to start TTC #3???

[kj90]

Hi all, Basically looking for some advice/personal stories.
I have two amazing sons 9&4, but I long for a 3rd but am very apprehensive about going for it. My friends are all having children and it makes me so emotional that I need one more to complete our family! I am completely not bothered about the whole "you need a girl to finish things off" I love my boys and tbh don't know what I'd do with a girl LOL! We both work part time in pretty decent paid jobs that allow us flexibility to have lower childcare costs, and our youngest starts school next year summer 2018. I'm unsure why I am so insistent I need another, I just do! My dh and I have went back and forward, back and forward over this idea for a good 2 years now! We know our DS1 would LOVE a sibling, he wants a sister 😂 But we wonder how DS2 would react, he does absolutely love babies, if he hears one crying or making noise anywhere he is straight over to see and speak to baby, it is very cute. However that being said, our DS2 is quite hard work, he is currently being assessed for high functioning autism, and we worry would he/us manage? Is it like anything in life? You manage to conquer it if you work together/hard enough? We sometimes wonder if a baby in the house would be good for our youngest as they seem to have a calming effect on him? TBH just looking for advice? I'm ready to make an appointment to get my coil removed asap 🙊
Thanks

A baby is going to grow quickly, so thinking that it's going to be a calming influence for another child may be wishful thinking. Plus, having a baby at home all the time is not the same as one you see in the park.

If you and DP want a baby, and feel you could manage, that's the only real consideration. It's possible the next child could also have ASD, which is something you need to factor into your decision.

In my experience, a new sibling for our two DC (one with suspected ASD) has been positive so far, but hard work!

My first child has autism and a learning disability. We already had our second child (not asd) when ds 1 was diagnosed at 2. We waited 5years before having another child as we were worried about having another asd child. In the end we had a healthy daughter who really brought a breath of fresh air to us all. She's brought so much happiness to the house.

I would be inclined to say go for it but this is a decision only you can make. Way up the pros and cons. Hope for the best but be prepared for the worst.

My first child has autism and a learning disability. We already had our second child (not asd) when ds 1 was diagnosed at 2. We waited 5years before having another child as we were worried about having another asd child. In the end we had a healthy daughter who really brought a breath of fresh air to us all. She's brought so much happiness to the house.

I would be inclined to say go for it but this is a decision only you can make. Way up the pros and cons. Hope for the best but be prepared for the worst.