little bit fed up

[viola00]

hi all, I've been visiting this forum for a while now but have never posted here before. Like many of you here I'm a little bit fed up with TTC.

I'm 33 now. I stopped taking pill in 2014 and initially we haven't been really trying for a baby. The last two years we've been talking about it a lot and I started tracking my ovulation to increase our chances but we haven't conceived yet. We had the initial tests done and were told everything is fine. I also had an ultrasound last month and all was ok. I'm now waiting for an appointment for HSG and was told by the consultant that we will talk over the options after getting results. We don't smoke and drink only socially (maybe a couple of pints/glasses a month I'd say). BMI is good, could do with a bit more exercise but I'm relatively fit, same with my partner. We went from just casually trying to conceive to really trying, to thinking too much about it, to letting go, to being stressed about not getting pregnant etc etc.

I guess I just wanted to share with someone that I'm tired of hearing that another friend just had a baby and visiting friends with babies and seeing babies everywhere. I know doctors are saying that so far everything is fine but I feel like there's something wrong with me and I can't do that one thing my body is supposed to do. I've been putting off pregnancy until I get my career/house etc sorted, but now regret not trying earlier. Anyway, I apologize for the moan, just wanted to say hi.

Hi viola00 you're in the right place for a moan about TTC! I'm 33 too and we've been properly trying since Jan but we haven't used contraception in a long time. I've had a u/s which was all normal but we've decided to give it until the end of the year before going further with investigations. Oh I totally know how you feel about not starting earlier! I didn't expect it to happen straight away but I assumed within 6 months. We also waited until "the right time" but really could have tried earlier. Anyway I'm probably not any help but I find it feels better to know you're not the only one in this position - especially when there's lots of bumps and babies around you.

Same boat here... I was ready to start about a year before my dh, but he thought it would happen immediately. Here we are 18 months after we started ttc in exactly the same position. I'm 33 too.

Off to my second fertility appointment with consultant. Had an us which showed tonnes of cysts on both ovaries.

I've started counselling to help me deal. I think it's been helpful? I still cry sometimes about 'why me'?

I know it's shit and I wouldn't wish this on my worst enemy. But it might help to know you're so not alone!!!

Hi, thanks for your kind words. It is easier to know there are other people in the same position, although I wish no one had to go through this.

Hi physicskate, I hope the counselling helps. You too are not alone. What was the result of your second appointment? Any good news?

Hello, I totally sympathise with you. I've spent so many years making sure I didn't get pregnant and now I want to me it's like the hardest thing I've ever tried to do.

We have been trying for 5 months but not been careful since Christmas. I'm 35 and had a chat with the doctor. I had some blood tests which showed I was really anaemic and have specialist appointments this week. The doctor wasn't too fussed about the time we have been trying or my age but I had some abdominal issues in my early 20s and therefore the doctor decided to be more proactive than he would have been.

I've cried on a couple of close friends shoulders and am advised to keep calm, not sure I can do that though.

So he said he thinks I might have pcos, definitely pco. He prescribed clomid which will 'double my chances of pregnancy' each cycle. First cycle will be monitored. Af due in about three weeks ish, so that's when it starts.

Hope is a dangerous thing to have.

But it seemed he actually wanted to help us.

We started trying almost 3 years ago and are now going through our first IVF. As my MIL has pointed out, we are lucky to live in this day and age when things such as IVF are possible. Back in her days, if you had blocked tubes or severe male factor, that was it. I feel better whenever I remember that ;)

I'm late to this thread. I'm also tired of ttc. I have a 2 year old daughter and I'm really grateful for her but my husband and I haven't been using contraception for about a year. We stayed trying properly a few months ago but still nothing. I suffer from depression so this takes its toll too. It feels like everyone around me is getting pregnant so easily. It sucks not being in control of your body. Guess I just needed to air out my feelings