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Month 1 TTC - how long did it take for you with #1?

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Pickle0 · 06/09/2017 20:00

HELLO Smile

Second post, new here! Bare with as I don't know any of the abbreviations!!

Am so excited to get into my first month TTC.
Excited to find some friends on here as I post more, get advice, and hopefully give advice too as I start my journey. I have been binge-reading posts and I think I may just get a bit obsessed with everything around TTC, I know that the less you stress the more likely it will happen, but I am just super excited & think it's best to get clued up on everything.

I know everyone's different but I am just wondering how long it took everyone TTC with their first? Just curious...

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OCSockOrphanage · 06/09/2017 20:07

Don't get over excited. You sound quite young. Fertility remains decent for some years. I was 42 before I decided it was time, and I was pregnant within a week, normal pregnancy and delivery, DS now 18. Attend to your career first, and make sure your relationship is rock solid. You may not wish to chance your hand as I did, but my future is far more secure than it would have been if I had had the baby I thought I wanted at 21.

OCSockOrphanage · 06/09/2017 20:09

I don't want to be sour or rain on your parade OP, but this choice is for life.

OCSockOrphanage · 06/09/2017 20:09

I don't want to be sour or rain on your parade OP, but this choice is for life.

BergamotMouse · 06/09/2017 20:11

Hello, I got pregnant on the first month of trying but think I was very lucky. I've heard that even under perfect circumstances there's about a 25% chance of getting pregnant each month as even if the egg has been fertilised it might not implant.

We did the sperm meets egg plan (free kindle download on Amazon) which apparently maximises chances. It's pretty much just having loads of sex!!! DH got a UTI though which I think is unheard of in men Blush.

I plan to start trying for baby number 2 in 2 months time but getting impatient so want to crack on.

BergamotMouse · 06/09/2017 20:17

Sock - there's nothing mentioned about how young she is, she just sounds excited which is perfectly understandable.

I was 28 when I got pregnant, good career and it turned out to be the perfect time for us. She's just turned one, we've moved into a beautiful family home in the country and couldn't be happier!

Nothing wrong with choosing to have a family at what is now thought of as at a young age.

For all we know she could be in her 40s too!

justshruggingreally · 06/09/2017 20:24

Second month trying! Knew I was ovulating which helped. When we'd decided to try but we're waiting for the right time (work stuff) I spent SO much time reading mumsnet TTC threads.. remember a few night shifts parked up reading threads for hours, feeling a bit sick with excitement. Good luck!

mummy2pickle · 06/09/2017 20:28

Hello
I found the TTC a very exciting time too. I feel I picked a good time in life to do it and everything was in place so we could relax and enjoy the trying! My husband is a lot older the me and didn't want children too old so luckily for us it didn't take us long to conceive. Our first was a honeymoon baby and only took a 1/2 week to conceive and my second baby took 10weeks to conceive.
Just make sure you enjoy and don't get too obsessed with it that you become stressed every month.

LisaSimpsonsbff · 06/09/2017 20:28

I know that the less you stress the more likely it will happen

Please don't say this - it just makes women who are already having a hard time blame themselves even more. Long-term TTC is incredibly stressful, but that doesn't mean the stress is why people aren't getting pregnant.

OCSockOrphanage · 06/09/2017 20:38

I wish the OP instant success and every delight of being a happy healthy mum. My generation were a bit fixated on delaying things until the last moment because I grew up in the 70s. My mantra was "I couldn't have a child until I was totally independent financially and never going to need financial support". It hasn't worked out quite that way. Rose tinted lenses are not very useful!

Pickle0 · 06/09/2017 20:57

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AccrualIntentions · 06/09/2017 21:00

Took us 2 and a half years, but that was due to PCOS and me barely ever ovulating, which we only found out a year into trying.

By the way, stress or lack of is unlikely have any impact on your chances of conception per cycle. It's always worth trying to be relaxed about it, but that's for your own mental health not because it increases your chances of getting pregnant.

Good luck Smile

Beansprout30 · 06/09/2017 21:05

Our first took 16 long ass cycles and it became very stressful and upsetting. I wish you the best of luck and hopefully yours is a short journey! We're ttc number two now and pray it doesn't take as long as first

Mulch · 06/09/2017 21:11

Best of luck! it's so exciting once you decide to start trying. Hopefully you'll get a few more nicer replies :) some right misery guts out there

RhinoGirl · 06/09/2017 21:14

3 months for me :)

OCSockOrphanage · 06/09/2017 21:18

pickle0, humbly apologise. I am thrilled you have life so sorted so young. I didn't, and nearly got pregnant in a relationship that collapsed not long after. If it had happened, none of the things I value now in my life would have happened.

Beansprout30 · 06/09/2017 21:25

Sock why are you assuming op is young?!

LisaSimpsonsbff · 06/09/2017 21:31

Thanks for the nice reply, OP - glad you saw where I was coming from and didn't think I was being snippy with you. I just see that message a lot and it can be a bit hard to take, especially when it's women who were lucky enough to fall quickly. I really hope your journey is as short and unstressful as possible, good luck with it all!

IPokeBadgers · 06/09/2017 21:33

9 months so far and no sign of a BFN yet.....

LisaSimpsonsbff · 06/09/2017 21:33

Thanks for the nice response OP - glad you could see where I was coming from and didn't just think I was being snippy with you. I hope you have as short and stress-free a TTC journey as possible, good luck with it all!

LisaSimpsonsbff · 06/09/2017 21:33

Oh, so sorry, thought that hadn't posted the first time so typed out again - sorry!

IPokeBadgers · 06/09/2017 21:35

BFP I mean.....9 months of disappointment so far. I wish you every success OP, sounds like you have lots of q1 nicely lined up in terms of home/job/relationship. Good luck!

beaveringaways · 06/09/2017 21:53

First month of TTC for us, we were very lucky! I had two different apps, Ovia and My period diary which had my ovulation dates about 5 days apart despite the same data so we did the deed I think 4 times over that week. Perhaps TMI but after each time I propped my legs up on the headboard and put a pillow under my hips, not the most attractive look but I def think it helped and can't do any harm! Good luck!

Pumpkin18 · 06/09/2017 22:12

Hi @Pickle I am ttc my first baby too! This is our 2nd month of properly trying. I'm looking for some friends in the same boat too so perhaps we can stay in touch for the journey Smile Last month I found it all a bit frustrating and was tempted to test early which I don't think helps and makes you more neurotic! I was a bit sad when i wasnt preggo as i really wanted to be 12 weeks in October as me and hubs will have been married for a year then, but I feel much more relaxed about it all so far this month but still excited!! I am ovulating today/tomorrow i think so not long until i have what feels like the long wait to see if AF comes. Where are you in your cycle?

pinkdonkey · 10/09/2017 08:45

18 months so far, not there yet. I was very excired like you reading everything in sight. I've chilled out a lot now, otherwise I would have driven myself crazy by now. Remember google is not your friend when ttc it just drives you bonkers, especially in the 2ww.

MaryShelley1818 · 10/09/2017 09:04

I'm currently 26wks pregnant with my first...we started trying in November and got my BFP on the 6th April.
I'm 39 and DP is 41 next month so have been very lucky. We just had lots and lots of sex every day while monitoring ov and temp just for fun :)

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