Am I the father?

[VictorP188]

My wife told me she cheated on me earlier this week whilst i was on my Stag weekend on 15th July. She had unprotected sex with another man. She was pissed off with me as when she was on her hen weekend the week before I went out on our "dad stag nnight" out then stayed out until 6 in the morning round my best friends house and didn't collect her from the train station the next day as was really hungover( still no reason to cheat on me drunk!)she came off the pill about 6 months back and started to have regular periods with them starting on the 22/23rd of the month. The first day of her last period was 22nd june. The last time we had sex before that was on the 7th July, normally I pull out but this time I pulled out a bit late and remember saying "oh s**t". I'm worried that the baby isn't mine, we took several clearblue tests on the 28th July which said 2-3 weeks pregnant. Could she get pregnant on the 15th July and then show positive on the 28th. Her behaviour has been erratic over the whole wedding period I thought it was down to hormones and the stress of the wedding but now I know he reason why. My gut feeling is that it isn't mine because I did kind of pull out but not fully. She won't have an abortion either as she says it could be mine. She used to have anorexia as well and thought she would never conceive and thinks she might not get pregnant again. Everything is messed up! I want to give her a second chance but what if it isn't mine, I don't think I am strong enough to raise someone else's child. The other guy knows about it as well so I would imagine we would need a DNA test. If it is his everyone will find out as I would imagine he would want access. This would be such an embarrassment for everyone to find out what she's done to me, my friends never trusted her as she was always very flirty, I thought we had finally made it as a couple getting married and having a baby everything was falling into place perfectly then this bombshell was dropped! I want to give her a second chance and hoping a child may bring us back together.

Has she said it could be this other mans? Also if she's doesn't want an abortion that's her decision u can't force her to change her mind. You can't stay together just for a child, especially if ur not happy. You need to sit down and discuss it together. If the baby is yours would you then trust her? If there's always gunna be doubt then you need to sort it out. Hope this helps

Working on the assumption I believe this story, the timings you indicate make it more likely to be your baby.

However, if she is shagging around weeks before the wedding and you are getting too shitfaced to honour your commitments to her, it's probably not a match made in heaven.

More likely to be yours if it's says 2-3 weeks

This sounds like the same story posted recently by a lady who was asking who the father of her child would be. We have no way of giving a definite answer I'm afraid. The previous posts were deleted by mumsnet. A DNA test once baby is here would be needed.

I call a load of rubbish!!

I don't think my DH would ever have been absent recall actual dates when we DTD, never mind when I'd ovulated.

Exactly no man would know this!

Who knew pulling out was so popular?!

B.S. Third post this week on this topic.

They need to be blocked

I'm impressed, men rarely are so aware of their girlfriends cycles and exact dates.

I think he's aware as his dw has probably shared all the dates with him. I think it could either of yours as some people, like me, ovulate late on in their cycle.

There are a lot of people in almost exactly this situation af the moment.