Anyone have a dp who is only having a baby for u?

[Mamabooksbabynumber2]

So doesn't do anything he doesn't want to however he has made it clear he is only have second dc for me. Am I the only one in this situation?

@Mamabooksbabynumber2 my partner is only going to be having a baby for me. Otherwise he wouldn't be having one. I no it sounds awful but if it was the case that he refused to have a baby then we wouldn't be together. As it's something I've always wanted.

Ally that makes me feel abit less alone thanks! I wish my dp would be more enthusiastic. He is never one to not be honest but the fact he is ttc with me willingly I think suggests he isnt completely against it

That's what I think too. The only reason my partner isn't too interested in having kids is because he came from a big family and he doesn't want that. Where as I came from a small family so I do want it.

He's softened over the past two years and has slowly realised this is something that I really want. An in order to continue on together it's a natural progression in my eyes. To me it just proves how much he really does love me. An I know he will be a great dad. He's brilliant with children x

I mean this in the nicest way possible but don't be surprised when it gets thrown back in your face at some point.

Everything between the two of you ( each couple) is honky dory at the moment. When your lives have been completely disrupted by a baby, no sleep, money might be tight etc it'll be brought up.

Don't be surprised when the novelty of a new baby has worn off and you are left doing all the childcare and your DH or DP wants his old life back.

I'm not saying it won't work but it's a huge risk.

This didn't happen to me but I know people it did happen to. I think you should listen to what he is telling you.

Maiden this is our second child. We are not blind to what having a baby is like

Maybe not Op, but two is a lot different to one. In fact in some ways the situation is worse, your DP knows what's involved and doesn't want to do it again.

I hope it all works out well though, I really do.

Well likewise Maiden, if the OP doesn't have the baby she wants, she'll be feeling resentful. It's got to be between the couple to compromise.

maiden thank you for your thoughts. I was seeking out anyone on the forum who is in a similar position.

Hi @Mamabooksbabynumber2
Yes I'm in same situ my dh wouldn't have had another dc but I didn't feel complete so he said we can do it again as we will be together forever 🤞 and he wants me to feel
completely for-filled as a mother. Due in oct

Don't worry my husband didn't want ds2 but once he was here he was just as wonderful as with ds1 and he'd never want ds2 to know either. He'd just had enough of the nightmare of small non sleeping children. It kind of got worse before it got better - the chaos I mean but - he loved and loves them both normally and is very hands on.