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In TWW and just been offered a new job...

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ronniemipperton · 03/09/2017 20:39

This is the first month I've definitely ovulated since coming off the pill two years ago (suspect too much exercise was throwing my body off, but my new lazy lifestyle seems to have solved the problem). Pretty sure I ovulated on the 25th (ewcm, first ever peak opk and temp shifts). Offered a new job (with a different employer) on 27th. I really want the new job but if I'm pg that changes things as I'd be chucking away enhanced - and even statutory - maternity pay. Not sure I'm going to be able to delay handing in my notice long enough to know... it's probably fine, right? It seems unlikely I'd conceive straight away after my body has been so uncooperative for so long but at the same time it would be absobloodylutely typical...

I'm terrified of resigning, getting a bfp then new employer telling me to shove it... could they do that?

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Babipotjam · 03/09/2017 20:47

No they can't. I hate to sound negative but there is only about a 20% chance of conception each cycle

Babipotjam · 03/09/2017 20:47

Go for the job

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ronniemipperton · 03/09/2017 20:57

OK that makes me feel less terrified, thanks Babipotjam. Might have to put ttc on hold for a couple of months but as soon as I'm eligible for statutory I'll be back on it Grin

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FanSpamTastic · 03/09/2017 20:58

I would delay things as long as possible by asking for the offer in writing - that will take them a few days. Then try a first response early indicator test - if you get a positive then you are pregnant. If you get a negative then you still may be pregnant but may be too early to tell and you might want to test again a few days later. Be mindful that as many as 1 in 4 pregnancies do not make it through the first trimester.

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ronniemipperton · 04/09/2017 07:20

Thanks FanSpamTastic that's good advice. I guess with the first trimester point in mind then in the unlikely event I am pg it would make sense to not tell new employer until later on? I'm on a three month notice period so would be starting 12 weeks gone :/

Obviously it will probably all be fine. Just difficult to stop it playing on my mind!

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EarlGreyT · 04/09/2017 07:45

Go for the job especially as you've said you really want it.

I also hate to sound negative, but I stayed in a job I hated for longer than I should have on the basis that we were TTC. I did leave the job months later, but 4 years after struggling with whether to leave the original job there was still no sign of a pregnancy.

If you are pregnant there will be a way of making things work and if you're not, then you won't have given up a job you really want or put your life on hold for something that hasn't happened.

LisaSimpsonsbff · 04/09/2017 08:15

I guess with the first trimester point in mind then in the unlikely event I am pg it would make sense to not tell new employer until later on?

I probably wouldn't. I ended up telling my boss about one of my miscarriages but I sort of wish I hadn't; I felt like I was risking all the negative consequences of being pregnant (not being seen as serious about the work, etc.) without the positive, a baby!

Seconding the advice not to turn anything down on the basis of a possible pregnancy. I didn't go on what would have been an amazing holiday in Thailand last December because we started TTC in August and I was worried I'd be pregnant and not want to go. Here I am all this time later and still without a successful pregnancy! It's such a shit feeling to know you missed out for something that didn't happen, whereas if you have to make arrangements around a much-wanted pregnancy that is in many ways a good problem.

Usernamqwerty · 04/09/2017 13:58

I got pregnant 2 months after starting a new job... They were very happy for me. They can't sack you it's illegal xx

Pumpkin18 · 04/09/2017 19:56

I Just started a new job and started ttc pretty much straight away. As long as your pregnancy starts at least 1 week after you've started the job you will still get statutory maternity pay

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ronniemipperton · 04/09/2017 20:51

Thanks everyone, this is reassuring. Having spent the last two years without periods I agree there's no point putting your life on hold. If only this ttc business was easy and predictable...

Will be handing in my notice tomorrow Smile

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ronniemipperton · 05/09/2017 06:47

Just done an early response and I think there may have been a line there. So faint it wouldn't show up on a photo so I am probably imagining it. I can see why people post pics of their tests all the time now. argh.

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Bobojangles · 05/09/2017 06:52

Accepted a new job, discovered I was preggo 2 days later, had my 12 week scan in first week of new job 😁 the baby is now 18months and I've been back at work 6 months. Don't worry about it one way or another! Life happens

clairettc · 05/09/2017 07:05

There's never a good time to have a baby and they never come when you want! So go for the job x

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ronniemipperton · 05/09/2017 07:39

Thanks all, this thread is keeping me sane... Bobojangles did you tell them before you started the job?

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DrumrollCheese · 05/09/2017 07:45

I accepted a new job and then the following week found out I was pregnant.

I emailed my new boss to notify her as I would need a risk assessment doing (work with chemicals, lots of manual handling). I decided to email to let them know just in case there was any bother, that way I would have an electronic record of our communication.

Turns out I didn't need to worry. My boss was brilliant throughout my pregnancy, as were (most) of my colleagues.

I'm currently on mat leave. I didn't qualify for maternity pay through work of SMP but did qualify for maternity allowance, which is £140 a week for 39 weeks. While it means that money is tight it's doable with my partners salary and we've just tightened our belts, as at the end of the day you cut your cloth to the circumstances you find yourself in.

Fingers crossed for your BFP!

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ronniemipperton · 05/09/2017 07:51

Thanks DrumrollCheese that's really helpful. The prospect of no SMP is a bit scary especially as my partner is freelance but at least there's maternity allowance and as you say you work with what you've got. Congratulations!

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DrumrollCheese · 05/09/2017 07:56

To be honest we were gifted so much stuff for DS we didn't actually need to buy an awful lot! My mum bought the pram, MIL the car seat, my sister bought the cot mattress and we were given clothes galore when he was born. We've been given jungle gyms, Moses baskets, a high chair, bloody loads.
It surprised me just how much people wanted to give us stuff! Turns out people love a baby!

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ronniemipperton · 05/09/2017 07:59

Yeah that is one thing that's reassuring me - my brother and sister have both had kids. All girls though so if I do end up with my bfp and it's a boy he may find himself wearing a lot of pink :D

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Bobojangles · 06/09/2017 07:15

Maternity allowance is exactly the same as SMP it's just claimed direct instead of through your employer. You may not be entitled to your occupational maternity pay if any is offered though (I was as I moved from one NHS trust to another). I had to tell them over the phone so that my scan could be booked off in my first week Blush as I work in a clinical role and rotas are planned well in advance, I was terrified but it was fine - legally you are protected

Chattycat78 · 07/09/2017 08:00

Go for the job. I'd say never wait just in case of a bfp. I think the chances each month are something like 20 percent.

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