sorry, I don't know a lot about it, if they failed does it mean you didn't fall pregnant, or you were and then lost? It sounds like they are taking good care of you, with another scan on Friday. I'll be thinking of you and crossing my fingers. They are so nerve-wracking, even thinking about it makes my heart start going!

I'm in two minds about early scans; we've had them before and it's hard to see the heartbeat and the baby grow, and then have it stop. But I know there's evidence that early reassurance scans can help a better outcome...

Already feel like I'm going potty and I literally took the test an hour and a half ago!

Oh so you've really only just found out, amazing! But I know what you mean about the roller coaster.
I had one natural pregnancy which I lost at 6 weeks and then 3 "successful" Insemination out of 4 IUI tries. Unfortunately one ended at 8 weeks and one at 5.
I do feel really well taken care of and my doctor is just lovely, she's coming in early on Friday to get hold of the better machine so my scan is at 7.15 in the morning. I'm in Switzerland so the service is probably better than we'd get on the NHS.
Like you we've had all the tests for recurrent miscarriage and all they found was a slightly under active thyroid and I'm hoping that maybe now that's under control that things might be different this time. You must be so frustrated at so many miscarriages and no explanation.
Do you think you'll have early scans this time if offered?

Sorry just re-read you're in two minds about the scans. I don't think i could handle the wait if I didn't have them! Even though I spend half of every week worrying about what they might see.

Brilliant that your scan is first thing in the morning, so you don't have to spend the whole day waiting around. Fingers crossed all will be well and they'll get a good look. Did they have any issues what the tissue might be? It's positive as well that your thyroid is under control now, you just never know what might make the difference. How are you feeling in yourself, any symptoms?

Yeah, I might change my mind about the scans. My husband wants to have one asap, but that's so "you don't have to be pregnant any longer than necessary", with the other ones all being missed and found later on. I feel a lot of guilt about this pregnancy already, that we are just assuming the worst and not having any faith in our little blastocyst. If I saw a heartbeat, I would get so attached and then losing would be harder. Or if I saw one and tried to stayed detached I would feel so guilty. It's a bloody hard road, this pregnancy malarky. Never thought it would be like this when I used to write out lists of baby names when I was 17!!!

*any IDEA what the tissue might be lol

Hi my darling I had 3 miscarriages and then got pregnant with my daughter very struggled pregnancy but she's here and her 2nd birthday on Sunday don't give up hope I never did and my Hope came Hope is a very energetic little girl and stubborn lol it will happen

Thanks Hopeful, I'm glad it was a happy ending for you 😊

I'll be thinking about you tonorrow, Greaterthan, and hoping it all goes well xx

Always here if you need a chat about the stresses of miscarriage currently trying to concive baby number 5 but after a year and a half and no luck I've just bought the clear blue advanced fertility monitor x

Scan this
Morning was good, embryo right size for 7w4d and good heart beat. The mystery bump is still there, still no one has a clue what it is. My doctor will see the professor this afternoon and will ask her. So currently good news. How are you doing Salt?

Ah greater that is fab news!! I'm so glad it went well, have you got another one next week? Weird about the mystery bump, but hopefully the professor might have some idea... How are you feeling in yourself? Any pregnancy symptoms?

Hopeful it must be really hard to try for so long, I can't imagine. Although we've lost all of ours, I have been lucky enough to fall pregnant relatively quickly every time. It must be really difficult to go through that rollercoaster every month of am I/aren't I?

I'm feeling okay. Pretty glum about the whole thing to be honest, but then really guilty for feeling that way because I felt hopeful before I actually fell pregnant and I'm lucky to at least be pregnant again and have a chance of a baby. But it genuinely feels like zero chance of a good outcome, which is scary, just wondering when it'll happen.

Was thinking of you today, greater, wondering if you had another scan and hoping it went well. I've got one booked for Oct 11th at 7 weeks gulp.

Salt I'm so sorry for your losses. Wishing you the very best of luck.

Thank you carrot, that is so kind and means a lot xxx

I'm just wasting time on Mumsnet tonight and did an advanced search of my old username. I found this thread I started in 2017. I've sobbed and sobbed reading "But also... maybe this time will be it." Because it was it, and I had a beautiful little boy.

I just felt like adding this update for anyone who might come across this thread while trawling the success stories (like I used to do endlessly).

Good luck to anyone going through hard times xx

Thanks @MsFrog this gives me hope. I've had two miscarriages and started to feel so deflated. I really hope that I'll be successful next time x

Hope for all the best for you. The odds of having a successful pregnancy are so much higher than not. Take heart, you'll get through this part of life @elzober