Early miscarriage

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After 10 month TTC I finally had that exciting moment of my BFP!
Unfortunately it was short lived and a week later I started bleeding. 10 days after the bleeding I had a confirmed early miscarriage.
I am absolutely heartbroken, but trying to stay positive.
Everything happens for a reason, and you've got tho experience the negatives to appreciate the positives and all that.
However I want to start trying again ASAP. But other half doesn't feel the same way. He hasn't taken the miscarriage well, and wants to wait a few months. I'm not saying I want to forget about what happened, but I just want to move on for my own sanity. I've gone back to work for some normality, and he can't understand how I've moved on so quickly. I'm worried that this is just going to cause unnecessary arguments that we're not in the right emotional state to cope with!

I'm so sorry for what you're going through. I had an ectopic last March and DH and I only started trying again in December. I was ready before then but he wasn't. All I can say is that it's important to keep talking, about how you feel and how he feels. But you will need his support, his love his involvement throughout the process, trying to conceive, getting pregnant or not, pregnancy and so on. I completely understand how hard it is to be ready when he's not but in my opinion it's so important that's he's totally invested that I would give him time and maybe look at getting some kind of counselling for you or for both of you if you're struggling to get on the same page.

Really sorry to hear your sad news. I was the same as you after my first m/c - desperate to be pregnant again. I couldn't have coped with waiting.
Physically there's no reason to wait, but if your dp isn't ready, he just isn't ready, He needs a bit of time to grieve. However you might find after a month or so he is prepared to give it another go.
Good luck - I had five m/c in total at different times but have two lovely daughters. Luckily for me I didn't struggle getting pregnant so I just kept on going and rolled with it.

I would say you need to really talk it out, let him know how you feel and listen to his reasoning. Remind him that it could take a few months to conceive again but also I think if it's really hurt him, he may just need a bit of grieving time and want to concentrate on you two. Id give him that, even if it means agreeing on when you will start trying again and then forgetting about I until then.

Thanks everyone for your replies. It turns out he's worried about me getting pregnant this month or next because it means birthdays will be very close to our daughters birthday which will add financial pressure each year! I told him I'd rather have 2 happy healthy children than shower then with expensive gifts each year, and he agreed that it happens when it happens and he's happy to try straight away if I am.
Got my positive ovulation over he weekend, and he was happy to do the deed. So let's just wait and see!!

Just an update. After convincing other half to try again straight away because it could take months again. I got pregnant straight away! Early days so taking it easy hoping this one sticks!

Ahhh congratulations!! That's brilliant news and fingers crossed!! :-D

I had a MC two weeks ago now (I was 8 weeks) and we are going to start trying again. Hubby said he was happy to write this month off as we have lots on, a holiday, a festival etc but I just want to start trying again as who knows how long it'll take this time. It's so great to hear of people becoming pregnant again straight away and keeps me hopeful :-)

Sorry to hear about your miscarriage.
We didn't exactly try straight away as I wasn't sure where I was at with my cycle. Just didn't prevent!
Good luck and hope you get that BFP again soon! Xx