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Dying of boredom and impatience TTC

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Peachy92 · 02/08/2017 15:56

This is only the second month of us TTC and I literally cannot concentrate on anything... Staring blankly at a screen when i'm at work, not wanting to do anything in particular / TV is boring / food is boring. I feel like i'm just going through the motions of daily life, with days and weeks flying in a Groundhog-esque kinda way. I'm just waiting to be pregnant it feels. How's everyone else doing on this waiting train? Sure i'm not alone...

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foxdrops · 02/08/2017 16:30

Oh my god. I'm glad I'm not alone.

I am self employed and done NO work this month. I can't get motivated. Just waiting for something baby related to happen Envy like a zombie.

The poor women who have gone through this months and years on end. Hopefully the anxiety will ease over time.

Whereland · 02/08/2017 16:32

Oh my goodness two months!! I would really try to put it to the back of your mind and get on with day to day life.. it took me 2 years to conceive and I'm healthy with no issues!

foxdrops · 02/08/2017 16:48

@Whereland - did you not find the first couple of months TTC all consuming?

I think the OP just wants reassurance that she is not alone in getting excited and distracted. I get that it takes time, but you can't knock someone on the start of their journey. It's a life changing experience after all!

Karpuzkiz · 02/08/2017 16:58

I'm TTC#2 so I've been there and done it and yet again I'm the same peachy and foxdrops it's all I think about like youve said.

I know a lot of people say when you relax it will happen but it did happen for me whilst it was on my brain 24/7 last time haha! The type of person I am there's no way I can just act like it's not happening! I envy those that can!

I'm in the 2ww at the minute hopefully going to test on the weekend if I can hold out (I suspect I won't be able to though!)

Whereland · 02/08/2017 17:01

I can't say I did, I was excited but knew it would probably take time so just got on with things. It got all consuming at 18 months plus..

curliegirlie · 02/08/2017 17:03

Yeah, it's no fun. I'm 10 months in (my daughter took 16 months, and my hypothyroidism, which I think was the main issue back then, is under control, so I suppose I hoped this time round would be easier). I got a BFP 2 months ago, was really excited and relieved it had only taken 8 months, only for it to turn into a chemical pregnancy. The two months since I've felt especially crazy, biding time, peeing on far too many sticks at ridiculous points in my cycle. Sigh....

TheDeadlineIsFriday · 02/08/2017 17:07

I'm TTC in an ICSI cycle and had 1 embryo transfer back in on 21/7 so nearly at the end of my 2ww. I've tested today with a ClearBlue Digital (it's day 12 after transfer) and got a BFN but will test on Friday with the kit the clinic supplied. I know precisely what you mean about it being all consuming and remaining distracted is hard, but gets easier, honestly. Good luck Smile

loababy · 02/08/2017 17:20

yes @peachy I know exactly what you mean... It took me about 6 months to settle and realise I can't just put my life on hold! Good luck :)

ForeverHopeful21 · 02/08/2017 19:49

Correct me if I'm wrong but I think Whereland is just stating the realistic side to TTC and that you don't want it to consume your life too much when the reality is that it could take a while. Which I think is very good advice.
Some people are lucky enough to conceive in their first few cycles (lets hope that's you) and for some it takes years.

I'm 3+ years now and still on that journey. I try not to let it consume my life anymore as it's not a healthy way to live... but I still get a bit fidgety around the 2ww.

sk1pper · 02/08/2017 21:56

I'm 24 months this month, and I'm pretty chilled. Just chill out and relax, don't put your life on hold because I did that at first and it's a waste of your time and life.

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Peachy92 · 03/08/2017 19:38

Thanks for the replies all, it's such a relief to know it's not just me! I know it could take a while and not even happen at all. I'm sure I'll get used to it and settle down a bit now I know I'm not crazy😊👍I'm sorry to those of you who are going through the same, regardless of where you're all at. It's funny how you spend your whole sexual livelihood trying NOT to get pregnant and then when it's ok to you get so impatient. Good luck to all, will be keeping an eye out for good news! X

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TheDeadlineIsFriday · 04/08/2017 15:05

I tested this morning but it was a fire gone conclusion as I'd started bleeding. A BFN. Got to wait til October now to try a second assisted (ICSI) cycle. Good luck to everyone still on the bus Wink

HolyShmoly · 05/08/2017 22:50

FFS, another week before I even hit my fertile week...

We're not putting our lives on hold and we're actually planning on booking a lovely summer holiday if nothing happens by next April. It's just so annoying when you don't know what the timescale will be and you can't even talk about it IRL.

Bagely · 05/08/2017 22:57

3 year plus here. It got all consuming for us between 6 months and 2 1/2 years. It won't happen naturally for us, one failed round of IVF with ICSI. We're just starting to get out lives back.

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Peachy92 · 14/08/2017 00:52

Oh well she's just turned up bang on time - literally midnight! I guess it's onto another month again but this time I feel more relaxed about just letting nature take its course after reading all your comments :)

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