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Miscarriage and struggling

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Harperbels · 01/09/2017 09:15

Hello. I am totally new to this site but thought it would be beneficial. I became pregnant back in March but had a miscarriage at 8 weeks. I had a natural miscarriage. Its been really hard and especially when lots of my friends are announcing their pregnancies. I am obviously really happy for them but it's been hard. I am also very anxious that i might never concieve again. I am trying to be positive but am overcome with ancity and sadness. Any helpful comments welcome. Thank you. Bels

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Harperbels · 01/09/2017 09:17

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embarassedgen · 01/09/2017 09:19

Hi Bels.

I'm very sorry for your loss. I have been through the mill with losses but just wanted to reassure you that with time it does get better.

You have been pregnant once so there is nothing to suggest it can't happen again.

Miscarraiges are much more common than you think and until you or someone you know goes through it they are hard to understand. It os a terrible loss but sadly far too common.

You will read on here about lots of women that have mc'd then gone on to have healthy succesful pregnancies. Law of averages says you will be one of those in time

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Harperbels · 01/09/2017 09:21

Thank you embarassedgen x

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Harperbels · 04/09/2017 18:28

No other comments. I was recommended this site 😕

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gingerbreadmam · 04/09/2017 18:31

you could try posting in the pregnancy loss topic?

also if you want more traffic specific to mc then there is the miscarraige association that has forums.

i am here if you want to talk though?

how are you feeling?

MerlinsLeftButtock · 04/09/2017 18:32

I had miscarriage last year, it was horrible. It wasn't a planned pregnancy and I felt like I had to right to feel so overwhelmingly sad about it. And I, like you, was bombarded with others announcing pregnancies and having babies. It was a rough time. But, I am now 26 weeks pregnant. Don't give up hope. Allow yourself to feel sad, because it is sad, but try not to let it consume you. I don't think the hormones help either. I spent weeks and weeks just staring at nothing. But I got through it, and you will too.

WitchDancer · 04/09/2017 18:41

I have had a lot of miscarriages - we're talking in double figures. Each one was mourned by my husband and I but no-one else seemed to register it on their radar, which I found the hardest to deal with.

My small consolation was that there was more than likely something wrong with each baby, which would have more than likely mean it wouldn't have survived.

I now have 2 children that I held onto naturally, so there is hope for you. If you can get pregnant then the doctors can help you keep it if necessary.

My advice to you right now is to give yourself time.

Mammabear31 · 04/09/2017 18:45

I had the same experience as you back in May. There are no words for it at all, are there? I'm sorry you went through that, I wouldn't wish it on my worst enemy.

I am struggling to ttc and deal with it all. I find allowing myself some alone time to relax and just think helps; plus I started writing down how I felt and general notes/words in a notebook helps to "get it out". It's a good outlet for me and white cathartic.

MissHavishamsleftdaffodil · 04/09/2017 18:47

I'm so sorry for your loss. Been there and have that t shirt. It's extremely hard. It's not a loss that society is good at recognising either, which makes it very difficult when you're grieving.

You're entitled to need time to get over this, be gentle with yourself. Anxiety and sadness are inevitable and natural right now, not something you have to try and get over ASAP.

SpeckyB · 04/09/2017 19:24

There is a thread on this conception board called "TTC after pregnancy loss.." which is a good thread to join. They seem a supportive bunch of ladies who have suffered miscarriages and are trying to conceive again.

TurquoiseDress · 04/09/2017 19:57

@Harperbels
So sorry for your loss

Please come and join us on the TTC after miscarriage thread it's a really supportive place and safe environment to have a good old rant too.

I've been on there far longer than I ever imagined I would be and it's been a good source of support through the last 14 months of nothing following a MMC at my dating scan last summer.

You are not alone

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