Want to start TTC again after a M/C, but scared of losing another one...

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It's been 3 weeks since I lost my baby at 15 weeks.

I'm impatiently waiting on the return of my period, but at the same time, I'm a bundle of nerves of losing another baby, not that it would be easy to become pregnant a second time, that is.

In fact, my other half will be away working and visiting two days or so every month. Talk about luck.

Sometimes I wonder whether wanting a baby is too much to ask for. I have all this love to share, but no one to shower it on. I'm in pieces.

Is it worth me getting OPKs and performing BBT checks and all of that good stuff? Maybe it'll just sign me up for disappointment when I know I'm ovulating and OH isn't there or can't make it.

I am truly sorry for your loss, and the fear that you may lose another is completely understandable. I went through similar fears when I MC last September. It might be helpful to think about evidence and statistics, 1 in 4 pregnancies result in MC and most women who experience an MC will go on to have healthy babies. Above all remember that there is usually no determinable cause for a MC, it is nothing that you have done wrong. If you are truly worried then absolutely see a fertility specialist, unfortunately this will probably have to be done privately as the NHS will not usually perform these examinations until after 3 MCs. Of course your experience and how you cope with your loss is absolutely your own decision, but consider taking some time to look after yourself, whatever this might mean for you. You are not alone, and this is a wonderful community of supportive people, take advantage of this fantastic resource to help you in this difficult time.

Thank you for your comforting words, Holiday. I honestly really do appreciate it.

Wishing you the best of luck. You'll have a much closer eye (professionals) on you next time due to your mc x

Oh you poor thing, I'm so sorry to hear that. How awful. It was so recent, it must still feel very raw. Of course it's up to you, but I think you might need a little time to allow yourself to grieve and come to terms with it before trying again. That way a little bit of the pain might have lessened, and a little bit of the fear might have gone too. I felt the same after mine, that mixture of not wanting to wait, but not really being ready. Would you give yourself a month or two and then start again when you're feeling a little stronger?

I feel the same after my recent mc... First period over with now, waiting to ovulate. DH is talking about another baby, but I'm so afraid it's just not going to happen. Or that we'll have another loss.
I've never done all the TTC stuff, so I don't want to become obsessed with all of that. But, I keep seeing older pregnant women everywhere, so that's heartening. All I have to do is get in the mood to do it now!

Also in the same boat waiting for AF to appear. It's rubbish isn't it. One minute I'm desperate to try again and the next I'm petrified of it. I'm just doing everything I can to keep healthy and fit so if it was to happen again (hopefully not) I know I've done all I can

Yeah i'm on my 2nd AF now since mc. Wanted to wait to try again as wasn't really ready. So in a few days will be back at it again. Juno, same here, trying to get fit and healthy in the meantime.