Been TTC for 16 months now booked a holiday and feel so guilty.

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Have holiday booked in mobile home next August. If we don't conceive this month or next month or November then we will have to stop until like February.

I feel like an awful person like time is running out but me and DH need a holiday next year and I could get pregnant in next two cycles but am not holding much hope.

We would need to stop so I would t be due/ heavily pregnant during holiday.

Hope went out the window 4 months ago.

Am I a bad person? I feel excited about booking holiday but also quite down like it's another hurdle.

Relax, just keep trying as normal and cross each bridge as you come to it - it's a potential holiday that's not for another year. Just see what happens :)

Why will you have to stop in Feb? Because it's abroad and flying time limits?

You're allows to have fun and get some relaxation time in.

How old are you?

We would have to stop due to Brittany ferry having a no sailing after 32 weeks policy. We are going in August next year so I had worked out February as starting again but my maths may be out.

Am 28 which I know isn't old but I have older parents. My Mum is 70 and my Dad 69. I know it's silly but I want children before they are too old.

I feel like it's never going to happen. I hate feeling like this all the time.

Getting yourself this worked up will not be helping with TTC. I know it's a tough time (from personal experience) but please just try and relax.
If you get pregnant you can cancel or rearrange nearer the time.

You can get a travel insurance policy that would cover you if you needed to cancel the trip due to falling pregnant. But you would need to buy the policy now.

We have been trying for 2.3 years and have been on 2 foreign holidays in that time and have booked another for next April. We will not stop trying, I will happily cancel any holiday if it means I have a baby.

Done I never thought of it like that. We would only loose deposit. The only thing DH M/D coming with us.

TTC is horrible.

Isn't it sad that you think creating your future children is horrible. What do we do to ourselves!! Bonkers. Go on your holiday, TTC, have it all, you could move the cruise, you could postpone or bring forward. Don't stop living your life. I'm TTC for a year now. We lost at 10 weeks in February. Then went on holiday in June and were going to Madrid in September. I'm still not pregnant again. But if I live each day and month in suspended motion then I will never move forward. And the last thing I want to do is look back on the moments I was making my children as horrible. This is meant to be the fun. Try to have fun. X

Me and DH booked a holiday last year after we'd putting our life on hold whilst TTC. We had frequently been considering booking one but I'd always said, "We shouldn't really because what if I'm pregnant?" and that's how life was.

After 9 failed cycles of trying though we booked a lovely two week trip to Turkey because I realised we couldn't put our life on hold whilst hoping to get pregnant and we had to carry on with our lives as normal.

DH and our DS (aged 3) are currently on the lovely holiday in Turkey whilst I am slumped on the sofa in our living room and 37 weeks pregnant

When I first found out I was pregnant I didn't tell DH for about three days and within 10 minutes of eventually telling him he exclaimed: "What about the bloody holiday?!"

Life has a funny way of working out.

Just life your life and TTC alongside it - what will be, will be.

Good luck

Myself and DH have put holiday plans on hold for next year also. We love travelling to the US almost every year but since getting married last year, everything has been about babies!
We are making our holiday in a few weeks to Orlando our last "big holiday" for a while (and obv can't be pregnant if I want to go on rollercoasters!) knowing that it will definitely be worth it if we are lucky enough to have children.
You have to book these things and de stress and things will work out for you when you least expect it!!
I have my fingers crossed for you in next few cycles!!

Definitely don't cancel the holiday or anything!

TTC is stressful enough without denying yourself life pleasures eg holidays!

Since suffering a MMC last summer, we have now been trying for 1 whole year. In that time we've booked holidays abroad- activities/water sports etc

For me I was almost daring my body to fall pregnant so it would get in the way of our plans- but it wasn't to be.

I would've felt a thousand times worse if we hadn't booked all the things we did over the last year.

Good luck, don't stress too much (easier said than done) you've got age on your side too

I'm pretty sure that ferry companies can change travel dates, up to a year after the original date sometimes... And the mobile home owner might be flexible too if it's for a good reason. Who knows whether you might conceive during those months you're planning to stop trying? Which is more important to you, a holiday or a baby?
I wouldn't even worry about the holiday, it's a year away! If you did get pg & have to change dates/cancel then I expect your PIL's would just be thrilled they had a grandchild on the way.
As a pp said definitely get travel insurance & do it fast. You might even be able to get your deposit back if necessary too.

I was always wary of booking anything for exactly the same reason I understand about not being able to go past a certain point but I don't think I would stop TTC. If and when it happens, then decide what to do.
We have a holiday booked for Friday this week. We TTC'd for almost 18 months and first I was worried I would be too near by due date if I got pregnant (we also have a wedding as part of our trip) then I worried I would be too big to fit in my dress. Then I was worried I would have morning sickness throughout the holiday. Then I decided to chill and just cross that bridge if we came to it. Very fortunately for us, we are crossing that bridge as I'm 11 weeks pregnant.

It's so hard to plan things when there's a big question mark. I eventually realised I couldn't plan my life around something that might never even happen for us, as heartbroken as that made me.

Enjoy the time you have now, when a baby comes (as it undoubtedly will!) then enjoy that period of your life too. DH and I will have been married 4 years by the time baby comes and I'm so thankful that we've had that time together. Don't give up!