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Putting stuff off in the hope of getting pregnant

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Mamabooksbabynumber2 · 19/06/2017 15:14

Anyone else been doing this?
I've been waiting to leave my job because I get good mat pay and have decided 'screw it's having waited 5 months to get pregnant plus the first time we were trying last year and I have decided to look for a new job. It means terrible mat pay but I can't put my life on hold much longer.

Maybe worth noting I hate my job...Confused

Anyone else?

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Flashinthepan · 19/06/2017 15:19

Me. I feel like I've been in limbo for over a year. Not wanting to make changes in case I get pregnant, but also not wanting to make changes in case I never get pregnant and then the choices I would make might be different anyway!

physicskate · 19/06/2017 17:27

I changed jobs. Got new job beginning of October, didn't start till end of Feb. Started ttc in April 2016 and saw the new job come up thinking terrible timing. Well, I'm still not pregnant. Qualify for full maternity from next month?

So don't put your life on hold. You'll make due.

Ema098 · 19/06/2017 20:01

I can really relate to this. I too was staying in a job I didn't like just because I was looking to have a family and the benefits it had. However I began to realise that by staying in the job I was putting huge amounts of pressure on myself.
I bit the bullet in April and went for a new job. I feel so much happier and it's had a great effect on my cycle. This month is looking very hopeful, so fingers crossed by being more content at work my body is in a better place too Smile

IndianaMoleWoman · 19/06/2017 20:06

I handed my notice in after two and a half years trying to conceive. I didnt have a job to go to but it was May and the deadline to leave for September (teaching), I figured I'd go on supply if I didn't find a new job.

A week later I found out I was pregnant.

Mrsjones17 · 19/06/2017 20:58

Yes we have done this! Things like booking holidays and then feel let down we didn't go and still not pregnant

Magpie24 · 19/06/2017 22:57

Yes... stopped booking holidays and am also remaining in a trying job because the mat leave pay is very good.

Writerwannabe83 · 20/06/2017 08:29

I did this - didn't go for opportunities for promotion and put off booking any holidays but after 8 failed cycles of TTC I realised that I couldn't put my life on hold any longer.

I applied for a promotion at work and me and DH booked ourself a pretty expensive holiday.

I got a positive pregnancy test the day before my job interview and now I'm too pregnant to go on the holiday so DH and DS are going without me Grin

Typical!!!!

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Mamabooksbabynumber2 · 20/06/2017 08:51

Poo bless you writer! I've got a string of jobs I'm going to apply for over the week. I'm so unhappy at work and have jist stayed for the mat pay and I can't carry on being miserable for much longer. I remember you writer from ttc last year. My name on here was babydances.

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Mamabooksbabynumber2 · 20/06/2017 08:51

Oooo* not Poo!

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Writerwannabe83 · 20/06/2017 08:53

Oh yes, I remember you!!!! Grin

Sorry you still haven't fallen pregnant yet but as another poster said, a change in your circumstances and you being a happier person may well just be the key to that BFP Flowers

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Mamabooksbabynumber2 · 20/06/2017 08:56

Thanks writer . Yes we had a break from about October to February as I had ptsd but now it's jist not happening. I did have a chemical in April however so at least I know I can still get pregnant !

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Mamabooksbabynumber2 · 20/06/2017 08:56

When are you due writer? Huge congrats. Do u know what u r having? Star

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Writerwannabe83 · 20/06/2017 09:06

I'm just under 32 weeks now and due to have my c-section in about 6 weeks.....I'm getting my official date tomorrow when I see my Consultant.

I'm having another boy, which although I was a big meh about at first, I'm now so, so excited!!!!

It wasn't that I didn't want a son but I'd convinced myself it was a girl (my pregnancy has been very different to my sons) so when I was told it was a boy I was taken aback and I struggled to get my head around it. It took about 2-3 days before the "I'm having a boy" excitement kicked in and now I absolutely can't wait. I'm so excited about DS having a brother and I can't imagine it any other way now.

Only my parents and sister know that we're having a boy though and we told everyone else we hadn't found out Smile

It's amusing how many people keep saying, "You're definitely having a girl, I can just tell!" Haha Grin

Pinkemi · 20/06/2017 14:30

I am in the same position.. hate my job but am staying in it because the mat pay is VERY good. I have applied for a transfer in the company and am hoping to hear back soon. Worried that I will get a BFP before getting in to the new role (if they want me) but its not stopping us from TTC. ha!

Solo1 · 20/06/2017 15:07

Me too! I am struggling to move forward with life as we are TTC.
I hated one of my p/t jobs and just couldn't cope any longer so jacked it in...during my notice period my other job offered me more hours so that was fab timing.
The rest is just awful.....

Pinkemi · 21/06/2017 17:25

so I had my interview for this transfer two weeks ago.. They said they should be in contact early this week. :( I have chased via email and left a message on the HR woman's answer phone.. but nothing. I guess I should think I'm not successful. :(

LisaSimpsonsbff · 21/06/2017 18:19

Me, absolutely! When we first started I kept seeing things coming up at work, etc. and thinking 'well, I won't be able to do that because I'll have a baby or at the very least be pregnant...'. 11 months and three miscarriages later, I'm trying to completely exclude TTC from my calculations when making any decisions. I was talking about this with DH the other day (had to make a biggish job decision which potentially makes getting pregnant (and carrying to term) between now and December-ish a problem) and I agree with his logic: 'plan everything as if we won't have a baby. If you give up other opportunities and then we don't have a baby by then that'll make you even sadder. If we do have a baby and everything has to be rearranged it'll be a hassle but we won't give a toss because we'll have a baby.'

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