Just want a rant

[tryingfortwo]

Okay so I'm trying, not ovulation test and temperatures yet but have been just letting nature take its course for about 9 or 10 months. And I wasn't even thinking it had happened this month, and wasn't even bothered at all, until of course my period decided to be late. Its now on day 32 when I should have been about day 29. And the thing is, I know I'm not. But now I can't do anything other than go up and down to the toilet every 20 minutes and talk myself out of the thought that I am. I know its just stress this last week which has put it off. But, I cannot concentrate on anything else now - and I have 3 million things to do and shouldn't be on here.

I hate this feeling. I just wish af would show up and finish this emotional wringer once and all for another flamin month.

God, PMT is bloomin awful.

Is it worth doing a test?

You need something to take your mind off it.
Perhaps one of those 3 million things, or if they are chores, could you do them to the radio?

Hi we have been trying for 7 months and I am the same as you. Last month I was 5 days late and I did 2 pregnancy tests in them days. It is not a nice feeling, hopefully it will happen for both of us soon

i ended up using anovulation kit after i lost my first babe.
it just took the stress out of it all.

i remember on 'the morning' dh was late for work andi had just done the test ans i told him 'it's time' 'what now?' 'yes right now!'

ds1 was the result!

I know Elasticwoman I'm pathetic. I have an ironing which is in danger of taking over my dining room and hoovering and cleaning etc etc. Nothing much worth doing.

Sidey and Beansprout I will not test until there is no way that it could be a late period. I went a bit test crazy in the first few months and so made a rule with myself not to test unless I'm over a week late. I haven't been over a week late so far so I should be okay.

I have no symptoms, none at all. I'm getting af style cramps.

the only thing which is making me think is that I was getting spoting, very very light spotting last Wed and Thurs and was sure I was going to get it early and then here I am still nothing and getting cramps and feelings like my af is here for the last 2 days, to the point I've gone to the toilet with the tampax in hand a few times.

Arrghghghghgh, I promised I wasn't going to get like this again. I hate this obsessing!!!!

Right, I'm switching off and going to do some ironing. Who am I kidding, I'm away back up to the toilet.

I admire your resolve! Hope you get the result you want when you do test

If there's nothing you want to hear on the radio, try an audiobook while ironing. I avoid tv as I end up ironing my arm!

Aren't those pg test kits just a massive waste of money? They don't help you get pg, just make you obsess about it. If you are pg you'll find out soon enough. If you're not, it won't make AF come any quicker for you to try again next month. And negative results can be wrong of course.

If you're getting what feel like menstrual cramps, I recommend you get out for some fresh air and exercise (if it's not hailing and blowing a gale like it did here today). Or put some music on and dance or sing with the hoover till you collapse with exhaustion. Seduce dh tonight - quick before AF comes and you might not feel like it, or before you get pg and might not feel like it either.

Good advice. Finished my ironing while watching telly. Had every intention of going out a long run but friend popped in for quick chat and only just left. Still no sign of af but I'm still getting cramps. Anyway, there is no point going over symptoms or non symptoms as they could all mean the same thing, pregnant or not pregnant.

I've got some work to do tonight and then I'm in at work tomorrow so hopefully by the end of the day af has arrived and the obsession can subside for another 4 weeks.

well still no sign of af and i've been up since about half 4 with my dd teeth and an awful pain in my back and just feeling yuck. I think I'm just gonna give in and get myself a test. i just hate the negative test, I'd rather just get my af but at this rate I'm gonna be an emotional wreck if I don't find out for certain soon.

well after spending some time lurking in the hut of doom this afternoon I understand I should have been in there to start with. What a great hut, wish I knew of its existence before now. however, hopefully for the next 9 months I will not be needing it. I gave in and got a test this evening and got a BFP. I can't believe it, had no symptoms up until today, just presumed it was another no month. Anyway, I've been a lurker most of my mumsnet career so i'm sure none of you are interested. But, I had been posting here simply for my own sanity and for sake of completeness thought I'd add this too.

Wow - Congratulations trying! Fantastic news -Glad you got some comfortfrom lurking in the Hut - it is my pessimistic spiritual home! I am really for you (and also a bit too!!)

Hope the next 9 months are great. Good Luck

Fantastic. Great news. I'm a part-time lurker too but a fellow visitor to the hut. Enjoy and have a happy 8 remaining months, tryingfortwo.

Thanks so much. I think I'll continue to lurk in the hut just for the chat, its excellent, its like honest chat among real good friends, was nodding my head or laughing or crying throughout, just brilliant. perfect woman's or is that girl's forum - whatever, I just love it. Mumsnet is just soooo good.

I've only just seen this thread but as soon as you posted about the 'af style cramps' I knew you were! Congratulations!

that is absolutely great news

Am confused. What's this hut you're talking about.

And congratulations!

the ttc hut of doom i think

Great news! Congratulations

Was very pleased and surprised by the happy ending to your thread!

hi tryingfortwo, congratulations I am really happy for you. Hopefully it will be me next month

Thanks again everyone. Good luck to you all.