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TTC and big age gap

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Thirtymummy · 06/08/2017 22:06

Long story short my DH has out of the blue has decided he wants to try for another baby after 5 years of saying no. I'd kind of resigned myself to the fact that we were/are a family of three. Started to ttc this week but worried about the fact that I am
35 so a high risk pregnancy and there will be a big age gap between our almost 8 year old. Anyone else have a big age gap?

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SecretFreebirther · 06/08/2017 22:08

I older 2 were 7&9 when dc3 was born and it's a lovely gap actually, they both dote on him. He's 3 now and the novelty hasn't worn off yet!

SecretFreebirther · 06/08/2017 22:08

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Berrybakecake1 · 06/08/2017 22:21

Yes! 10.7 years gap.
DP didn't want to try for 2 years, then we dealt with secondary infertility for 6 year. We decided to stop trying and just accept we were a 3 and that was that. Then out of the blue we were pregnant. Ds was 10.7 when DD was born.
The one and only negative is DR had been Velcro baby since day one so my time with ds is unfortunately none existent. We used to do everything together. Dd is getting easier now at 2,so I'm finally making some time for me and ds.
They're both smitten with each other and honestly although its been hard i wouldn't change a thing.

Berrybakecake1 · 06/08/2017 22:22

DR not DR stupid phone

Slinkymalinky1 · 06/08/2017 22:43

10 yr age gab here. Some regrets about not having them closer together. But there are definitely advantages.
Oldest is going to uni in September and it's nice that we have another 10 yrs before the next one goes. (Time to save) Teenagers are bloody expensive! So the cost thing is good. He will babysit now and again, but only when the 8 yr old is tucked up in bed. They still argue though 🙄

Slinkymalinky1 · 06/08/2017 22:47

Negative is that trying to find a day out for all of us was difficult. We tended to do a lot of separate days out. I also missed out on a lot of sporting achievements for my eldest as I was at home with little one, but luckily dh was there for those

Loosemoose28 · 06/08/2017 23:11

35 does not make you high risk.
NICE advises induction for age at 40.

EverythingNow · 07/08/2017 08:14

Yes. I have 9 years between my first and second. The gap due to having first youngish and then remarrying in my mid 20s.

There are definite advantages and disadvantages, like although my eldest for a time wanted to share a room with her younger sibling it wasn't very practical. Then dd3 turned up 17months after dd2 and we had to move house! Also now they're older there was a time when I was taxiing dd1 to parties etc and waiting up for her but getting up at the crack of dawn with dd3.

Advantages I found we were already in a routine for school etc so during the day at least the younger two went along with that. I was able to talk to dd1 and she was a help when they were tiny, I could explain that my attention was on them because they needed things so she wasn't jealous.

The youngest is now 6 and we are trying again, so I would definitely do a big gap again!! Ideally I would've tried when dd3 was about 2 but it took longer than that to agree to it!

Oh and I'm 38!

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