Really thought this was the month 😢

[SpongeCake23]

I've been doing everything right, taking seven seas trying for a baby vitamins, my partner is taking zinc. I had ovulation pain and quite a bit of EWCM. We had sex lots too.
I didn't even have any bad PMS symptoms in the build up to AF like I normally do so I was convinced it was going to happen. AF was five days late. Tested and BFN.
This morning, I started - very crampy and painful and the usual flow, I'm so down about it all. My best friend is due her first next month and my future SIL is due next month also. My best friend has just gone on her maternity and I'm going to her baby shower in a few weeks time. Buying little presents is killing me! I feel awful and jealous.

We'll be on cycle 5 next.

Sorry for the depressing post.

Big hugs, I'm just about to start cycle 5 as well. it's so frustrating when your body plays tricks on your and makes you think its' your month. I've also found my mood on the first day of my cycle has been horrendously low since ttc. It seems to be the case whether I've got my hopes up that month or not.
Be kind to yourself the next few days.

I conceived on cycle 5, both times I have been pregnant! Both times it was the first month I used conceive plus lube. I also used cheapie ovulation stick tests to work out when I was ovulating...

Thanks both. Hopefully cycle 5 will be my magic number. Also my best friend conceived on her first cycle! And she had just come off the pill too!

I'll be moving onto cycle 5 any day now as soon as AF arrives (got a BFN this morning when I tested). I'm also going to a baby shower in a few weeks and I feel your pain. We will get there though. Some people get lucky and fall on instantly and some people take years. Hopefully we'll all get our BFP soon and go on to have a healthy pregnancy x

Know exactly how you feel!!! So nice to know I'm not the only one feeling like this xxx

I just wonder what the issue is, the reason why we're not getting pregnant if I'm ovulating and everything else is fine?

Are you definitely ovulating? Ovulation pains and ewcm, even positive opk's doesn't mean you're definitely ovulating

Sponge. You aren't doing anything wrong. Stop thinking that. Months 6-17 were the worst for me (here's hoping I'm over the worst of the feelings) because I was putting so much pressure on myself. The odds are stacked against sperm meeting egg, let alone all the rest of it!

It isn't really like they taught us in sex Ed. I get it, you put the effort in you expect results. You have no control over when it happens so stop trying to 'do ttc the right way.' Just Dtd every other day during the middle two weeks of your cycle. If nothing has happened in another 7 months, see you gp and insist on some tests for you and your partner.

That's all you can do!

@Bubblegum89 Apart from those things you mentioned, I can't be sure that I'm ovulating. I thought EWCM, pains and positive opk were all good signs. Maybe he has a low sperm count or something. He did used to regularly smoke weed but gave up over 6 months ago thankfully. He's very physically fit and active though - a runner and keen cyclist.
I, on the other hand am quite unfit and probably a bit overweight. Maybe this is a contributing factor? I do have very painful periods so maybe it's endo. Just thinking about adoption tonight as a back up plan...I know it's silly but I want a really really want a family.

@physicskate thanks for your kind words. It's just very frustrating when every month I get my hopes up and they're dashed. Then watching everyone else around me get pregnant, seemingly so easily, is quite torturous. I really thought it would be that easy for us, after years of being on the pill and being worried if I missed one or if my period was late or if the condom fell off...now I'm thinking there was probably no need to worry about those things!

Trust me I know how you feel. My little sister got pregnant earlier this year (unplanned) and had a termination. She just got pregnant again (also unplanned) and is keeping it. It's been very hard to watch my family getting excited and seeing her bump grow knowing I'm trying so hard and getting nowhere. It's heartbreaking. 5 months isn't very long in terms of ttc, they say that 12 months is completely normal for under 35's.

In terms of ovulating, you can have positive opk's, ov pains, super regular period and still not be ovulating. The only way to know for sure is with blood tests/scans or you can use a bbt although they require a LOT of effort lol I couldn't use one as I wake a lot in the night to pee and don't always get up at the same time every day etc. Maybe you could try one and see if it works for you?

Weight can be an issue but I think you have to be quite a bit overweight for it to affect your fertility although don't quote me on it!

I know it sounds cliche but try and relax a little. I've been pregnant twice whilst not trying and on birth control and now I'm trying and not on any birth control, I'm onto cycle 10 with nothing at all. One thing that is completely out of our control is our ability to get pregnant, as a previous poster said, the odds of sperm meeting egg are already super slim, getting pregnant is literally one in a million chance and as much as we want it to happen straight away, it's unlikely. Just enjoy all the extra bd'ing and try not to stress that it's not happening, it's early days yet :)

When do people think I need to go to my GP about this?

I'm 28 years old btw.

After a year of unprotected sex without pregnancy.

If you're 28, after 12 full months of ttc. Nobody will refer you for tests before then unless you have a pre-existing condition