Should I be worried?

[WhiteWingedDove]

So around 18 months ago I came off all contraception as it was making me crazy and had family history of blood clots etc.

My DH and I have used condoms periodically since then (perhaps for the first 6 months) and then nothing. I'll admit we haven't always had sex regularly as I was going through depression and anxiety so my sex drive had been awful (maybe once every 4-6 weeks).

The last couple of months we have been way more sexually active and are kind of hoping for something to happen, without putting pressure on ourselves to TTC.

I'm 27 and have had a miscarriage in the past with a previous partner. I also had an abortion when I was 16. I know I'm able to conceive (or at least have been able to in the past) but DH does have fertility problems in his family (not sure if they're genetic).

I can feel the telltale cramps of my TOTM coming now, despite doing the deed over ovulation this month and having felt non stop nausea for the last 3 days.

Should I be worried that there's been no 'accident' as it were over the last 18 months? When should we see a doctor?

I wouldn't worry about things yet, it sounds like you've only been giving yourself more of a chance to get pregnant for the past few months as before that you were using condoms for a while or having sex irregularly.

I'd recommend doing ovulation testing so you know that you're ovulating and you can keep a note of when you are having sex and when you are ovulating so if anything hasn't happened within a year you have some information to give to your GP. I know that can sometimes then put the pressure on when you decide to actively TTC but I just thought that if I did end up going to the GP because I wasn't getting pregnant I wanted to be able to show them that I had been ovulating and DTD at the right times. As it happens, I did get pregnant within about 6 months.

I think the advice is to see your GP after 12 months if you're under 35 or 6 months if you're over 35. You may want to find out a bit more about your DH's family fertility problems though in case that might warrant further investigation sooner.

Good luck!

Try not to worry it took DH and I 18 months of actively TTC before we conceived. Also, I had a lot of cramping before my BFP so don't rule yourself out!

There's a 20% chance with every cycle if you're being active at the right time. Don't worry that you aren't pregnant yet after only a few months. Many people fall straight away but for the majority it can take up to a year or two. X