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Is it really this hard TTC?

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HJ82 · 17/07/2017 13:10

first time trying....Month 7 now... just turned 35. 28 day cycle (always), ovulate at day 14 (even checked that with digi ovu test- got my smiley face) had 20 day progesterone test, scan, bloods, I have a lot of eggs, gyno was very pleased with sperm sample few months back (although DH has been very stressed lately). Been off contraception for 5 years. Everything is in order....everything looks normal. So what's the deal?? Am I just releasing dud eggs? The only test I've not had is the HSG! Going for that on NHS. If that's clear, then what next? Maybe we are in the small number of people who conceive after 18 months? Every month that goes by I get closer to 36... Remaining relaxed though... Anyone else had every test under the sun and tried for ever and ever? Did you get a BFP eventually?

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MouseLove · 17/07/2017 13:47

7 months is still quite early days. Most take up to a year and 98% are pregnant within 2 years. I say if you're doing everything you can diet and exercise wise to keep well, limiting caffeine and stress, just keep at it. As long as you're timing DTD well you'll have a 20% chance every cycle. X

Are you having lots of DTD during your fertile days? (Probably a silly question lol) x

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HJ82 · 17/07/2017 14:12

I know, just a bit deflating when everyone I know fell within 2-3 months. I guess if I was 33 (when we were planning to start- though life got in the way) I wouldn't be feeling so nervous about starting a family and running out of time. We are having lots of DTD not everyday as they say best to store it up a bit. lol. But def every 2nd day. Down to 1 cup of coffee a day. exercise & completely normal BMI.

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Orangedaisy · 17/07/2017 14:15

DD1 (I was 33) took 8-9 months to conceive, DD2 at 36 took 15 months. Cycle like clockwork like yours. Just takes time sometimes. I'd bet you'd be surprised if you talk to people about it, the second I even half breathed to anyone about my frustrations of it taking a while the stories flooded in. Best of luck getting there.

Flashinthepan · 17/07/2017 14:21

Just to say the 'not every day' advice really only applies if your DH has known problems. As he's had good test results there's no reason to think DTD every day is a problem from a sperm quality/quantity perspective.

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HJ82 · 17/07/2017 14:23

oh that's good to know! thanks. I feel bad for Poor DH now that I know this. haha

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sofreakingtired · 17/07/2017 16:45

Hi. I was 35 when DD was conceived and had taken 18 months. Found out a week before I was due an operation to check if tubes were blocked. It can just take time, it's awful waiting but worth it in the end!

Pennywhistle · 17/07/2017 16:51

Under a year is still within normal. If you get to 12 months with no joy, pop off to the GPs.

It took us more than 5 years and we started trying at 27 so your age isn't necessarily at fault. Several of my friends took nine or ten months, it's not uncommon.

It's just an adjustment having been continually told through your teen years that any unprotected sex would automatically result in a pregnancy.

Justwaitingforaline · 17/07/2017 16:57

Don't feel bad. I'm on cycle 10 and I am on paper 'perfect' for baby making ( under 30, BMI of 20, non smoker) as is DP and it just isn't working for us... two more months then I can get it looked into.

It's frustrating, especially when other people just seem to look at a willie and get pregnant,

tarheelbaby · 17/07/2017 17:00

When I was trying for DD1 it took 5 months. I was 34 and had been on the pill for several years. I was just starting to freak a little when things went right. Also, I didn't use any of the lovely tests but did discover that my best time was actually in the first week or so after a period, so several days earlier than 'average'. A neighbour, who was hardly 30 at the time, tried for 10mos before conceiving her first and my sister-in-law (then 34ish) had several unsuccessful months before starting her first. I know others, young and healthy, who have tried for years (one for 3 and one for 5!). My point is, don't despair; because we're all different. Do keep trying but also try not to let it define your life. Most of the successes I've known happened when the lady in question said F--- it, I'm just going to have a great holiday/weekend/party. I know that's a bitter cliché but it's true.

BeanSprout79 · 17/07/2017 17:11

4.5 years to conceive and I'm now 37 and 28.4 weeks pregnant. Good luck.

Anna2006 · 17/07/2017 17:16

I was 26 and conceived first time straight away. Unfortunately we lost that pregnancy at 13 weeks due to it being a blighted ovum.

I thought well we will go again. Likely to fall quick again as we did first time. It took us what felt like at the time 7 very long months before a BFP decided to arrive! It was very frustrating. An I couldn't understand why it just wasn't working like it had before.

Who knows why sometimes it's quick and sometimes it takes longer. It's all completely normal. Even amongst pregnancies with the same couple. Keep at it an you will be rewarded in the end I'm sure!

Good luck!

ForeverHopeful21 · 17/07/2017 17:27

Like everyone else has said, 7 months in nothing to worry about. It's still early days. I completely understand age being a factor, but conception is a funny thing and will probably happen when you least expect it!

It took me 2.5 years to get pregnant (unfortunately ended in MC). My sister got pregnant 'accidentally' with her boyfriend when the condom broke. It sucks but everyone is different.

Easier said than done but try not to stress too much x

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