Feel ready to try again after MC but scared!

[pommie7]

Hi everyone, I'm just after a bit of advice. I suffered a MC (it all began coming up for two weeks ago now). It was my first pregnancy, I was 8 weeks and I was devastated but I feel like I have grieved and just want to try again now.

On the information sheet I got given from the EPU it says "it is advisable to wait for at least one normal period or when you feel emotionally ready to try again". I feel emotionally ready, and have read messages on here from people saying that you are most fertile after a MC, but also messages from people saying it's better to wait? I just want to give us the best possible chance so I'm really torn on what to do.

I'm also a bit worried as lately my IBS seems to have flared up as I'm always really gassy (sorry TMI ), when I had an internal scan at the EPU the nurse struggled to find my womb at first and she made a comment "Your bowels are going crazy!" I can't help but worry that my bowels had something to do with the MC :-( I think I am going to see my GP and ask the question but does anyone know or have experience of it being affected by this? Just looking for reassurance I guess.

Thank you for listening, it's so nice to have found these boards as only me and my husband knew about the baby and the MC (we had planned to tell our families at 12 weeks) so it's so nice to be able to talk about it and how I'm feeling

Hi Pommie

I'm afraid I don't have any experience of mc but I didn't want to read and run. I'm sure a trip to chat to your GP about things will help out your mind at ease. I doubt your IBS had anything to do with mc and it was unfortunately just bad luck. It's good that you are feeling better emotionally though.

Hopefully someone else will come along and give you some advice x

Hi pommie sorry for your loss.
I had a MMC back in Feb. Didn't try straight away as the pg we lost a was a surprise but in April we decided we did want to try again.
I got my bfp a few days ago so cycle 4, im nervous and excited, but I'm going by the mantra that I have no reason to believe this pregnancy won't work out. The only thing I did differently this month was delete my ovia app and ditch the ovulation sticks and try to relax.

They advise you wait mainly for dating reasons as it's easier to date your next pregnancy if you were to conceive straight away, but if you're ready then no reason why not start straight away.

Also I told a couple of ppl (parents/best friend) before 12 weeks and I'm glad I did as they've been a great support. I know everyone's different in making that decision though.

Go to your GP for advice but I doubt your bowels are connected to it either it's probably that nervousness that can affect your bowels in certain situations.

Good luck trying again. I hope you get your bfp again soon x x

Thank you so much Picklesandpies and Sunshinesaz that definitely makes me feel better about it all. I'm still wondering whether to tell our mums about what happened but I just feel like they will be so disappointed as they're both desperate for us to have children. Maybe next time I get pregnant we will tell them sooner as I think it really would have helped to have that support!

I had a MC in March at 7 weeks, it was my first pregnancy, I am now 13 weeks pregnant and fingers crossed all going well so far although was much more nervous the first few weeks especially, only told DP and my mum.
Only reason they like you to wait until you've had a period is so it's easier to work out EDD as it's harder to guess when you ovulated!
Hope you conceive again soon and that it goes well xx

I definitely think you are right about telling a few select people when you are pregnant again. We are TTC no3 (after quite a big gap) and my DH was keen for us to keep it to just us knowing until 12 weeks but I know I would need my Mum's support if ever anything was to happen. I do understand it's tricky though as you don't want to feel other people are upset by bad news too. The chances are everything will be fine next time around - like PP said there is no reason to believe it won't be x

Hi OP. Sorry to hear about your MC.
I'm in a similar situation, I was either 6 or 7 weeks pregnant (7 based on LMP but 6 based on when I think I caught) and had a mc 2 weeks ago today.
I was really upset and still am gutted but like you on feel like waiting isnt going to help as we desperately want to catch. I also have heard of the whole "most fertile after mc" so we decided to not wait and last night began to "try" again (not used ovulation tests yet though).
The hospital said to me that the waiting one period thing was purely based on so they can date you easier.
My ibs has flared up soo bad since 3 days before I started bleeding. Gassy and diarrhoea every day. It's been under control for about 4 years now with very little need for Meds unlike previously. But this last 2.5 weeks has been a nightmare. It's really odd isn't it?

There is a very supportive and chatty thread on this board called "hopeful twats" for women who are ttc after mc. Hope to see you there and wish you all the best.

Thank you everyone for your replies, it really helps to talk to people in the same situation :-)

WhyTheHeckMe glad it's not just me with the IBS flare up! For the last couple of years it's hardly affected me as I've stuck to a low Fodmap diet which made a huge difference, but suddenly it's like everything's changed! Don't know if it was to do with the pregnancy / MC as it's still the same now. Who knows, bodies are weird lol.

MsJuniper have been lurking on that post too and it's also been really helpful :-)