AIBU to plan TTC around a wedding - WWYD?

[UppityStitch]

I'm currently coming to the end of a TWW which I don't think is going to end well. 2 BFNs at 8 and 10 dpo. Currently cycle day 26 with lots of signs that AF is due soon!

IF we get lucky this cycle my due date would be 2nd May. Next cycle would be 30th May

The thing is my DB is getting married at the other end of the country in the first week of June (no kids wedding and I already have an almost 3 DS who will stay with hotel babysitter). I am not a part of the wedding.

Would you risk it for a biscuit? I'll either have a newborn if he/she is on time or almost ready to drop. Or wait a few months before trying again?

Easiest method of transport is by plane but can do a very expensive train or 7 hour drive. It is very likely I won't get a fit to fly certificate after 28 weeks due to BP issues in previous pregnancy and other medical issues.

I'm desperate for baby #2 but this wedding is bang in the middle. DH said if it comes to it 'don't go' but that isn't an option really.

Help needed please? Hopefully I haven't forgotten anything

I think you're massively overthinking it tbh, you can't guarantee when you'll conceive at all so even worrying about wedding dates/transport etc is irrelevant

Plus putting added stress on yourself thinking through all the possibilities isn't going to help ttc

Ignore the wedding, if you want to try just try

I agree you're overthinking it. We've been TTC for two years, if I planned every event around TTC I'd never get to go to anything.

Right I think you need to slow down OP. There is no guarantee when you will successfully conceive. I would carry on making plans and living life as you usually do until you are pregnant. Also at 8 and 10 DPO it is still quite early to rule yourself out. I think you're massively overthinking here.

How long have you been trying? If this is cycle 1 and you fell very quickly with your first child I can see an argument for waiting a couple of months. If you've been trying a while then I really wouldn't put it on hold for this. I'd also try not to overthink it too much, in either case. I've been trying for over a year now, and when I started thought 'what if it means I can't go to best friend's wedding?'. By the time wedding rolled around we'd been trying ten months and I'd just had a second miscarriage. To be honest, all the time I'd spent imagining being pregnant at that wedding ruined it for me; easier said than done, but try not to do that with your brother's.

Your brother has bad his own newphew from his wedding. He clearly isn't that desperate for you to go.

Thank you all!! Just needed someone to tell me I was being silly. I'm a massive overthinker and have suffered in the past with worry related anxiety. Mentioned this post to DH at his morning and we're going to go with flow and if it happens it happens

@LisaSimpsonsbff So sorry to hear about your miscarriage {hugs}. This is our first cycle and have previously fallen pregnant twice first time although the first pregnancy ended in miscarriage.

@Dina1234 we had a kid free wedding (before DS) so I can't really complain. He doesn't mind DS coming but the Bride 2 be has reservations and is also trying to avoid her sisters' bratty kids coming too. DS is welcome at the reception though, just not the ceremony.