Can we have some happy stories from people who ttc one year plus please?

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Been over a year and I haven't been successful. Both of us are 25 and healthy, no known health problems. Can I have some happy stories please?

TTC for nearly two years. Sperm count normal, all my bloods normal, ultrasound normal, HSG normal. Tried acupuncture, different supplements, giving up caffeine, giving up alcohol, natural cleaning products, organic meat etc etc. During that time I had no pregnancies at all. The month I fell pregnant was the last month before our appointment with a fertility clinic. Can't say we did anything different, was just our month I guess. Am 39 weeks today.

So can anyone tell me how they get through this awful period of uncertainty and waiting?

At the end of last year I was told my contract was not going to be renewed after February (after previously getting a promotion for my good work). I think this was directly down to me having the miscarriages as mat leave really screws up our work as the projects just get left until the person comes back and they are time sensitive. So I was not surprised. I decided to retrain and decided that since it was looking increasingly unlikely I would be getting pregnant I applied to do an HNC in Agriculture as we will eventually be moving to a family farm in Italy and the grounding would be useful (and it would be a fun year off for me and a great distraction). I did comment at the time that I may well be using the Law of Sod to my great benefit as it is a course with lots of heavy lifting, working with pregnant ewes and sows, heavy maintenance work on tractors and other farm machinery and some very long drives as it is a 2 hour commute from where we live. None of those would be possible if I was pregnant. We were going to move house and apply to become foster carers too, the course would have covered the time waiting around for approval after the application went in. So once I was all excited about doing these and really looking forward to it, the inevitable did happen and I got what looks to be a sticky BFP. For me, it was very much having other plans in my life and things to look forward to. Before that point I had hit a bit of a wall mentally. With the first 3 miscarriages there was the hope of a pregnancy and that this might be the one. After that there was the hope that the test would show something up. Then for a while there was just no pregnancy and no clue from the tests. That was when I was at my lowest and that was when I found out about the redundancy (the same week as my dog died). I had a choice then of just giving up on everything, or finding something to look forward to again. Which was what I did. Rebuilding my life with a Plan B in it. I did make it a Plan B which, while not overly compatible with a pregnancy, was at least not a disaster if I got pregnant. Courses can be deferred and we can go back to plan A of fostering when our kids are older if we have any. That did make the difference mentally. Life had a goal and a place to be and it was not the end of the world for us if Plan A was out the window. I could do the course, foster for a few years, then adopt when we felt ready if we got approved. Adoption has always felt like an option for us but not a stable one as there is the worry that you don't get approved and then your last hope is gone. Plus it would have meant postponing moving to Italy for a long time as I couldn't put a child who has been through a lot already, through the upheaval of moving to somewhere with a different language. But it was a feasible Plan C still.

I hope this helps you.

Same as Brenna24 I was holding a positive pregnancy test two weeks after handing in my notice for a job that was incredibly stressful, exhausting and completely destroying my mental health. I had been trying to hang on desperately hoping for a maternity leave but it just wasn't happening.

I used to absolutely hate people telling me to "relax and it will happen". I didn't even have another job to go to, I decided I'd just figure it out, and there was no way I was getting pregnant, so we booked a holiday and I quit. We had to cancel the holiday as I was in hospital with hyperemesis, and three years and two babies later I'm still not working, but we manage.

No amount of "relaxing" will help if there is a medical reason for infertility and it may just be a huge coincidence but in our case it's made all the difference (DC2 was conceived second cycle of trying).

Thanks for all the positive stories, 16 months ttc aged 34 it helps keep me hopeful.

I've now finished my TTC journey. It took me 20 months to conceive DS1. We had no issues and had all the tests. The month I had a laparoscopy and our ivf appt came in, I got pregnant. We had also done a Miriad of 'stuff' - vitamins, pressed, reflexology etc etc. We then immediately started trying again (I was BFing first six months of that) and conceived after 3 months of stopping bf. I then miscarried 3 times on the space of 7/8 months. I am now cluster feeding my 2 day old DS2 knowing my conception journey is over.

I guess my point would be that there was not really any ryhme nor reason to how our journey panned out except that the two boys I have are the two I was always supposed to get and without our journey, they wouldn't be who they are.

I hope that helps. Stay positive (so so so hard) and try to enjoy life until your time hopefully comes xx

Oh and I'm 33 and started TTC at 29 (??) and am otherwise healthy with my bad habits limited to social drinking and coffee. My DH is 12 years older and the same x