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When's the best time to get pregnant? Use our interactive ovulation calculator to work out when you're most fertile and most likely to conceive.

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Pregnancy after missed miscarriage

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Kejenkins1308 · 31/07/2017 07:20

Hi, hope I'm posting in the right place?

We had our 12 weeks scan on the 6th of July where it was found that our baby had no heartbeat and I'd had a missed miscarriage. I had two courses of the medical management, which were unsuccessful, meaning I was admitted to the hospital for a d&c.

We've since been trying to conceive again, just wondered how quickly this happened for anyone else who has been in a similar situation to me?

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INeedNewShoes · 31/07/2017 07:25

Sorry that you're going through this.

To give you some hope I had a MMC in May 2016 discovered at 11 weeks and got pregnant again in August and I was conceiving via fertility treatment so fewer opportunities for conceiving than you will have naturally.

My baby arrived safely at the beginning of May so less than a year between MC and baby being born

Good luck!

Ceto · 31/07/2017 07:26

Within three months for me.

Sunshinesaz86 · 31/07/2017 08:34

I also had a MMC in Feb. We didn't try in march but I got my positive last week on cycle 4.

Good luck with your rainbow, it's a tough thing to go through. X

Helbelle75 · 31/07/2017 08:47

So sorry to hear about the mmc.
We were similar to INeedNewShoes. Mmc in May last year, pregnant again in the July and our beautiful daughter was born in April.
Best of luck to you

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Kejenkins1308 · 31/07/2017 17:58

Thank you, it's really encouraging to see it didn't take anyone else too long to conceive again, it was such a horrific experience with being hospitalised for two days too that I'm really nervous about getting pregnant again but it's something we both want so fingers crossed! Did anyone have another MC after?

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PoppyJ1 · 31/07/2017 18:36

Sorry for you loss, OP. It's horrible, particularly at your 12 week scan when you're getting ready to announce.

I had one MMC in January discovered at 6 weeks, stopped growing at 5.5 weeks, so much earlier than your situation. I started TTC again in April and have not got pregnant so far (although fingers crossed in my 2ww now!), despite getting pregnant first time in both my previous pregnancies. Ever since my MMC I have had a shorter luteal phase, which may be affecting things according to my doc. I am also having heavier periods, which many women experience, according to Musmnet and Google.

I have spoken to my doc (a consultant gynaecologist) about not getting pregnant as quickly this time and he said don't worry too much; I set a very high bar in my previous pregnancies!

The good news is, you know you're fertile and you are statistically extremely likely to get pregnant again and have a healthy baby. Especially if you conceive within 3-6 months, according to new research.

emvy · 31/07/2017 19:00

So sorry you're going through this OP.

It took me 2 cycles post mmc to conceive again. However, I lost that one to a natural mc at 6 weeks. Both situations were so different that I'm hoping it'll be third time lucky for us but I guess you just never know. Statistically, you're far more likely to have just been caught by "bad luck" with one or two mc's and will only be investigated after three. I wish you all the best for the future x

Alicely · 31/07/2017 20:24

Sorry to hear this OK I had a missed miscarage with twins about a year ago and am desperate to get pregnant again but having no luck. Keep telling myself it will all be worth It. Nice to know there are other people going through similar things when you can feel so alone. Lots of luck for the future!

TheUnseenAcademic · 31/07/2017 20:33

I had two mmc in a row- both times I waited a couple of months to TTC and conceived about 4/5 months after the miscarriages. I've since had two completely normal pregnancies which have resulted in a now 5yr old and 18month old. After the second one I was convinced there was something wrong but the truth is that it's just extremely common. It's so, so sad though. Please do be kind to yourself.

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Kejenkins1308 · 31/07/2017 20:39

Thank you all - you're right it can feel so lonely and it feels like it only happens to you so it is nice not to feel like it's just me and there's something wrong with me! I got pregnant really really quickly and it was our first so I think I was very naive and just didn't think it would happen to me, my pregnancy was deemed low risk and I'm a healthy weight etc but you're right - it can happen to anyone and is so common, I just didn't realise how common!

Good luck ladies, fingers crossed for you all

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Fia256 · 31/07/2017 21:25

@Kejenkins1308 hi I'm so sorry for your loss. 8 weeks ago now I went for my 20 week scan to find out our little boy had stopped growing at 16 weeks, so also a missed miscarriage, and like you went for medical management

I got my first af 4 weeks later (slightly gutted by that as was hoping to be one of the lucky few that don't get a period again and get bfp instead) and I'm now coming to the end of my first proper cycle and fully expecting af to show tonight or tomorrow due to spotting today and pains!

Sorry I don't have an answer for you but wanted to let you know I'm in the same boat!x

harrietm87 · 31/07/2017 21:42

Hi op I'm so sorry for your loss. I've had 2 mcs this year (and one last). Conceived in Jan, natural mc at 5 weeks in Feb, conceived immediately and then mmc in April (9 weeks but stopped growing at 5.5 weeks). I took May off and started trying again in June, have just conceived again in July so this will be my 4th pregnancy and hoping for my first baby. Apparently you are more fertile after a mc. Fingers crossed for you.

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Kejenkins1308 · 31/07/2017 22:11

Wow - I was definitely very naive - your stories are so sad and I wish you all the best and I'm so sorry for your loss.

I think other people who haven't experienced what we have don't understand how devestating it is, just because our babies weren't born doesn't mean it hurts less! Good luck ladies xx

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PoppyJ1 · 01/08/2017 10:17

OP, I think it's normal in your first pregnancy to just assume it will work out. I did! Miscarriage research and advice refers to what is called "loss of innocence" when it dawns on you that the worst can happen and somewhere a light goes out that's hard to turn back on for a while. This site is wonderful for support, as is the Miscarriage Association. I'm determined to do what I can to be open about this among other women, to help to remove the stigma.

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Kejenkins1308 · 01/08/2017 18:42

Thank you all for your advice! Had some really light bleeding earlier this afternoon but only when I wipe (sorry - tmi!) but it's been 3 weeks since my miscarriage (well, the d&c!) and I haven't bled for 2.5 weeks. Has anyone else had this? I was told 6 weeks for my period so doubt it's that, me and my husband have been having unprotected sex so I did think implantation but I didn't have that with my last pregnancy, what do you guys think?

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emvy · 03/08/2017 17:19

That bleeding sounds normal. I only had a few days between mc bleeding and af with my first mc. I knew it was a period as it just felt different and was actually pretty bang on time bar a few days. With my second, I experienced stop/start mc bleeding with big gaps between. It could be implanation bleeding, it's a possibility, but of course there's no way of knowing that for a while and it would also be unlikely considering the timings. Expect to experience some odd bleeding, odd periods and odd symptoms at odd times for a while. It really is no fun I'm afraid but try to not stress too much. Have a look over at the TTC after MC thread - there a lots of us over there who are continually posting things like this and you learn so much from everyone. It's also a great place to get support from those who know what you're going through x

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