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Emotional crisis - ex husband

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AlexsMum89 · 22/08/2017 18:44

Does anyone have experience of similar situations?

My delightful ex husband has today told me that his new wife is pregnant. Sadly I have to put up with him in my life as we have a DS together.

He left me when our boy was young because he couldn't handle it, he was awful, he said and did really awful things. I can't bear to think about them nearly 5 years later. The thought of him makes me sick and he's been a terrible dad to my boy but I put up with him so my boy still has contact. He's still a rubbish dad to him.

My upset is not related to any feelings for him or my own situation, I'm purely angry that he's having another child after what he's done and continues to do with his first born.

The thought of course has popped into my head that I might end up pregnant at the same time too which is just freakish and a bit pukey. We tried really hard this month lol.

I don't know how to feel or what to do and I don't want my husband to feel bad because my ex is freaking me out so I've not said much to him and he's just chatting away to me about a car he wants to buy.

Help!!!

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BackInTheRoom · 22/08/2017 19:03

No experience.....yet! But might be in your situation soon!!!

There is nothing you can do is there?

AlexsMum89 · 22/08/2017 19:09

I don't think so. I wish there was something I could do to make him pay all the money he owes me and to do right by my son, and even to undo some of the stuff he's done.
But I just have to 'do the right thing' all the time.
I know I have to let it go, but it's so hard seeing him get away with all the bad stuff he's done to me all the time.
I've only just found out so I'm obviously having a bit of a break down now but hopefully I'll feel better soon.
How weird would it be for my son for both his dad and his mum to be separately having babies but at the same time?
I'm not one of those people that can be all nicey nice about it. I always do the right thing by my son but I'm still so angry Sad

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Mrscropley · 22/08/2017 19:11

I wouldn't expect him have a sweetness and light life - it will be tainted with guilt over what a shit df he has been so far. .

AlexsMum89 · 22/08/2017 19:22

I think he thinks he's being a great dad tho. My son has just turned 7, that's a lot of years where he could have changed his behaviour.

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